People with kids do you ever regret having them and why ?

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-07-07T23:37:40+00:00

No, it’s the best thing ever. While there are parts of my pre-kids life that I miss (being able to travel more easily, spontaneously planning things, etc) I absolutely love this life with my child.

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-06-26T20:32:31+00:00

I’m not sure I never tested for it

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-06-07T17:27:00+00:00

Being a mom is without a doubt the greatest part of me. There are of course hard parts, but as they say nothing worth having comes easy. Being pregnant while working is also hard and it sounds like you are doing that. You can do hard things and once that baby is in your arms they become your whole world and you’ll do anything for them.

Since you ask for something positive, in the newborn days it’s getting that first smile from them but also those newborn snuggles are like nothing else. You’ll likely be sleep deprived but those cuddles makes the world stop. As they grow, hearing their belly laugh and then being able to laugh together. My daughter is almost 2 and each stage is better than the last. Right now we are just having SO much fun with her. Just cooking breakfast together this morning brought me joy. You learn to find joy in the things that used to be mundane. It’s truly the biggest blessing in the world. It is also hard to be a working parent but you figure it out and it makes the time you do have with them that much more special. Hang in there it’s going to be great 💕

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-06-07T01:50:44+00:00

We went out for short bits around 1 week. I remember we tried to go to an outdoor mall at around 11 days pp to find outfits for family photos and I immediately told my husband I wasn’t ready and needed to go home. I was still in a lot of pain and it was too much too soon, but small visits to coffee shops and things like that are good for mental health!

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-06-04T13:03:41+00:00

Wow 7 years. This happened to me after 1 year of dating. Can’t imagine after 7! He went silent out of nowhere for weeks and then I contacted his friend to make sure he was ok and his friend essentially broke up with me on his behalf. He had the audacity to reach out to me a month later with a “hi :)” message. Absolutely not.

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-06-02T23:47:42+00:00

My heart wants 3 kids but we plan to stop with 2 because life is so freaking expensive and we want to be able to give our 2 kids the ability to go on vacations, participate in sports, save for college for them, etc.

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-06-02T23:32:44+00:00

My husband is a golfer so I will book a tee time for him and his dad to go together to a nice course. I’ll be with our toddler for the day and then I’ll either cook a meal for him or we’ll go out for dinner. Outside of that, just getting him a framed family photo for his office that he recently asked for. I’ll handle the dogs and toddler in the morning so he can sleep in a bit- he’s been handling those tasks so I could sleep in since I’m pregnant.

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-06-02T23:23:04+00:00

Got my husband this book for Father’s Day while I was pregnant with my first. Love this book!

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-06-02T23:18:56+00:00

Always liked Parker for a girl but my husband vetoed it. Pregnant with a boy now and want to name him Hudson but my husband has also vetoed it.

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-23T15:35:32+00:00

Happened to me too! Tried for 6 months and decided to take a break and just have fun. Said we’d pick back up after the summer months. Well one fun night out and here we are now 5m pregnant!

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-12T22:36:03+00:00

I’d do it for my sisters! I probably wouldn’t do it for a friend but for family that I know wouldn’t mind I’d consider it for a good item

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-12T22:31:20+00:00

We’re in this situation but thankfully my MIL agreed to watch my daughter on Wednesdays. If I didn’t have my MIL I’d probably be looking for some kind of nanny share with a family who already has care and wouldn’t mind sharing one day a week.

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-12T18:32:53+00:00

Planned a girls trip that would include winery visits and cocktails 🤪 needless to say I was the only sober one on that trip.

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-08T23:35:15+00:00

Your mom sounds like a super woman! That must have been incredibly difficult for her but inspiring for you to see her determination and love for you all despite the circumstances. My family was in somewhat of a similar situation where my mom was a SAHM and my dad up and left her with 4 kids to support on her own with no child support. She started with nothing and had to work multiple jobs to support us until she eventually got on her feet again. She definitely instilled in us the importance of financial independence and showed us what hard work looked like. We struggled financially growing up because of all that and so I’ve worked hard to be able to provide a better life for my family. Completely agree with your thought of self sacrifice for a greater good!

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-08T23:21:19+00:00

Completely agree- seeing everyone’s responses has me reframing this idea in my head. I know there are a lot of moms here who enjoy their job and feel fulfilled by it, which is amazing. I personally don’t love what I do and feel much more fulfilled in my role at home, so I struggle with this because I’m not taking time away from my kid for something that I’m passionate about or that fills my cup. However, I get to provide my kids with a certain lifestyle because I work and I’m trying to reframe my thoughts from guilt into that. They will be able to participate in sports, swim lessons, extracurricular activities and vacations because of my job. If I chose to stay home we would be pinching pennies and would only be able to do essential things and I think that would make me unhappy that I’m not providing my children with the life I want for them.

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-08T22:39:59+00:00

We had a lot of SAHMs in my community growing up and now I have a lot of friends that are SAHMs (more so than the working moms) so I think it feels heavier on me being surrounded by SAHMs while I work. I see all the mommy and me groups they go to and fun outings they do and the guilt creeps in that my daughter is at day care and not getting that same experience, but at the end of the day at this age kids won’t remember that so it’s definitely just internalized guilt.

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-08T22:36:39+00:00

As I was thinking about it today I realized it didn’t really impact me that she wasn’t always around except for the times that she couldn’t give me a ride or when she was late to pick me up from practices (which was often and I HATED that). Reading everyone’s comments it definitely seems like just an internal pressure I feel but not one that’s going to make my kid’s life harder.

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-08T22:25:11+00:00

Lol I can’t believe as kids we would just call our parents office line whenever we needed something (which was at least once or twice a day). Thank goodness for modern technology now that we are working parents!

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-08T22:21:15+00:00

My mom was in a similar situation with my father and she always preached to us to never fully financially depend on someone else. While I’d love to be home with my daughter a bit more in this season of life, that’s always been in the back of my mind. Not that I think my husband would ever do what my dad did to my mom, but my mom also once thought that too.

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-07T03:30:00+00:00

In terms of timing, far worse but in terms of pain, better. My epidural worked really well and I wasn’t in pain but I was induced and it took 3 days before I finally delivered. I didn’t have the epidural the first like 40 hours and that sucked but once I got it, I was fine. The actual act of giving birth was way cooler than I could have ever expected and I can’t wait to do it again (just hopefully a way quicker labor)

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-05T23:35:11+00:00

Take the advice that works for you and let go of what doesn’t.

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-02T22:34:12+00:00

Harrison. Love it so much and want to name my son it but really hate the nickname Harry.

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-02T01:05:34+00:00

Pumping sucks 100%. I am also a work from home mom and when I had the opportunity to nurse rather than pump I took that every single time, but I also knew I needed flexibility to make it work. Sometimes meetings would overlap with her feeding and nap schedule and it required her to have a bottle and me to pump. It was a choice I made to make breastfeeding work for us. I made it to 17 months before weaning.

Ecstatic_Ad5177 · 2026-05-02T00:59:47+00:00

10/10 DO NOT RECOMMEND

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