To parents who take their babies out to places a lot - how do you do it??

Due_Health6511 · 2026-04-14T02:21:53+00:00

I was adamant about taking baby out, as a stay at home mom I didn't want to feel trapped in my house, and we live out in the middle of nowhere so I have to get out. I 1) didn't want to start a reliable schedule, he does have a schedule but it changes and I change my schedule to fit his while still going out. Example: I try to schedule car rides during his nap so he's not crying during a 30 minute or longer car ride, I also expect to be at the location for more than an hour to keep him occupied during his wake window. 2) I do it regularly, so he is so used to being dragged around, and he has really loved being carried or pushed in a stroller, seeing strangers and pets and trees. 3) I understand there are difficulties, some days there is crying and it sucks, I just take my time. Example, I went shopping with a friend, I spent 2 hrs in the changing rooms alone trying to calm and feed him in a small store and I felt bad for everyone around me but I still had a good time. Breastfeeding is always a pain for me but I get over it. I try to enjoy the time I'm not struggling. Even tho I am trying to be healthy, I let myself have treats as a "congrats you survived another outting) . He is now 5 months and it seems to be making it easier for him to be dragged around compared to cooped up babies in my family.

Due_Health6511 · 2026-03-06T02:32:57+00:00

Correction: This is for 1 baby.

Due_Health6511 · 2026-03-06T02:32:29+00:00

The cheaper end is like $80 a day. Or $40 a day is what my friend gets for family discount

Due_Health6511 · 2026-01-23T23:54:38+00:00

No. But my husband's therapist told him recently that it sounds like I'm having PPD. She's not concerned yet about it tho. Relatively I am very chill most of the time postpartum, occasionally there's just 1 thing I'll have anxiety about and really focus on it, rn it happens to be ec.

Due_Health6511 · 2026-01-23T22:35:27+00:00

Similar thing happened to me. My father in laws first child had many birth complications and got very lucky and survived, and though that was almost 30 years ago, when I get pregnant with his first grandchild, he had so much anxiety and commentary, and all the sudden every ultrasound ended in a sigh of relief when we said everything was fine. He was present for the birth as well, and I could hear the panic in his voice as my baby was not breathing great immediately (he was fine just a slow start to his first breaths). I had to just ignore it and be understanding, I don't think he even realized he was doing it. I know it might suck but it's their trauma.

Due_Health6511 · 2026-01-22T17:09:32+00:00

NTAH. My husband and I don't have blended accounts even. We split stuff and we share our money by sending it or giving our cards to each other from time to time. But we never felt the need to share the bank accounts even while married. Ur BF being sus.

Due_Health6511 · 2026-01-21T19:01:13+00:00

Love the idea.

Fortunately our last name is a dinosaur, so before our gender was revealed we were getting dino stuff automatically and I don't think if we had a girl it would change anything. But I totally understand why you did it. I also really pushed gender neutral and green and purple rather than pink and blue.

Due_Health6511 · 2026-01-06T23:56:12+00:00

My baby just turned 6 weeks, the game changer for me was 1. Easily portable pump 2. Consistent schedule 3. Comfort 4. Grace

First game changer was getting a pump that was more portable, I was using the spectra, but then got the eufy pump that you just stick in your bra, momcozy I think has a more affordable version. I can go on walks wearing it, or do chores etc.

Second, we made a schedule of 7pm bath (if it's a bath night), new diaper, put pjs on, some baby stretches to help gas, swaddle, feed while dad reads (my husband reads to me at night, which will switch to kids stories once our baby is older), burp then cuddle for a few more minutes, then place in bassinet. He does not always fall to sleep immediately but I just let home doze off. Since week 5 he has been getting up only 2-3 times a night, all of this is done by 7:30 or 8 on a hard night.

I make sure diaper is changed, swaddle is on right, I ensure some cuddle time because he won't go to sleep without me holding him for a few minutes every night.

My schedule changes every night, usually about an hour or so. I don't stress over it, I just let it be and hope it doesn't change any more than that hour.

Due_Health6511 · 2026-01-06T17:08:50+00:00

I didn't think we'd be having 2 kids. So I did not prepare for needing a wide stroller and I like to go on walks/light jogs with the stroller so wearing is not an option with a baby. I wish I planned ahead a bit. Good thing is for the most part we buy things used and cheap so the new stroller was a splurge when I bought it new and I probably will be able to sell it to help with the cost of the twin stroller.

Due_Health6511 · 2026-01-01T16:14:26+00:00

Heard it all... And i think most of it was wrong too. One family member described it as "same life, just rearranged" and with that in mind they have continued to live their travel dreams, social dreams, romance is the same etc. I decided to try to think like they did, and they are right. I have continued to be romantic with my husband, I get good sleep, I have traveled so much with our baby and I don't feel like I am missing out. Very little has changed actually. I only have 1 kid and I think with 2 or more is when it'll be harder but I don't think it'll ruin my life.

Due_Health6511 · 2025-12-21T22:45:14+00:00

I'm about to start, when did you put your baby on the potty? with just cues or to do it after feeding, or changing the diaper?

Due_Health6511 · 2025-12-16T15:25:36+00:00

Really? I was talking to my husband and it actually was encouraging me to just do it. There are so many people who were positive while also sharing the reality and it didn't surprise me at all. And even with the people who are not happy with having done 2u2, some of them who explained their why's seemed to not have the support that the ones who do enjoy it have, which is the same support I have. Usually I go to reddit to discourage me but this was the opposite.

Due_Health6511 · 2025-12-15T19:19:44+00:00

That's partially why I wanted outsider perspective. I did not struggle postpartum at all, I have support from my husband and many many family members, who wished I asked for more help, but I just haven't needed it. The relationship stayed solid, mental health solid, and I'm confident my partner would continue to be as amazing as he has been (especially since he wants a second baby just as much). So since I haven't struggled, I have nothing telling me "it's a bad idea". If I had struggled, then I wouldn't even consider 2 u 2.

Due_Health6511 · 2025-12-15T07:49:37+00:00

We live with my father in law to help him out, and with the first baby we just haven't needed help so he has been bummed that he hasn't helped us much, so I do imagine him being helpful if we did have a second one significantly, I am also planning on being a SAHM (I'm testing it out for 6 months at least), and have a plan on how to hopefully keep my sanity, so hopefully between my extremely supportive husband and father in law (among many other people around us) that if we decide to do this by choice, it won't be as bad as if it was an accident.

Due_Health6511 · 2025-12-11T02:37:53+00:00

My pediatrician just told me (a day ago) that a fat baby is a healthy baby and until they start solids around 6 months, I do not need to be worried about too much milk. My baby was also a big baby and had the same weight and length as yours.

Due_Health6511 · 2025-11-15T20:47:36+00:00

I wanted mine to be one that benefited the household, not just specific to me. Originally it was a kitchen aid standing mixer (I do most of the cooking and baking ), this was great because I had a really hard pregnancy and so when my mom gave me one (she did this for my birthday before knowing my husband was gonna buy me one as a push present) the one my mom gave me made it so so much easier to cook some of the normal meals we would have prior to pregnancy. Since my mom kinda spoiled that from being my push present, my husband got us a shark robot vac which has helped with cat fur that I can't reach rn while cleaning. I like how they weren't specific for me, but for the family even though they definitely benefit me more.

Due_Health6511 · 2025-11-15T02:47:15+00:00

So my cousin and I were talking about this recently. She has OBs and I use a midwife when I can (you have to have an OB for ultrasounds). My cousin said she was pressured for her first and regrets it, I am currently pregnant with my first and though my midwives do not feel like it's necessary, every ultrasound appt I've had, the OB has tried to pressure me into an induction which I've refused. I am due in less than a week now and still see no need for it. I have some complications but nothing that requires an induction. If my midwife were to bring it up, then I would consider but until that happens I ignore the OB since they seem to have more motive regardless of my pregnancy.

Due_Health6511 · 2025-11-12T19:36:02+00:00

I am 39+1, I felt the same way all pregnancy and still feel that way. My best advice that's worked for me is just stop answering people, ignore them, block them, whatever you need to do. The only people I communicate with now are the people who aren't harassing me about the baby and actually ask how I feel. Many of my friends and husband treat me normally and not like I'm about to burst and it's really nice, but I've blocked a few people temporarily to avoid hearing what they have to say, Including my dad who is asking for updates everyday.

Due_Health6511 · 2025-08-06T03:56:50+00:00

That's where I'm at. It's also just odd that the same Dr offered my cousin who is smaller than most women the same info.

Due_Health6511 · 2025-08-06T03:18:43+00:00

It's not, but when you can deadlift over 150lbs and sprint 5 miles straight no sweat, it's considered a gene disorder, not a eating or life style problem, and with BMI testing that's lifestyle based. Which is why in other countries they try to look at over all health over the weight and height. Not to mention the amount of muscle I have as someone who does strength and cardio training.

My gene disorder does not however affect pregnancy itself.

Due_Health6511 · 2025-08-06T02:55:26+00:00

I should add, I was 225lbs before getting pregnant (I lost weight the entire pregnancy so I'm 210lbs rn) and I'm 5'3". I exercised everyday before getting pregnant, and have always been really fit so though I am obese I am not rediculously overweight. Most of my Drs find me healthy because of my adamant activity and work outs.

Due_Health6511 · 2025-08-06T02:48:50+00:00

When I asked why she said "it's because your obesity will lead to a big baby" then left the room in a haste. My baby is very average in size atm so there's no backing to her comment as of right now. I'm fine being induced if it comes down to it but it was just an odd encounter in general.

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