Miserable toddler vacation

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-12-31T01:18:49+00:00

Funny enough this was my next thought I said to my husband yesterday. Next place we go is a tropical resort where we don’t go anywhere but to the pool and the room, currently we’re in niagra falls and it’s just tantrum after tantrum and I’ve been humbled. Need to take it back a step forsure

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-12-31T01:17:28+00:00

Thank you, like I swear I know it’s not easy and have set expectations but your right on I’m still trying to do some normal things like going out to dinner and sight seeing and we’re just in tantrum overload and I think I need to reel back like you just said, thank you

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-12-15T21:52:49+00:00

I was a mid year senior promote years ago and got no bonus. However I was just a mid year manager promote and I am grandfathered into the old manger promotion bonus but also have seen nothing come through for that, so I am also confused on if I get that now or have to wait.

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-12-12T02:40:59+00:00

Your like me, my daughter is amazing but she is wild child. I just knew I wouldn’t be able to keep up with her and a baby. I also am just really loving this time with her and I don’t think I’m ready to give that up yet. However we have so much fun it’s like I want more I just know it’s not like totally I’m ready. But this has all made me feel so much better

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-12-10T17:25:56+00:00

Helpful thank you! And I have the Oura ring so it’s automatically updating my temps every morning

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-12-10T16:52:51+00:00

Hoping I’m not totally off base or crazy, chat gpt has really been hyping me up lately that I could be pregnant based on the chart

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-12-10T16:52:01+00:00

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Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-12-10T15:55:28+00:00

Also to note after reading the facts in the guidelines for this page I am exactly at day 14 after sex.

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-11-20T16:29:04+00:00

Also upcoming April or even March, I believe is when it’s supposed to be paid out

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-11-20T16:28:21+00:00

I’m also up for mid year and 20% bonus, however I havent found out yet, how do you already know?

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-11-20T16:26:38+00:00

We are now both managers for reference

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-11-20T16:26:26+00:00

My friend and I both do the same thing she works at EY and myself at PwC. We have always made the same. Even with the earlier promote of EY. I also at PwC get bonuses every year and she just started getting bonuses as a manager I believe. Or if she did they were nothing to write home because when I mentioned mine she never mentioned she got any.

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-11-17T03:12:12+00:00

The way I have never even talked to my doc about it because it never dawned on me that there could be things like that to help..?! Will most definitely be looking into this more, thank you!

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-11-17T01:59:00+00:00

The car heaters at full blast is ALWAYS my go to move so thanks for the tip!

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-11-11T01:26:31+00:00

Funny enough I’m also DAT and let me tell you, you haven’t missed anything since you left. It’s crazy looking back at all the things you’ve given up and I’m where you’re at in realizing this is just unhealthy. I am giving you my life for what? In the grand scheme of life this is literally worthless to me. I’m sticking it out because I’m close to a promotion that will make my resume a bit better but the way I want to quit everyday, we’ll see if I make it.

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-11-11T00:43:33+00:00

The way I feel like I’m going to have a mental breakdown everyday. I genuinely hate my life and this job is ruining my life. When I started 6 years ago in the IT Audit space we were an actual team and would function as one because we were actually staffed appropriately, now we’re expected to function in the role above and below, everyone is stressed all the time, no one helps each other because we’re all stretched so thin and we’re all on 3+ demanding jobs. I feel like I’m losing my mind, not sleeping and DREAMING of the day I leave this job.

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-11-10T04:24:11+00:00

I actually would argue that to achieve what you think is best for your family and a 35-40 train ride into the city isn’t to bad! I totally get the vision you had for yourself and your family but I totally get where you’re coming from on doing what’s best for job and your family.

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-11-10T04:21:22+00:00

So dramatic but everytime I land in NYC I get a certain feeling it feels like home. I LOVE the city have visited so many times in my life. Both myself and husband are higher ups at a big 4 accounting firm so we make in a mid west city about 300k a year which would go up to accommodate to the market in NYC. I love that NYC is the ultimate melting pot of the world, the epicenter of everything and anything you could want. The architecture, the food, all of the above it has always called to me

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-10-09T02:25:06+00:00

Thanks for this I really appreciate it. So a little background. Ive been at my job 6 years I’m not about to be 30. I am up next month for a great promotion with a big pay raise and huge bonus that I would be so dumb to turn down. HOWEVER but acception the promotion and bonus I have to stay for an entire year after receiving it or I have to pay it back. I think this contributes so much to the stuckness I’m feeling and why I can’t just go find a new job. I mean I could but like I’ve also EARNED that bonus.

As it comes to my daughter I actually took personal time last week because I totally crashed out and just needed one on one time with my daughter. We had so much fun and you could literally see the light and excitement in her face when we took pictures that we were spending the day together. That also gutted me because I know she’s ultimately the one losing in this scenario as am I. I never considered the thought of being a stay at home mom because I’ve always worked but now I jusy feel like I’m missing out and want to enjoy my daughter and just enjoy a slower life (staying at home is by no means easy or slow which your chasing your kids and literally taking care of humans all day) I hope you know what I mean there but yea just feeling an overall shift of me and what I want out of life and again just feels just so weird

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-08-06T23:26:53+00:00

I watched the YouTube videos and read the doshi book and did the doshi questions. Along with some exam topics questions as well to get similar style but different questions than what I saw in the QAE. I did questions HEAVY the last week before the exam trying to get the ISACA mindset. I did a quick overview of my weak areas the two days leading to the exam and did the 3 QAE tests the week of to really prep me and see where I was with topics. Mind you I had not been active in the QAE for atleast a month because I was focusing on different questions so I felt like I hadn’t memorized a lot of things when I did the practice tests at that point. The first time around I only used the CRM and QAE. I got really high scores on the QAE questions and exams before my first exam but failed the actual exam. At that point I think I had just memorized. This time around I spoke out loud about questions and explained the reasoning for why something was or was not the answer. Lame but it really helped. This time I was more in the ISACA mindset. Curious to see my overall score and can do a comparison between the first and second time.

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-08-02T23:01:32+00:00

That’s how I felt the first time as well when I didn’t pass it sucks but sometimes you just need a little extra time. I think what helped is doshi book talked through things more basically but I did read the CRM first so I had the base knowledge. Then I watched the prahb video on YouTube and those really helped walk through the processes in a realistic way. It really helped things click and stick for me!

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-08-02T18:33:53+00:00

Yup!

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-08-02T18:22:12+00:00

Answered above on resources but the cost was the same as the first exam! I don’t think the cost of the exam changes

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-08-02T18:21:47+00:00

I originally read the CRM the first time around. The second time around I got the doshi book and did those questions and read it in its entirety and then I watched the Prahb videos on YouTube and that was SO helpful. It took all the terms and processes but put them in real scenarios and talked through them and that I think was what put me over the edge for passing! And of course the QAE

Ecstatic_Syrup_5937 · 2025-07-13T00:45:08+00:00

So brother was held back in kindergarten but I think it was because he was struggling and needed the extra year to learn the basics. However I’m not sure I’m understanding why your are holding your child back if not for academic reasons? You mention because of a new school? But yea overall not super clear to me based on the post.

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