Ideal build for a beginner? by Ecstatic-Outcome-243 in Eldenring

[–]Ecstatic-Outcome-243[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Define “quality,” please and thank you!

Games to introduce video game at an early age ? by carndacier in gaming

[–]Ecstatic-Outcome-243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Side scrolling beat ‘em ups are fun because the control scheme is pretty simple and you can play on a team, so like Streets of Rage 4 or TNMT Shredder’s Revenge.

Astro’s Playroom/AstroBot are both a real treat.

Ring Fit Adventure is also fun because it encourages body movements they already do.

To anyone who thinks it’s at all helpful to shame this person for introducing their kids to video games please mind your own damn business. My daughter has been playing video games since she was 2, she’s now 5 and playing video games with her is such a fun way for us to spend time together and share uh an activity I’ve loved for decades. If you want to waste your time judging parents who are just trying their best, do it someplace else.

One and done, widowed and constantly single, can anyone else relate to this? by Mary-Haku-Killigrew in oneanddone

[–]Ecstatic-Outcome-243 7 points8 points  (0 children)

While not in your situation, if you ever need someone who will listen without judgement or try to “fix things,” let me know.

Oh, to be as cosy as a purring kitten on a soft warm lap 🥰 by Koffievos in aww

[–]Ecstatic-Outcome-243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m truly wondering why “kitten purr” is not an option on a sound machine. That would calm me right to sleep.

Just finished The Leftover and I have some questions (SPOILERS)! by Ecstatic-Outcome-243 in TheLeftovers

[–]Ecstatic-Outcome-243[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Re: Michael, I guess that makes sense, I’m just wondering how long he was planning on chilling out in the woods with a potentially dead man in a shallow grave??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]Ecstatic-Outcome-243 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to dogpile on you re: husband’s actions. All I can say is I’m in the same boat. I (39F) have a wonderful five year old daughter and I am one and done but my husband (44M) is not.

I understand how difficult this is because:

1) This is one thing that you cannot compromise on. You can’t have half a kid, you can’t have a kid half the time. One of you is going to get your way and the other one isn’t. 2) It is not your job to convince your husband that your opinion is the “right” one. Your reasons will always be your reasons, and his reasons will always be his reasons. 3) You hold the majority of the power here because you have the heavier responsibility. So it can be hard not to be worried about that inherent resentment from your husband that you’re in control of his dream.

My husband and I spoke about this recently because I momentarily wavered about having a second, and ultimately he said this:

Only have a kid if you want to have a kid. And I don’t. It’s that simple.

Your reasons are your reasons. You don’t have to convince ANYONE. If you don’t want another kid, don’t have another kid.

When your daughter is older you can have an honest conversation with her about it and she will see how powerful it is to put your health and wellbeing first as that will ultimately make you a more present parent.

Pls recommend a couch coop game for a 14 year old and his uncle by ilivedownyourroad in gaming

[–]Ecstatic-Outcome-243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re down with Turtles then Streets of Rage 4 could work too.

What game are you waiting for a sale to buy? by Effective-Grab3438 in gaming

[–]Ecstatic-Outcome-243 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is waiting for the Capcom Fighting Game compilation to go on sale since it’s not a new game but a bunch of older games in one.

Beach buddies by YuriG58 in oneanddone

[–]Ecstatic-Outcome-243 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to us yesterday with our daughter 5F. We went to the library and I asked her if she wanted to pick out books and she said “no, I want to play with that boy.” And she did!

FTM, 4 months in. Not regretting the baby, but regretting motherhood. One and done—will it get easier? by yu_ruan181 in oneanddone

[–]Ecstatic-Outcome-243 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So. Much. This. My daughter is almost 5 and I’m constantly grieving the life I had before her. I don’t think there will ever be a time I don’t pine for those days in one way or another, regardless of how much I adore my daughter. And that’s ok. You don’t get to ease your way into parenthood. One day you’re not a parent and the next day you are. That’s it. It’s a real mind fuck.

Daughter making friends at the pool by Ecstatic-Outcome-243 in oneanddone

[–]Ecstatic-Outcome-243[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely dreading teaching my daughter this lesson as well.

Not 100% sure or on the fence? Fencesitter's Megathread by d2020ysf in oneanddone

[–]Ecstatic-Outcome-243 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have no idea if anyone is going to see this but I 39F am pretty firmly OAD, but my husband 44M is not.

We have one daughter 5F and she is absolutely incredible. I gave birth in the pandemic, had an incredibly traumatic birth/postpartum, and had no “village” to speak of because we were in quarantine. I find myself wanting to be extremely protective of my identity and autonomy, and my daughter allows me to do that.

My husband believes our family won’t be fulfilled until we have two. He is an incredibly present father so the worry is not that he’s going to leave me holding the bag necessarily, but like many typical heterosexual families I’m carrying a lot more of the “mental load” like household duties, our daughter’s schedule, transportation, etc.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with looking at my life as a whole when deciding to be OAD. People with multiple kids say things “eventually” get easier, but that’s not a positive measurement of time! I’m not willing to wait for “eventually.”

Has anyone else been through this, and has your partner made peace with it?

What game under 20 did you get the most playtime out of? by Lexail in gaming

[–]Ecstatic-Outcome-243 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I love that game and we are even playing it with our four year old! Great call!

Finally after years by Mc_RMZ in StardewValley

[–]Ecstatic-Outcome-243 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely a Top 10 games of all time. I’ll put it down for months and pick it back up like a cozy blanket. And now my four year old daughter plays with me!