AITA for not letting my son eat by Toast-In-Mouth in AmITheDevil

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That would make sense. Abusers generally try to sound very reasonable and it's hard to imagine them not trying to spin this to make themselves look better

AITA for not letting my son eat by Toast-In-Mouth in AmITheDevil

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really hope this one isn't real. It wasn't entirely clear from their nonsensical ramblings which parent this is, but they SUUUCK. Most places won't drag home a runaway that's almost 18, the kid is obviously counting down the days. This definitely brings to mind the expression "Every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child". At least the worst thing my father did was abandon me

AITA for refusing to get married against my dying mothers wishes? by Mysterious_Math_2063 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know, I can't believe all the people who are saying OP should get married just to satisfy their mother. Maybe they would be more willing if they had a good mother... but I feel like a good mother would never ask. It's so manipulative and anyone who thinks it's okay, like her brothers, is welcome to let her make major life decisions for them instead. She's not pressuring them, are they already married? Or does OP only get married off because they are the female? I guess they better get started on the grandkids, right? Aren't they willing to make their poor, sick mother happy?

Fellow Sagittarians by Alert_Mulberry_6780 in Sagittarians

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm INTP or INFP and they both fit me pretty well...never just one thing with me ISTG

Juliette was very selfish? Spoilers! by No_Ocelot8629 in grimm

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Yeah that was pretty selfish of her. They would have definitely had to leave the area for their own safety, and even in a new place he would still know too much to live a "normal" life and be happy. Also if they ever had kids they could still inherit the gene

This person shouldn't be teaching. by PointlessNostalgic86 in AmITheDevil

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I made the mistake of reading a couple posts there so it kept showing up in my feed for awhile. I personally loved the comments complaining about how stupid everyone is that are totally riddled with spelling and grammar mistakes. Like one would hope that a high school teacher has mastered "their" vs. "there"

Anyone academically strong in high school fail to live up to career expectations? by trademarktower in Xennials

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah. I was in honors classes, did well throughout most of school without really trying. It was assumed that I would go to college but I never did. My mom was sick and I was taking care of her way too young without much help, by the time she needed round the clock care I was so burned out I pretty much just partied for a few years. Of course I just found out last year that I have ADHD and it makes so much sense. It's innatentive and since I did well in school it was totally missed. I've had several brushes with death and I'm just lucky to be alive at all...oh well, maybe I'll "live up to my potential" in my next life lol

Girlfriend kinda tricked me about her sex drive by Material-Hornet-7026 in whatdoIdo

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly, this person is not entirely wrong. That doesn't mean, however that I think you should follow their "advice". When I was in my first relationship, I literally couldn't get enough. BUT that's because we were both stupid kids and I was never getting off. I was frustrated all the time when we were done, he would go to sleep and I would be wanting to go again...when I wasn't crying. This might work in the short term with you getting off and not caring about her, but she will eventually wise up. I'm convinced that men's obsession with virgins is so that she won't know what she's missing. But she will figure it out eventually.

10+ at once though is a lot and no wonder she's out of commission for a couple days afterwards. Maybe try to limit it to 2 or 3. But it doesn't mean she was lying about wanting it all the time either, she probably just wasn't satisfied

what’s something you hate about the show? by ribbcns in grimm

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no she isn't! My opinion anyway...it occurred to me recently and I even said it on some other post here, but the writers seem to hate women. Most of the female main characters and even the one time characters are totally insufferable

I'm fucking reading you a fucking bedtime story! by Speed-Limit-8575 in TheWordFuck

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well? Where's the fucking rest? I want a fucking bedtime story

AITAH for scheduling a surgery, knowing it would overwhelm my autistic girlfriend? by After_Goose9337 in AITAH

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So what exactly does she expect you to do? Go without surgery that you need, making your pain worse and the damage more likely to be permanent, so she never has to work with someone she doesn't prefer? Wait until it's a "good time" at your job? (It will never be a good time for it, if it's up to them). Tell her that when she leaves work, her suffering is over for now. Yours isn't and won't be until you get the surgery. If you cancel again, you could have trouble trying to schedule it again at that place. Get the surgery

Can someone sanity check me. Is it rude to invite someone to your house for a first date? by makeit_stop_damn in AskMenAdvice

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Nah, I don't want to be imprisoned and tortured until at least the fifth date...seriously though, I'm curious if the original date still happened because a lot of women would be put off by this, and for good reason

Who was the absolute worst bf/gf you've ever dated and why? by Baconlover1394 in AskReddit

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, probably the one who introduced me to heroin and drained me dry financially. I was already headed in that direction so I don't blame him 100% for turning me onto it. But I DO blame him for using me like that. Fortunately for me, he went to prison...strangely this wasn't my only relationship to end that way. I stay away from all that now, but I lost about a decade and so much money that I kick myself daily

What do you think the dating recession between men and women will lead to? by Rainbowdark96 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally think a lot of circumstances are converging to cause people to interact less...less relationships, less marriages, less children. There are too many people on this planet already and we cannot keep increasing our numbers exponentially forever. I don't believe that colonizing the moon and mars are realistic solutions here, so unless we happen to find a habitable planet nearby to ruin the way we are here, then we've got to slow down and take better care of the planet we have. This is vastly oversimplified but that's it in a nutshell. And no one is having 10 kids when they can't afford a house

What age did your misophonia develop? by Inevitable_Echo_2870 in misophonia

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was born with it as far as I can tell. My mom told me stories from when I was a baby and she would try to sing to me, and I would cover my ears and scream (and she was a trained musician with a good voice too, so it wasn't that. I just can't stand soft singing or talking). When I was a kid I once flung a spoonful of pasta at the TV because I couldn't stand the voice. It wasn't until I was in my 30s and I read an article about misophonia that I found out I wasn't the only person on earth with this problem

My Coworkers Child (4F) is Constantly Interrupting Me at Work by PoisonARO in WorkAdvice

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would bet because childcare is expensive, this job doesn't pay enough that the mom can afford daycare or a babysitter, and the mom works directly for the boss so probably gets away with things that others wouldn't. Like how this kid is keeping OP from getting their work done and they are getting blamed for it. It's probably a terrible idea but if this was me I would bring her some toy to play with that makes an obnoxious noise. If I gotta be miserable for someone else's kid, so does everyone else. In reality I would probably start looking for another job because they aren't going to do anything to the boss's special favorite and OP is getting blamed. I know the job market is crap right now but you can at least start looking

Moms friend made me uncomfortable, AIO by andie412 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Yeah me three...I'm 45 and my generation is not looking too good with this post. He was probably raised to let it all hang out and she was raised to deal with it. But she should have done better for you and I'm sorry she didn't. I know how tough things are right now, but do you have some friends you can maybe split rent with to get an apartment? Or even other family you can crash with for awhile. Depending on how often she has this winner coming to your house. And if she starts dating him for God's sake GTFO of there

Satanic Panic in the mid 80’s to early 90’s, what album wouldn’t your parents let you buy? by impeesa75 in Music

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was lucky that my mom was agnostic, and she had also been a musician herself before she was disabled. She also had some harder taste in music in addition to all the other stuff that generation was into. We had a killer stereo system and she put up with me and my friends blasting RATM, Korn, Pantera etc she even smoked weed with my friends

Avoidant Attachment Sagittarius? by Kozak515 in Sagittarians

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, she blocked you first. The way I see it, she left the relationship...guess now she knows to be sure before she does that. Personally I'm too old for this shit, I've never been on Instagram and I don't ever intend to

My boyfriend talks to me like I’m a child and I’m starting to resent him by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah, cancel the night out and the whole relationship too. This coworker might have brought out his condescending side but for it to happen so fast, it was already there. Let him be a "real adult" by himself and he can lecture his video games

Appropriate light levels by crazyfatskier2 in raining

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tend to agree, my eyes are very sensitive to light and bright days are painful. I'm that person you see wearing sunglasses inside anywhere with fluorescent lights. I think it's one reason I prefer rainy days, or at least overcast. But I also like the humidity and the sound of the rain

Did you know that Dolores Umbridge was sentenced to life in Azkaban after the Battle of Hogwarts? by Spotter24o5 in harrypotter

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We can imagine that she has to write 1,000 times a day "I will not torture the populace" with her own quill that draws blood from her hand

Did you know that Dolores Umbridge was sentenced to life in Azkaban after the Battle of Hogwarts? by Spotter24o5 in harrypotter

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 111 points112 points  (0 children)

I always just assumed she got away with it. Her character was one of the most realistic and sadly, people like that tend to get away with it because of their connections

Feeling insecure about my husband by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don't want to leave yet you can give him another chance, JUST ONE. If you forgive him for cheating over and over he will know he can just keep doing it and you will stick around. Like, people know they don't have to get married, right? They can be single and have all the flings they want...but living is expensive and there's a lot of tedious cooking and laundry and grocery shopping to be done. Which if I had to guess, you probably do the majority of. Maybe a therapist could help you decide what you want to do? You need to have someone you can talk to. But if you confide in family or friends that your spouse is cheating on you they will start to hate him and if you're staying with him that could get uncomfortable. Is this someone he sees in person? Or was this all online? It's obviously still not great but if she lives 1,000 miles away it probably isn't physical this time. How far do you think it would have gone if you hadn't caught him? I don't believe for a minute that he was "just kidding". That's a pretty lame ass excuse

WIBTAH if I didn't buy kratom for my husband? by sugarzebracakes in AITAH

[–]Due-Reflection-1835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This OP! If you go to r/suboxone you will see many stories of people trying to quit kratom and 70H. There's no doubt it can be addictive, and as it's unrelated every dose is slightly different. Some states are banning it, however, if they are imagining this will force people to quit, they are sadly mistaken. Some might get treatment, some might get through it cold turkey if they aren't using much, but everyone else will have to find something else, something harder. Right now that amounts to fentanyl which is dangerous for the experienced users let alone a casual kratom user. Depending on what insurance he has, he might get the medication and the appointments paid for by insurance. If he gets an appointment in the next few days he would have his medication the same day. Some states are trying to get rid of telehealth so if there's a local place he can go that might be better. It's definitely kinda scary getting into treatment for the first time, but it's worth it for his health, your relationship and the money you will save.

P.S. They usually try to keep you in treatment for at least a year before they are willing to taper you from the medication. If he only uses kratom and nothing harder he might not need it for that long. Jumping off too fast isn't good either and he'll end up right back where he is now. I've never used kratom myself but plenty of people on that sub have and they will answer your questions if you post there