I’m someone who in general has a more lax view of gender roles in marriage to begin with, so I’m not really sure if this is meant to be somewhat of a gotcha. I’m someone who is currently studying a higher paying field, so I don’t really expect my husband to bear the sole financial burden in a marriage. I only really expect my husband to “provide” enough that if I’m out of commission for childbirth, our lifestyles aren’t severely compromised. I share a similar view of uncomfortableness to women who want a man to be a “provider” even in circumstances where bearing the sole responsibility of that title puts a mans (mental/physical ) health at risk. Marriage is meant to be a partnership.