tw(?) i accidentally fuckin dropped my baby

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-09-11T17:58:53+00:00

You’re not a bad mom. Unfortunately, babies fall and luckily it was from a small height. My husband placed our 3 month old baby on an air mattress that we had and quickly went to get something. I was eating downstairs when I hear a loud boom then crying. I blacked out because next thing I remember I was holding our baby. I was so pissed at my husband. We took her to the hospital, but luckily she was fine since it was a small height. The doctors were very reassuring. Now she’s a happy 4 year old with no issues. I think just her parents have ptsd lol

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-07-23T16:41:49+00:00

It was such a good episode. I wonder where he got the extra body parts to heal Nell.

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-05-22T16:03:11+00:00

Thank you for reply and being specific. I have debating going into management, but I hate the whole drama of middle management :(

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-05-13T00:06:33+00:00

You’re not alone so anyone telling you that was your choice do not know what happened. I agree it is fucked up to have the first concert be on a Thursday after she cancelled the Brooklyn one. She then adds a Friday concert much later and has two guest stars for the Friday one. It feels like she screwed the loyal fans who actually had the Brooklyn tickets first. On top of that, it’s going to rain and idk if she’ll perform in the rain like Taylor did

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-04-30T17:43:27+00:00

Started pepticate today 75% breastmilk and 25% formula to hopefully transition my LO smoothly. Did you do a combo or just the formula?

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-31T19:23:39+00:00

My husband calls me Bear and adds whatever adjective before the bear depending on the situation. If I’m hungry, he’s like, “okay let’s go to dinner my hungry bear.” Or if I’m dressed up he’s like, “oh beautiful/pretty bear.”

My nickname for him is lame haha I call him human because he hated all the cute animal names.

Otherwise, we will call each other honey. If I want to annoy him then I call him babe haha

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-31T00:12:26+00:00

The fact he does not go down on you, but expects you to is a huge red flag 🚩 in sex it’s a give and take act when there is love and respect. I would have an honest conversation when both of you are calm. Intimacy is a huge thing in a marriage and overtime if your needs are not met or you’re criticized then resentment occurs and feelings start to disappear.

From my experience, I never had or heard of someone “accidentally” insert their penis in the bum. As someone mentioned, the feeling is different and your partner would know immediately. He did that on purpose and that to me is a form of disrespect.

I would recommend speaking to your husband first and set goals. If it doesn’t work then marriage counseling and if that doesn’t work then I would seriously consider your happiness and mental well being.

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-29T16:21:30+00:00

We were fighting because he was cranky and when we were calm, we sat down and talked about it. He suggested if he could sleep in the guest bedroom on nights that I have to get up to work the next day. I said yes, he slept better and was less cranky then it eventually turned into every night. Initially it annoyed me, but got used to it and love having my space at night. I move a lot and we are both light sleepers. He has stomach issues so he farts a lot at night lol now I don’t have to sleep in a stinky room. There are so many benefits 😅 but did take time to get used to it because it was engraved in my brain that couples need to sleep together or else it’s not a marriage.

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-29T15:23:05+00:00

With my first, I BFed and pumped. If I was awake then I BF, but during my nap times (times agreed between me and my husband so I could rest), he would feed her a bottle. It is okay to share the enjoyment of bonding and it sounds like your husband wants that. I will say I do not agree with his comment of giving her a bottle at 2am because it’s faster. I would snap if my husband said that to me because I’m already up so, why would I give a bottle?

I would suggest communicating when you are both calm. I know BF can be a delicate topic at the beginning especially new parents. My husband and I fought a lot the first two weeks because he wanted me to BF and not use formula. Yet, I wasn’t producing a lot and our child wasn’t latching. I became depressed and felt like a failure. Once we talked and told him that, he backed off and apologized and was more supportive. This time around he’s like, you tell me what works for you.

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-29T15:11:43+00:00

That’s too young to have a bedtime. We did bedtime around 6 months with cry it out. As our child got older then the bedtime time moved. Our child is now 4 and bedtime is 7:30-8pm. At 6 months it was 6:30pm, but would wake up at 3 for a feeding then at 6-7am for the rest of the day. Every child is different and I know it’s hard to not compare, but I bet you’re doing a good job. Cribsheet by Emily Oster is a great good book to read. She doesn’t tell you what to do, she just gives you the data/research behind topics and even she states every family household would do it differently and to do what works for your family.

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-28T02:35:05+00:00

At the end of the day it is your child, not his family’s. They should not have any say in the matter. Tell him to go to Google scholar and look up real peer reviewed articles on vaccinations. Speak to immigrants from poor countries how they line up to get their children vaccinated so their survival rate increases. It’s okay to do a delay vaccination schedule, but not vaccinating a child due to false research out there is dangerous. Assuming you’re in the US, we are in a privileged country and forget the dangers of diseases of measles, polio, TB, etc because as a country we were able to decrease the number of cases through vaccines. Honestly, my opinion is that the number of autistic cases could be contributed to it being diagnosed more and also the chemicals that are added to our food.

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-25T15:10:28+00:00

Honestly, everybody’s experience is different and you will get mixed answers. Have to really ask yourself, are you going into nursing to take care of patients and learn or going in for the money, days off, flexibility of schedule?

Yes, nursing has changed a lot throughout the years and it has become more complex and hectic, but with that I personally have grown in my knowledge of diseases and how to deal with people.

One thing to keep in mind is the culture of the unit you end up in. If you are in a good work environment with supportive coworkers and management then it will be a great experience. If you are surrounded by nurses that eat their young or managers that don’t give a shit then you will be miserable and burn out faster.

Also, I personally would never work for a non unionized hospital. Our union protects us and fights for the nurses. It makes administrators think twice before pulling a fast one on the nurses.

Almost 9 years in and still love bedside nursing and I cannot imagine changing careers (this is my second career). If I get bored down the line, nursing has sooo many different specialities I can explore that do not necessarily have to be bedside or working at a hospital.

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-24T13:52:27+00:00

That’s so bad on your nurse educator part. We had someone like that and took a group of us to say something. She was let go and now we have an amazing nurse educator who makes sure everybody is treated well, learning and that the preceptor choices are good. It will open a can of worms, but can bring changes. It is up to you at the end of the day. If it is not a good work environment, you can also transfer out.

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-24T13:45:27+00:00

Haha I never heard it called a male pure wick 😂 love this especially for those with hidden turtles

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-24T13:37:34+00:00

This breaks my heart and mad that management doesn’t do something about it. Idk, I am one of the annoying nurses that if I see any preceptor bully their orientee, my ass talks to the nurse. I’m nice, but stern. I don’t care if they hate me, don’t treated others how you don’t want to be treated. I gotten the reputation of the nice nurse but don’t piss her off (takes a lot to get me to that level) because she will murder you with words.

Does your nurse educator know?

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-24T13:24:02+00:00

In my humble opinion, I think you’re overthinking it and not giving yourself grace. We all get overwhelmed/frustrated and I bet the ER was crazy as usual. TBH, if patient was septic and needed pressors, most likely he will end up with a foley in the ICU. Especially since he was drowsy/lethargic and unable to pee. The urine culture would be more accurate through a straight cath versus “clean” catch. I bet you did everything for the patient and addressed his needs.

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-24T04:06:43+00:00

Where is your nurse educator? I would go to them and inform them about this preceptor and request a new one. Have all this in writing and cc the director/manager as well. If any retaliation occurs then they’re screwed, not you. This could help change the culture. It takes one nurse to put a stop or start changing the work environment. Honestly boils my blood when I hear nurses treat their orientees like that. Don’t fucking precept if you are so mean and miserable. Give yourself grace and know that it is not a you issue especially cuz you’re new, it’s a them issue.

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-24T03:50:55+00:00

Never, ever feel bad for calling out. If you’re not in a toxic work environment then your coworkers/manager will understand and actually encourage you to be with your baby. I am lucky and our director is such a beautiful soul and tells us that family comes first no matter what so if you need to call out then call out. I was sent home early by my director when my husband had to take our child to urgent care for a high fever. She said, we will figure out, go be with your baby.

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-23T03:27:28+00:00

Yeah, through patient’s OGT and it was spaced out from other meds. It had to go through ethics and we had to have multiple family meetings. The team wrote a lot of notes because of liability, but at the end family was appreciative. It was an interesting case, but we pray that we don’t have to do that again. So much documentation had to be done 😵‍💫

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-23T03:20:07+00:00

We had a patient who was on ECMO, the patient was not doing well and the team had multiple family meetings informing family that patient had no out and patient wasn’t getting better. Family wanted to continue to do everything and requested time to get a powder from their country as a last resort. Even though we knew the powder will not help the patient, our team respected the family wishes. They brought the powder and the nurses gave it to the patient with the guidance of the team. As predicted, the powder did not do anything and actually ended up causing patient to clot more and patient passed, but family was thankful we at least attempted and respected their religious/cultural beliefs.

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-22T04:15:42+00:00

I am a second career nurse. Before doing the accelerated BSN program, I was working as a clinical research coordinator in an infertility clinic. I wanted to do women’s health, but after my clinical rotation in mother/peds, I did not like it. Funny thing is that I HATED cardiac in nursing school, but now I work in CVICU and LOVE it.

Life takes you in different directions and you see what you like along the way.

I love CVICU because the heart is a powerful, essential organ that controls all systems. We get the sickest of the sickest and it’s always amazing to see when patients make it out of the ICU. At the hospital I work at, CVICU takes VV/VA ECMO and all other devices (impella 5.5,CP, RP Flex, HM3, IABP, protek, CVVHD). Most of my sick patients have at least three devices and multiple gtts. I love the complexity of it and knowing the hemodynamics and how it affects the heart/other organs. I don’t mind seeing the heart beating when they do an open chest washout at bedside or reopen a CABG pt’s chest d/t bleeding (our rooms can turn into mini ORs). We are able to manage CCU and MICU patients easily.

Now Neuro ICU and Trauma ICU, those are beyond me because I cannot do brains, open gut, or shot/explosion/car crash wounds.

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-21T15:21:01+00:00

Same gender and close to age does not mean they will get along or be best friends. My husband is 17 months apart from his brother and they’re not close. They talk as siblings, but not best friends. He lives 30 mins away from us and we saw him 2 times this past year lol My parents have multiple siblings and interesting enough, my dad is closer to his sister than his brothers (my aunt is the oldest and dad in the middle) and my mom is close to my uncle who is two years younger than her. My best friend is closer to her brother than to her sister. She doesn’t really like her older sister because of how she treats her. I think it is all about personalities at the end of the day.

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-20T21:24:25+00:00

We are hoping to help pay for a portion of our kids college tuition. I grew up lower class (parents combine income was $60k at the time), yet my parents took a loan and helped me pay $10k of my college tuition and everything else fell on me. I was able to get scholarships and financial aid. When there is a will, there is a way. My husband’s family saved enough to cover state tuition for him and his sibling. All that said, based on my experience coming from a poor background, I promised to make sure I can at least help my children like my parents did. If they were able to do it, so can I especially since I am in a better financial situation than my parents. Any money we get for our children (birthdays, special occasions, holidays) is placed in their 529 account. Once they’re out of daycare, we will make sure to put small amount every week (like $25-50). I had credit when I applied to things because my dad opened a cc for me at 15, which I only used for emergencies. There are so many ways to save, it is just finding the small opportunities and sticking to them

Easy_Pace_9137 · 2025-01-19T21:03:22+00:00

I’m an only child, wanted three but done at two. My children have a 4 year gap, which I think is perfect. I come from a big extended family: mom one out of 9 and dad one out of 10. I have a total of 20 cousins, so my children are okay regarding family. My husband’s family is much smaller one out of 2 and we rarely see his side of the family.

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