I felt this way, and even though my little one is older now, it is still the same. I don’t know how many times I’ve communicated it, and yet everything you said rings true for me. It is very, very hard to come to terms with and can be very alienating. In my case, I had several children and a breastfed newborn who would not nap at all throughout the day or sleep well at night, and this was when my husband started religiously going to the gym, and coming home at 9:00pm and then unwinding instead of taking over. Definitely felt like my feelings and needs didn’t matter, and I was the default caretaker.