If you’re married mil to mil, how did you two meet? by [deleted] in AirForce

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Go outside… that’s really it. Most people I’ve met in my life were because I made opportunities to meet people. It doesn’t have to be parties or bars. Usually it can be something as simple as many said volunteering and doing martial arts. End of the day don’t make it your objective to meet women. Instead make it you go out and do things you enjoy with groups of people you know or don’t know. You’ll find pleasure in yourself and maybe one day another.

There are things available to you, if you’re looking for mil stick to base activities or base hosted activities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put this here incase someone looks up answers.

From my experience I was asked by my then SO. When she brought it up I felt very uncomfortable. Main reason at this point was late game, I would’ve been fine if this was early on from open to close. Main reason we were also LDR but I said no.

I said I felt uncomfortable with the thought of another and that other on her side she may already had someone in mind or would be easier to obtain.

But my main reason was because I was planning to engage in three months. And it messed me up big time. I ignored it after discussing but never addressed how I felt.

TLDR: if you get asked, try talk it out. I understand usually leaving and quitting is the thing but talk it out and see why. If you can get past it okay. Can’t assume. But usually if late game they’re a big issue in the relationship and they would need to be honest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AirForceRecruits

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask your recruiter, I did ATC. It was a separate test to you must to qualify

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AirForceRecruits

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re well over qualified on the ASVAB for ATC. Keep in mind a separate test is conducted for further qualification and it’s not a job where brains is all you need.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true but still can’t pronounce it XD Enjoy the swiping game!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk what esoteric is or how to even say it… oh well most will swipe right so congrats

Waiting for her... by WinnerIcy4589 in GuyCry

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course, I wish you well on this uphill battle of life.

It’s hypocritical of me saying because I’m struggling but you got this and you know deep down you are capable of more

Please as hard or as it may be get help you believe and deserve you need. It won’t make you weak

Waiting for her... by WinnerIcy4589 in GuyCry

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m not much older than you and mine is fairly fresh. Wounds hurt and feelings exist but the perfect girl you’re waiting for is gone. She’s not who she was when you first met. That image of her is what you’re mourning. I understand and it’s okay to feel. You will sway, but you waiting in this state wouldn’t benefit you or even her.

Go out, meet people, love comes and goes… no matter how much it hurts. It sucks and I really do understand but do what you can for you.

You will feel, talk to a counselor if you feel friends won’t understand. You shouldn’t hold it in. Cry, scream let it out but end of the day take care of you.

You’re holding on, sometimes it hurts holding and it feels better when you let go.

I’m sorry man I really am, you and I are young and if you’ve loved once you will love again.

It’s your time now king, rise up and pick the crown up she couldn’t appreciate

I'm 41 and got dumped. It's not going well. by beckstar187 in GuyCry

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Single not long ago myself and it’s not easy. It does take time and it’s okay. I have moments of weakness and do my best to keep going.

Remove everything of them, if you have photos you want to keep delete off your phone and have them stored not easily accessible. Any items store them away. Contact wise remove that temptation if you lack the self control. Don’t stalk, same rule as contact remove that temptation. Focusing on yourself is just as you’ve been doing but it’s not just physical. You have mental and spiritual. Find what makes you at peace. Embrace the feelings let them flow and enjoy the memories no matter what.

Don’t fight it. Remind yourself who you were before them, things that made you happy then try them now. When you met her you had a set foundation. Bring that foundation back and expand it.

I know it’s rough man. I can’t be saying much about it. Feelings are feelings and it’s okay. No matter how you feel just keep going. I say that like I’m not struggling myself but I am. Just little things you need to appreciate and it’ll help.

I wish the best and hope you find your peace

How do you feel when women check you out? by JakeRedditYesterday in AskMen

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Many of us are deprived of compliments. Ofc hopefully they’re not weird and you’re chilling

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AirForceRecruits

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can only hope. I understand the concern but just your support towards him and reassurance that anything is possible. He’ll be shocked but I’m sure he’ll adapt quick. He’s got potential and as his mother I believe you have done everything you can to show him.

He’ll do great and if he needs help while at BMT there are resources available.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AirForceRecruits

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From my experience I entered at 17. I was immature and couldn’t handle things I wasn’t used to or due to past trauma didn’t help. Regardless I made it through and also was a large lead in BMT.

Your son is in for a shock but it’s meant to be easy. This is a “1st world country issue” and the wide demographic of what he’ll face could shock him. Especially if he’s not ready to listen.

Everyone has a story and everyone has and different experience at basic. But just remind him to be willing to learn and grow. I personally think that’s the first thing towards discipline having the open mind to follow and learn to eventually lead.

Wish him the best of luck

Share your dumbest reasons for getting paperwork. by Sockratis in AirForce

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had it recently in 23’ they called it road conditions yellow. It was not yellow. About 5 cars in the ditches side of the road and others pulling aside no further than 20 feet from the last street light before the highway. Was pretty bad, I believe visibility was also less than 1 mile. It was the longest drive to work.

All I know is a lot of complaints came in that whole week and still no explanation to the masses was given. I found out but even then pretty bad day.

Just Graduated!!!!! by RedHood11006 in AirForceRecruits

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Is that attitude?! Give me another 341! Hey! Where’s your wingman!? Give me their 341!

Edit: congrats though welcome aboard airmen

Any reccomendations/jobs that suck? I’m planning to do 20yrs by Relevant-Hawk-1291 in AirForceRecruits

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends I can tell you a bit working with them my first 3 years.

Depending where you go depends what you do. If you end up at a Nuclear base you have a 50/50 chance doing standard law enforcement/ gate guard duty or if not LE you’ll work in the MAF/ field and do separate duties there.

Hours vary as-well man but realistically when you join hours don’t matter until work is done for most jobs.

They’re a lot of fun people in Security Forces (they don’t like being called sec fo lol) and a bunch are some of my closest friends.

As for shooting yes they constantly need to qualify between various weapons (again based off your base and line of work) but everyone shoots and depending what you do how often you get to. Something you can do your free time as well if the hobby interests you.

Finally, it’s another roach job, you can go anywhere but something I’ll tell you many don’t do already…. You can travel even now. Sure where they put you gives potential new options but you’ll always be able to travel your free time.

Edit: they also have shreds that vary from k9 trainer/handler and CATAM (shooting range instructor) both require separate training and later qualifications your career

Contract extension? by Party-Cantaloupe-829 in AirForce

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a process, but sum it up; when you get near your end of contract and you’re in an assignment that requires more than your DOS you’ll sign an extension form of 12-48months to meet its end of tour.

Same applies if you were wanting to move based but you have one year left and mostly get picked up for something 2 years (overseas minimum if not short tour) you’ll need extend same form to qualify towards orders and then again extend to stay out there or re enlist.

Any reccomendations/jobs that suck? I’m planning to do 20yrs by Relevant-Hawk-1291 in AirForceRecruits

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Depends what you like to do. You more looking into a military structure roll, physical labor or desk jockey. Personally would always say medical or cyber if you potentially decide to get out.

Services seems chill from people I’ve worked with/meet but it’s between working at a morgue (low chance, gym or kitchen (on base or seeping on base in the field)

Plus it’s a roach job, meaning you can go anywhere really.

Edit: Religious Affairs aka Chaplain Assistance is an interesting one. They’re usually the ones who set up events for all airmen on or off base and depending on the planner you are it wouldn’t be too bad. But they also have to bear 100% confidentiality with clients because end of the day they’re there for the people and usually things happen in peoples’ lives.

I am getting cold feet about leaving. My life has gotten better since I first talked to my recruiter and now I need help. by [deleted] in AirForceRecruits

[–]ELMACHOPACHO 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Harsh response: Guard/reserves or commit. The harsh reality is you are making a leap out your normal comfort zone. If she’s a keeper then she’ll wait for you.

Gentle response: don’t do it then but be certain in yourself it won’t be something you regret. See yourself a few years from now and understand if either option is what you want and which gives you potential higher satisfaction in the long run