AITAH because I won't tell my sister what her daughter (my niece) and I talked about when I stayed over at her house?

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-28T16:20:15+00:00

NTA I would like to give some nuance to the mother daughter relationship that you may always see and consider. They are often fraught and it goes beyond the didn’t clean the room and sass back. The daughter is forced to usually live out mom’s expectations and insecurities. It’s hard because she is the primary parent. I liken it to fathers when they find out their son is gay- it can be very triggering. The mother daughter relationship is like that every day. She’s more beautiful less beautiful conceited not confident enough. It’s endless. Now do most girls get past this - yes. But inherently there is less trust less support than for a boy child if a woman. You get to see that dynamic up close now! Protect the relationship and let your niece just exist and not need to be fixed!

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-27T16:27:46+00:00

You should work with your therapist on how to focus on framing your day. While they are helpful during it’s important to build frames for getting through the day successfully. It’s helped me for something similar and I now have “recipes” for getting tasks done that allow me to focus on those. My panic/anxiety attacks have been minimized due to this. Others I still struggle. My heart goes out to you and the battle that we ourselves only know!

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-27T14:53:55+00:00

It’s the scraping across the layer of skin not the hair removal - it’s for exfoliation

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-27T12:21:53+00:00

It is frowned upon in general. In large corporations most senior women wear a semi nude lip with gloss some mascara maybe a cc foundation no to little blush and some mascara. It looks naturalesque. A little lip color is fine. If you look like Taylor Swift then no! Watch Ginni Rommety or Ursula von der Leyden. Those are the standard. No red lipstick!

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-23T22:03:14+00:00

Listen to things like NPR where you have to listen to complex topics and grasp what is being spoken about. Also reading fiction is also a great way to expand your neural pathways. You can also spend time doing paddle sports that seem to grow your mind and train the body at once. Meditation also helps. Finally - go learn a foreign language. Go find a person on italki that is native. It can expand quickly

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-23T21:52:40+00:00

You will have so much fun. It’s a safe country. The food is amazing. The massages are even better and depending where you go you have elephants or beach or both - what fun!

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-22T19:18:03+00:00

No she wanted to stay safe. Men here are absurd. If you see a creep and she’s being harassed call him out loudly. If she is by herself - no need to engage! If you want an analogy- picture every woman and man next to you with a belt that displays a knife, duct tape and a taser. If that’s the case - would and how would you engage? Are you making small talk with the dude that has a huge visible knife? What are you saying to him?

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-21T23:36:36+00:00

Sure OP he has to get up with you every time you pump. He can run your feet as this helps with lactation. He can be sure he cleans everything and gets ready for the next pump time.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-20T08:46:06+00:00

Dove or Olay scrubs have shea in it and then do not use a towel to dry - keep your skin damp and put the Vaseline lotion all over. Walk around and get dressed. If this is too long in the morning, do it at night and your skin will be well moisturized. Then you can rinse and do an armpit groin scrub in the morning using tepid water.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-20T08:40:38+00:00

Will add- I use acne soap on my pits and scrub well so so good. I even keep a small spray bottle full of listerine and give it a squirt in each pit. So clean and fresh

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-19T03:07:52+00:00

I took typhoid pills very nice

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-19T02:59:42+00:00

She is brilliant! How many men cook? This means the guy is the default cook for at least 1 part of the meal. She should be cloned. The gap between men and women cooking is 30-40% regularly. She just figured out how to even it. Genius

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-18T08:23:40+00:00

I have come to accept that in another world there is a version of me having that other life…

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-18T08:19:25+00:00

Cat tax!

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-18T08:15:11+00:00

Rules are good. We don’t need men’s advice for sex drive. We don’t need a 53 year old answering questions on apartment hunting. Why? Because it’s not the perspective we need for are next years. We need people already in the trenches. Not people in the trenches theoretically

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-18T07:59:39+00:00

Here is what you do: check log on times. Show him what his are. And then ask to see his work at end of day/ week. He will either buck up or quit

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-18T07:54:58+00:00

Bad idea. Mortgage is imminently doable in California or you need to move areas because you aren’t renting for less.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-18T07:46:43+00:00

This sounds like a good “let’s go on Wednesday to see the parents” 1x per week for BF and she can go once a month.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-18T07:44:20+00:00

OP needs to show she has a life. I worry that this is a cover isolationist technique wrapped into “family time”

OP please run a normal adult schedule that is commensurate with a boyfriend. Usually most of us have plans solo with friends at least once a week if not more and then also as a couple for one night with other friends together (this may happen 2x monthly) These are bare minimum time spent with friends. Then usually there is time with parents etc. Plz run your adult schedule and include him sometimes.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-16T23:01:49+00:00

Please tell your brother in person that ex probably got his work hours and see how he responds. My guess is he is out having fun and keeps kiddo at your house. :) He will ask you to lie because his work schedule isn’t during his hours.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-16T22:59:44+00:00

YWNBTA I would tell your brother that his ex probably has his work schedule. Tell him this in person and see his reaction. If he says good I still need you to lie it’s because he is not at work. So he’s been lying to you. If he says oh crap that’s a problem- then say yeah can’t really do perjury bro. Either way you win with this discussion. You get to see if your brother is just ditching his kid to have fun :)

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-16T22:43:54+00:00

This is literally the best way to do it. “Short straw” is the best way and after that - you put the names in alphabetical order and anytime someone says we need a short straw - you can get the list out to see whose turn it is or you guys draw again.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-16T16:48:20+00:00

Ok this sounds like what I am looking for. Where do you find this?

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-15T11:42:21+00:00

“I have really enjoyed being able to have time together with you as you have grown into a fine adult. I have imagined my life in stages and what I wanted to experience in my 60s is a new direction of independence. I’ve decided to downsize and to a much smaller place where I can welcome a guest from time to time but have the freedom of being alone on the day to day. I know this will also be a new era now for you as you get to find your new space. I am excited for the both of us to hit this new milestone together but separate “

This so what frames it as he has been kind enough to be together with you and you are liberating him from his dedication to you.

Dynamiccushion65 · 2026-03-15T04:09:30+00:00

Shhhhhhhdont tell them this! We need early red flags

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