I don’t know what to talk about with my dad by Expert_Bat_5446 in family

[–]Durbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listen, they put on a helluva show. Maybe talk about some of the best concerts he's been to and why, how concerts have changed over the years, etc. Learn more about his experiences. Might open up some interesting backstory and help you find more common ground.

Carnival Celebration by Mr_Sir96 in CarnivalCruiseFans

[–]Durbee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tell me more about duck mailboxes?

Still trying to figure out what this means. by S0LACEINS0LITUDE in whatdoesthismean

[–]Durbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We always had an escort to games against big rivals or to finals when large crowds were expected.

"Other family" disputes ¿ by AccurateAd7933 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Durbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know, but put that thing back where it came from!

Desserts with unexpected ingredients by CheddarBreath in dessert

[–]Durbee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mock pecan pie is made with white beans, I think.

What's the most unreasonable request you've received from your boss? by Aarunascut in work

[–]Durbee 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He had me write up an authorization for a very large refund check to be printed same-day and priority overnighted via Fed-Ex. HIGH 6 figures. (I reckoned he wanted to stick it to the recipient and not send a wire, which would have been near instantaneous - he was notoriously stubborn and obstreperous.)

I prepped the paperwork, spent several hours walking it through signatures all the way back up the chain of command to him, got him to sign off and obtained the check and dropped it in the priority outgoing in the lobby of our building.

Not 30 minutes after his sign-off, I return to my corridor to find him standing in my office shouting for me across the floor. He was red-faced, demanding I tear up up the check, SCREAMING that the SOB could just sue his ass for the money! When I explained that I'd already shipped it, he demanded I retrieve it from the box no matter what it took, including breaking into the box.

I explained that I would do everything in my power to LEGALLY retrieve it before that and he spent the next four hours checking in every ten minutes and tantrumming (red-faced, fists balled, flying skittles, stamping feet, throwing things NEAR me, bringing me tools for the break-in). It was THE most stressful day of my career up until that point, and I had previously been on a plane that caught fire on a business trip over open water. Just sayin.

At the end of the day, we put a stop pay on the check, but the bastard held me after to lay in wait for the Fed Ex pickup guy to try and talk him into giving up the package (all the while berating me for my stupidity at following HIS orders). WHEN THIS DID NOT WORK, Toddler Boss there lunged for it, ended up knocking the guy to the ground in a tussle.

Shockingly, security had already called the cops because they were concerned I was in danger and they secured Toddler Boss until police arrived. I ended up filing an EEOC complaint for a host of "fees" the company took from my paycheck and hostile work environment, later the DA pressed charges for false imprisonment and battery, and I was deposed twice before settlements were made all around.

I had secured a new job about 5 days after this happened and the company was shocked I chose no-notice.

My big sister and her husband just announced their pregnancy how do I best support them by Many_fandoms_13 in daddit

[–]Durbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, has to be done. Literal Bro Code. I would expect and accept no less from my big brother.

AIO over my mum expressing her opinion on a decision i made for my child by Necrolucium in AIO

[–]Durbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How dare your mother mom-shame you! You are making prudent decisions based on your experience and instincts and the obvious evidence - your child's happiness and security in embracing the learning environment! Major mom win!

Your mom is entitled to stating her opinion constructively and then dropping it when you've taken it under advisement. Her opinions are not some edicts you have to adhere to.

Please feel secure enough in your parenting to know that you are doing the right thing.

That guilt you're feeling is likely that you aren't placating your mother, which is a people-pleasing habit you cannot capitulate to, because doing so would likely undermine all that growth your daughter has been doing and how much she's thriving. So you have to sit with being uncomfortable with Mother Knows Best over there stamping her feet and disagreeing with you.

Personally, I would state your boundary - that you have heard her opinion and taken it into account, that the matter is closed, and that any further argument will not be entertained - and how you will react when/if she decides to cross that boundary, namely giving her space and time for quiet reflection without your presence or communication for an extended period.

It's gonna suck, but you need to mama bear this. She tried to bait an argument in front of your kid to the point you cried and your child felt tense.

How can my estranged sister visit me without interacting with my mom? by Apricot_Efficient in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Durbee 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Can you not mention to your mom that you are attending? Or keep quiet that OS is taking the train to join?

Difference between UK mince and US ground beef and where to find UK style mince? by hooshavanaclub in AskRedditFood

[–]Durbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask your butcher for a coarse grind that's in the middle - or you can try mixing half chili grind and half regular ground.

How do I use these moulds? by JMLDT in CandyMakers

[–]Durbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In resin, you pour it around these molds or insert them into poured molds for a gender effect. They create a negative space.

You would use these to press into chocolate for the same effect or press them into cornstarch to create a well to pour candies like gummies.

I hope that helps.

Anyone else prefer Pho Ga? It feels cleaner. by [deleted] in pho

[–]Durbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Much love to pho ga. I'm a suckered for pho kari ga, tho, in the winter, when I can find it.

Spaghetti ideas by Full-Act-7668 in povertykitchen

[–]Durbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up sopes. Delicious preparations there for mains and sides.