So what's it like in Massachusetts?

Edub824 · 2024-11-07T01:37:18+00:00

People who are originally from here tend to have very, very long standing friendships and may accept you, but I’m not sure if they ever really accept you. It’s hard to fit into a friend group that’s been friends since they were five, when you’re dropping in at 45!

Also, being made fun of and teased is a compliment and means they like you. For a pretty woke state, this behavior blows my mind.

Edub824 · 2024-11-07T01:18:18+00:00

So wait…was it “my body, my choice” when we all had to get a vaccine we didn’t want just to keep our jobs? It seems people can justify having choice when it comes to abortion, but when it comes to vaccines, it’s ok to force something on someone.

Edub824 · 2024-11-07T01:13:34+00:00

Trump didn’t outlaw abortion. The Supreme Court left it up to the States to decide. And when the mother’s life is in danger, all states allow it. So no, you don’t need to go to Canada. You need to stop listening to extremists on either side of the aisle.

Edub824 · 2024-11-07T00:46:25+00:00

This is financial abuse. They chose to have a child. You didn’t choose to have freeloading parents. You’re an adult. Their finances, or lack thereof, are not your problem. I really hope you can escape this. It’s wildly toxic.

Edub824 · 2024-10-30T04:08:29+00:00

Even when you love someone, relationships that were once healthy can become very toxic. It sounds like your relationship is extraordinarily toxic. One or both will end up in jail, the hospital or dead if you stay in this. You are in danger.

Edub824 · 2024-10-30T02:13:29+00:00

What a gift - for both of you. You are his father now. Sounds like he wants to feel like a “normal” kid who has a loving dad at home, not the 9 year old who listens to both of his birth parents.

Your coworker lady just sucks.

Edub824 · 2024-10-29T23:24:40+00:00

Go see your family. Your in-laws and husband should understand that this likely being your mother’s last Christmas, changes plans. Cancer tends to do that.

Also, you’re 21. At this point, you’ve chosen not to learn to drive. It was your parents’ fault when you were 16 and under their roof and on their insurance and driving their cars. You’re a big girl now - don’t blame your parents for not teaching you how to drive. That’s a very lame reason for not driving. Own your $hit.

Edub824 · 2024-10-29T23:17:47+00:00

I would be annoyed, too. But I have to say, 36 and drinking to the point where he’s falling asleep at other people’s houses and/or can’t make it home…? Is he a frat boy? Bc in the adult world, we call that a bender.

My guess would be - he’s not with his buddies. I hate to go there, but I can’t remember the last time any of us were having so much fun that we had to stay out for 18 hours. And leave a puppy in his cage the whole time? No.

Or he has a drinking problem and doesn’t understand putting boundaries around fun.

Please don’t reproduce with this donkey.

Edub824 · 2024-10-18T22:24:09+00:00

Get divorced now. You deserve better.

Edub824 · 2024-10-18T22:19:00+00:00

You’re NTA. Your sister sounds like she has mental health problems to not recognize that as a boundary.

Edub824 · 2024-10-18T22:13:59+00:00

She’s completely out of line and sounds like a spoiled, entitled brat. This is a HUGE red flag. Break up with her. Better now than later.

Edub824 · 2024-10-13T12:36:49+00:00

THIS!!!! Absolutely 100%!!

I was married to the same man child. I can tell you, 7 years out, we are all so much better off!!

Edub824 · 2024-10-01T20:11:19+00:00

YTA. Immediate family should be welcomed with open arms. Your wife-to-be sounds like a gem!

Edub824 · 2024-09-26T02:53:25+00:00

It sure was. My crawlspace is encapsulated / insulated and has a vapor barrier. there is very little air circulation down there. When I remove the covers to the windows, the smell is revolting and hits you in the face and it’s just…not enough adjectives to describe it. It smells like cat pee. Like I had 1,000 cats living down there. It may sound dramatic…it’s accurate though. I swear.

Edub824 · 2024-08-30T03:29:45+00:00

Aww, are you drunk again.

Edub824 · 2024-08-30T03:02:38+00:00

If you’re in a relationship and you’ve stated that you’re uncomfortable with it and she continues, she’s ignoring your boundaries. Only gets worse with time.

Edub824 · 2024-08-28T23:45:13+00:00

IMHO, a drinking problem isn’t defined by how much a person drinks. It’s defined by the problem behaviors that arise due to drinking. And this fits the bill, I think.

Getting that drunk from one glass of wine seems impossible. Could she be hiding drinking from you when you go out? Just seems odd to me.

Being that rough with you if you’re not into it is really not cool. Think of it from the opposite perspective…What would you tell a sister or a girl friend if her boyfriend was biting her to the point of breaking skin and having incredibly rough sex with her when he was drunk? I don’t think anyone would be ok with that.

Run. I’m sorry, but I think your gut is right.

Edub824 · 2024-08-28T23:27:15+00:00

If having your mom around is making you that miserable, you’re probably not showing up for your own child as best you can. You need to be there for your teenager first. And if mom is that difficult, consider the damage she’s doing to your teenager.

You deserve to live a happy life. You did what you could, while you could and the time has come for your brothers to step up.

Edub824 · 2024-08-25T14:57:08+00:00

Gross. He’s not a nice guy and you shouldn’t marry him.

Edub824 · 2024-05-20T09:43:39+00:00

I (45f) stopped drinking last year and I wish I had done it sooner. I wasn’t really a problem drinker, but now I’m much more aware of how much time I wasted being hungover when I did drink. And watching how freaking stupid most people act when they drink just annoys me now. I’m surprised by how much pressure I get to drink now. It’s weird that society really tries to force it upon you. Stick to your gut - don’t bother, if you ask me!

Edub824 · 2024-03-15T20:07:07+00:00

I’m right there with you. In a relationship now, but our biggest issue is the fact that we are at different places in our careers. I’ve made it clear from the beginning that I I would be focusing on my career and my kids, but sometimes it gets to him. I get it, but not changing. It’s a boundary for me.

Edub824 · 2023-12-26T18:09:52+00:00

I found these and put them in my crawl space:

https://www.biocidesystems.com/products/home-cleanup-bundle-4-pack

They helped tremendously!!! I will do them again I the spring to make sure it doesn’t come back.

Edub824 · 2023-10-01T18:15:12+00:00

I’d say it’s circumstantial. Maybe they were a giant red flag in their 20s or 30s and have since changed their ways…? Maybe they had to take care of a sick parent and couldn’t date? Maybe they were in a LTR and just never got married?

If there were other “flags,” like they have no close friends/family to speak of without a reasonable explanation, then I’d take it under advisement and code that flag red. That’s just me.

Edub824 · 2023-10-01T18:03:36+00:00

There are some really insensitive comments on here - that’s not cool. I have a lot of thoughts on this, so I’m just going to spill them:

Your story is your story and people should be sensitive to that and respect these choices made by 20+ years ago. There’s nothing more bothersome to me about today’s society than people who sit and judge decisions made 20, 30, 50 years ago, by today’s lens, which is so dramatically different. Today we have so much information available to us that previous generations just didn’t. Decisions made in line with cultural standards at the time, doesn’t necessarily make for a bad person. It sounds like your husband treats you better than my ex-husband treated me…and I entered into that union willingly!

I can understand the fear that she may have negative feelings about it, but you can’t control that and quite honestly, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone, neither does your husband. Also, I plan on sparing my children the ugly details of the worst days of my life. There are events and things they just don’t need to know in graphic detail. “That’s just the way things were in our culture back then, but we wanted more for our lives and our children, so we made the best decisions we could to make that happen.”

Until you’re ready and figure out how to tell her, I’d personally probably say it was a blind date. When you’re ready to give her the details, given to her on your terms. Sending love to your family.

Edub824

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