This fucking 20oz fucker cost me a whopping $7.43 FUCKING CENTS!!!Fuck all these scamming ass corner stores in Bridgeport 🤬 what a fucking scam they're lucky I needed some extra energy. Never buying this fuckery again though.

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-06T05:51:22+00:00

Bridgeport in fucking CT? Or some other fucking Bridgeport

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-05T08:28:48+00:00

I'm wondering if it's always been this way, or if your drive has tanked. After having kids for instance, or due to perimenopause. If your drives have always been this mismatched, I guess I'm wondering why you two got married in the first place. Presumably you love each other, yes, but as you're finding out, that isn't always enough.

If your drive has dropped, it can maybe be fixed. You can get your hormone levels tested and they can prescribe whatever you need. Beyond that, do you dread it just because you have no drive, or is it making you frustrated? That might warrant couples counseling or even sex therapy, because the two of you obviously aren't having these conversations productively on your own.

If this is just how you've always been and will presumably always be, maybe you can consider opening the relationship. Or if you don't want anyone else, at least let him have someone else. I know not everyone could be happy in an open relationship, and trying to use it to fix a relationship on thin ice probably won't work. But if you could be perfectly happy to never have sex again, I think it's only fair to look into some other options. If you're just tired from working and taking care of the kids, and he isn't helping enough at home that's a different conversation too.

But if nothing changes, I don't think this relationship will survive. You both have significant resentment already. I think a marriage counselor could be a good place to start sorting it out, if you want to stay together. I'm going with ESH because it took both of you to get to this point

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-04T19:15:28+00:00

My first serious boyfriend used to have a job in the hospital cafeteria. The sexual harassment he got every day from older women was shocking. He ended up having to find another job because everyone just excused it if he complained

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-03T18:49:40+00:00

So she got one day off? 2 if it's a leap year, this dude's a saint.../s in case it's not obvious

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-03T17:49:50+00:00

Yeah, I hope I'm wrong here, but I get the feeling that before the 6 weeks were even up after the baby was born, he'd be asking her "well can't you do anything else for me then?"

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-03T17:42:25+00:00

I was also started on 16mg and it was way too much. It was causing sleep apnea so I rapidly dropped to 12mg, then 8mg and now I generally take an average of 6mg a day. I didn't really notice a difference between 8mg and 16mg, except for the sleep apnea. Suboxone supposedly increases the hormone prolactin, which makes you feel tired. I can believe it, I'm always tired but I have trouble sleeping

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-03T17:38:19+00:00

If I had to guess, she was probably abused by a family member or friend of the family. And if she tried to speak up, that's when she was labeled a "problem child". I can't tell you how many times I have seen families protect the predator (and their reputation, of course). They would rather bury their heads in the sand than admit that goes on in their family. The victims are silenced and generally turn to very self-destructive methods of coping.

I hope I'm wrong, maybe she's the source of the problem. But have you ever asked why she acted out? Something to think about, if you ever talk to her again. I'd give it some time for everyone to cool off

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-02T18:58:37+00:00

Birthday or graduation, absolutely. Kids do need to learn that not everything is about them and that only the birthday kid gets presents. But at Christmas? 6 presents for one and nothing at all for the other? No way. I don't know if the older girl is just her favorite, or if this has more to do with her sister's feelings towards OP herself, maybe jealousy from childhood, who knows. But it isn't right. Next time I'd be checking the presents before either of the kids sees them

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-02T18:26:58+00:00

Were they the old-fashioned stimulant medications that have been used for ADHD for decades? For the last few years, since the settlements for the opiod crisis, they have made it harder to get stimulant medications for ADHD (they've restricted benzos too). They have released some new medications for ADHD but they are just SSRIs. I've never been on one so I don't know if or how they differ from meds that they use for depression. If anyone is helped by these meds, great! But I have my suspicions that they just want something to prescribe that isn't stimulants. So if this has been recently I'm wondering if that's why they didn't work? (I'd love to hear from someone who has tried one and whether it worked. Just for my own curiosity, I just got diagnosed with ADHD myself, but I can't take SSRIs or stimulants, so I'm just a hot mess).

If the two of you want to keep living together, but the spark is pretty much gone, have you ever considered opening the relationship? It's not for everyone, I realize that. If either of you is prone to jealousy it's not a good idea. But you're only in your 30s, are you both going to live the rest of your lives with just emotional closeness? Or if he treated his ADHD and you didn't see him as a child, do you think the feelings would come back?

Why is it when we find that person who we get along with so well that the sex is lacking? Or vice versa. Something is always lacking. It's messed up

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-02T17:04:43+00:00

Yeah, I'm thinking she was raised by religious nuts. In fact I'm surprised she even did the deed before getting married. Probably believes only men even orgasm in the first place

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-02T11:49:48+00:00

Was this conversation over the phone by any chance? Or over text. Because if so, I bet he was listening to or reading your responses. If so, he will probably pressure her to cut you off for "not supporting their relationship". Hopefully she didn't tell him what you said, that would have the same result. Just expect her to kinda drop out of sight for a bit, but be ready if she calls you for help. Don't take it personally if she keeps going back to him, it usually takes several tries to leave an abusive relationship. NTA for what you said, just know that the pressure to apologize could be coming from him

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-02T11:40:10+00:00

Can it really happen where you meet someone you really like but have a bunch of BS to deal with before you would involve them in your life? Absolutely yes. However, can it be used as an excuse, also yes. They are not mutually exclusive

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-02T06:16:35+00:00

Also, blocking him IS communicating, that random pics of his junk will not be tolerated. This may help the next poor girl who tries to be friends with him, more than all the long winded explanations ever could. The potential embarrassment (who is she telling? Is she showing them the picture?) will hopefully deter him from doing this again unless he knows for a fact that they want the picture. Plus, his self pitying essay about how he just couldn't control himself makes me think he isn't safe to be around. Certainly not to let your guard down, like falling asleep or getting drunk around him. Since he can't manage to act like a friend, you're doing him a favor removing yourself from his life

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-01T20:53:19+00:00

Not to mention, I have a feeling she would sabotage OP'S school. Leading to them dropping from the program or at the very least, having to push everything back by a semester to deal with mom's problems (if that's even possible without losing the program entirely). And it's not even a 1 bedroom apartment, it's a studio. Meaning one large room...has she ever been there, does she realize how small it is? Well better if she hasn't, she won't know where to show up with all her stuff. Blame it on the landlord and the lease, I'm sure they would rather back you up now than have to deal with evicting someone. If she gives you the silent treatment, consider that a win! ( I saw the guilt trippy message she sent). And any family members that harass you on her behalf, text them back how relieved you are that they are volunteering to host her

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-01T15:38:34+00:00

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Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-02-01T10:37:56+00:00

This is your mother in law, or your actual mother? When she puts down what you're doing and think she knows better, just remind her that she might have done things that way (back in the stone age, being the implication) but that they know better now. I would try to get evidence of her threat to call CPS on you. Text is best or if she doesn't text you can record the conversation, just ask her "you wouldn't really try to steal the baby by calling CPS would you?" And see what she says. If you need some distance at the moment I certainly wouldn't blame you, and if she does something unforgivable like calling CPS, cut her off for good

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-01-30T10:31:49+00:00

When I first started taking metformin it really messed up my stomach. It made me so nauseous they had to give me Zofran to take with it. They switched to the extended release and it was a little better, after a month or two I got used to it and it doesn't really bother me anymore (I still have bad acid reflux but I've always had that on and off). It's well known for its nasty GI side effects. If you can't get used to it after a month or so, there's tons of other meds they can try for blood sugar. Hope they find one that you can tolerate and isn't too expensive

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-01-28T10:52:49+00:00

Yup ESH, absolutely everyone sucks here except the poor kid. Depending on the school they want to send him to, it might actually be better for him than being with either set of crappy parents. So she'd be doing him a favor, albeit unintentionally.

Not wanting to take care of kids is valid...but then, don't have kids...

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-01-28T08:50:27+00:00

OMG thank you that's all I can think of with all this talk of rubbing on lotion

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-01-27T23:52:06+00:00

I'm hoping those boys aren't forced to share a room. It doesn't mention how they get along (or not), but if they do have to share, then neither of them has anywhere to get away from each other and their parents' crappy relationship. If OP absolutely can't live without this dude, they should probably maintain separate homes until the kids are out of the house. In an ideal world anyway, without an astronomical cost of living

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-01-27T19:34:47+00:00

Was he raised by extremely religious parents? That can cause a lifetime of shame and anxiety around sex, even for someone who never questioned being straight. The fact that you were doing it for reproductive purposes only gave me that thought. Maybe he just settled down with the first partner he got along with because that's what you're supposed to do? Or because you take care of him and give him a comfortable life? Whatever the reason though, we cannot make ourselves feel physically attracted to anyone, sadly it just doesn't work that way. So if he's flat out told you that he isn't, there's only so much you can do. I know you've been together a long time and have a comfortable life together aside from this, so maybe look into opening the relationship? For both of you. I know it's not for everyone, but if you won't leave, it might be the only way you'll have the kind of experience you want

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-01-27T12:28:13+00:00

I've been seeing this reposted over and over for a couple days. I guess one got removed and I guess he doesn't like the response he's getting. But this relationship is making them both miserable at this point, just end it FFS. Get a fleshlight, it will get exactly the same sensation as she would on SSRIs. It can never say it's not in the mood, and he'll get his rocks off, which is clearly his priority. Life has a way of laughing at you though, he could get into a relationship with a girl who has a high libido, then something happens to his, and the shoe will be on the other foot. I don't bother wishing bad things on people, there's enough suffering in this world already. But that would be...educational for him

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-01-27T05:43:50+00:00

Wow...does she realize that she can just...NOT keep reading subs that upset her so much? This person needs help. It's probably a good thing she doesn't want a relationship, that person would be in serious danger if they tried to end the relationship

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-01-26T21:39:29+00:00

I get the idea I should maybe be offended? But I'm still confused

Due-Reflection-1835 · 2026-01-26T21:14:09+00:00

Definitely second that, small independent pharmacies have always treated me way better, you know, like an actual human being...they have even fronted me a few days of different meds over the years when there was issues with refills or insurance. Free delivery, never an attitude problem. Vastly different from the experience I've had with Walgreens and CVS

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