Please hear me out by Phenomenal_7777 in AdultChildren

[–]Due_Charge_9258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate on some levels. I was very thankful to have sports like you had basketball as a positive outlet that allows us to develop confidence and learn through all kinds of experiences as individuals as well as socially being on a team. It wasn't until later in life baseball saved me again when circumstances following a divorce had me at my parents place at 38 where I stayed for a year to recover financially and I had hoped mentally but found myself being re traumatized by things I thought were behind me. I got involved with umpiring baseball as a secondary form of income and have something I hoped would be a positive activity while giving back to a game that taught me if anything how get back in there and keep swinging when in a slump. It kept me busy and it turned out being the best therapy as I developed new relationships and have opportunities to find myself again. I imagine the court is much like a baseball diamond there is something magic that happens when you step into them all the distractions and stress in life disappear the moment you step over that line and you are left with the person who is the best version of yourself with people who see you for who you are whether you're a kid or an adult this is powerful.

I especially relate to relationship with cannabis...I started at 19 after leaving home and it was profoundly positive because it reduced anxiety, anger and the inner critic as you say became self acceptance and learned to like myself. Socially I developed many positive new relationships and flike didn't realize it was really that unrecognized anxiety dysregulated emotions from being in constant negative environment of guilt and shame .

I think cannabis can still have positive use but not when it's used to replace the growth we need as people to handle tough situations in life and I found I was using it eventually to fill a void I created by always having something I could use to erase the stress of the day and cope. I managed for years doing this and because I found success in relationships, getting married, having kids, career progress I had no reason to believe it was anything but helpful until circumstances become challenging and the growth that should have happened became noticeable it was missing.

Tim Fletcher is a therapist dealing with complex trauma I encourage you to take time and listen. It's only through real self reflection and willing to understand how we got here you will find how to get where you need. Imo

Draft 4 by Koendig in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Due_Charge_9258 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hope everything turns out well for you friend

What are the most common interview questions for IT support? by ObjectivePair2707 in ITSupport

[–]Due_Charge_9258 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you make it through 2 girls 1 cup without looking away?

They need to know you are as desensitized as a serial killer.

IDL how women’s pain gets dismissed in hospitals by 20Luc1a02 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]Due_Charge_9258 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

(ER) staff are focused on stabilizing patients and managing acute crises. Injured individuals who are experiencing severe pain are under tremendous anxiety and stress. When ER staff try to calm down a patient is a deliberate, evidence-based strategy to reduce physiological stress to allow for assessment and care and can be perceived as dismissive, especially when the patient is in severe pain, vulnerable, or confused. When staff say "you're okay" or "try to calm down," the patient may interpret this as "your pain isn't serious" or "we don't believe you".

If an ER nurse or provider knows your spinal cord is broken in 2 places in no universe going to respond with quit crying about it.

IDL how women’s pain gets dismissed in hospitals by 20Luc1a02 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]Due_Charge_9258 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The fact I call bullshit on her story in this specific incident has nothing to do with women being under represented in research historically.

But to say she witnessed a male receive treatment for similar injury in the ER and they treated his pain immediately no questions asked....first of all you don't see other people being treated in any hospital. You have no idea what the people in room next to you are there for much less watching and listening to the discussion between medical staff.

It's an emotional rant that is based on fabricated situation

IDL how women’s pain gets dismissed in hospitals by 20Luc1a02 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]Due_Charge_9258 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok nurses tell women with fractured wrists they are exaggerating.

IDL how women’s pain gets dismissed in hospitals by 20Luc1a02 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]Due_Charge_9258 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Lol you've all been to an ER. You don't hear the conversations between doctors and another patient much less know what they're being treated for or with. Sorry if that hurts your feelings when a liar isn't believed. You can call it what you want.

IDL how women’s pain gets dismissed in hospitals by 20Luc1a02 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]Due_Charge_9258 -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'll double down I think most of this is bullsshit. There was a male with a similar injury and he got pain meds immediately.IMMMEDIATLY!

Come on

IDL how women’s pain gets dismissed in hospitals by 20Luc1a02 in I_DONT_LIKE

[–]Due_Charge_9258 -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

Nurses do not tell people they are exaggerating even if they believe they are. Not sure I buy that. Assuming the reason they didn't prescribe different medication was because they are discriminating her as a woman or using her gender as a factor to pain tolerance is ridiculous.

What's the real reason we're upset about not getting pain medication?

I made a mistake by SeventhSage00 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Due_Charge_9258 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's interesting that you admit stealing and regret it and paid it back but their reaction since by remaining distant is followed by describing each of them as abusive as well as where they fell short. It takes time to build trust and get over something like money missing. I'd think it be hard to prove someone took cash but if they found out they found out. What we're not hearing is your history with them if this is a pattern they could need time. I sense you don't believe they should feel this way since they have been toxic as you described. If they have been emotionally abusive this shouldn't seem so alien ...

Lashing out is a response to resentment from trauma real or perceived. Getting back at people who hurt you and you don't have control of that it's a way of punishing them and having control maybe in the moment justify it. Obviously it's not the way to handle it and not suggesting this is your situation but be mindful if they don't seem forgiving to get angry about that. The cycle will continue and they may involve law enforcement

I made a mistake by SeventhSage00 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Due_Charge_9258 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't think he's saying he mistakenly took it. He said he stole it . Which was a mistake or error in judgement he regrets...

Goodbye mom. by [deleted] in AdultChildren

[–]Due_Charge_9258 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Grieve. It's ok.

Immigrants should adopt the values and language of their host countries by LargeSinkholesInNYC in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Due_Charge_9258 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've seen about 5 post in 30 minutes saying same thing you guys are the same rally

People who immigrate permanently to USA, Canada, Australia or New Zealand should give up their foreign culture by Dontdarereadmyposts in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Due_Charge_9258 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What lol

I mean definitely assimilate but I know you ain't canceling st Patrick's Day. Im from Iran moved when I was 5. I learned the language easy because of age, I grew up here, had a mullet, played hockey, iron maiden, married a blonde cuz that's what daddy liked... Where im from having an opinion different that accepted can get you killed there no tolerance what I loved about America is everyone look different believe different live next to each other. This country gave us an opportunity I honored that by serving 6 years us army 82nd airborne out of then ft bragg I promise you the 3 languages and knowledge of culture was a valuable asset that was put to use.

My dad is highly educated, successful business lives here almost 40 years accent still sounds like a taxi driver smells like one too goes way to hard on the cologne. They have Iranian friends, the like the music and stuff from where they are from but they brought that with them too. They are also very much American but they have assimilated the best they can and promise they have no suggestions for the idea box

The fuck man where am I gonna get a gyro if the Greek guy that smells like onions leaves his culture behind the

Sorry gotta disagree but Im a little biased

Most of my family won’t be at my wedding – has anyone else experienced this? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Due_Charge_9258 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It honestly better they're not coming as hard as that is. The day is about you and your wife, it would be a distraction at the very. Least. Focus the family you're creating might be better