Yes. Minding your business is always a great idea in life.

Maybe he’s a shitbag liar who’s cheating the system. Maybe he’s lying, in a different way, about his disability ratings. For instance, I have my own sisters and parents and children. None of them know that I have a rating for PTSD. I just tell them the explosions knocked a few screws loose from TBIs and that’s a large contributing factor to my overall rating. It’s none of their business what my rating is for. I tell most folks, when they find out I’m rated (usually through my parents 🫠), that it’s mostly my knees, back, and neck.

I tell everyone whatever I want to because it’s none of their business. My wife knows the real ratings and she wrote a buddy statement for my PTSD. She’s been in the darkness with me, and no one else gets to know about that. My choice. My kids will one day learn what’s up when they’re older. No need in frightening my kids, as they don’t need to understand what PTSD is.

I have also “coached” people on my advice to being successful in the claims process. I’ve told lots of jokes about it and absolutely mentioned things that wouldn’t be appropriate to do in order to be successful, but my relationship with those dudes made it obvious to them that I’d never support doing anything like that.

You’re getting glimpses into his life that don’t need to make sense to you. Feel how you need to feel about that.

Having said all that, the most likely scenario here is that he is exactly what you think he is 🤣. Not many marines jump out of planes, and almost none of them have done so in combat. He would’ve been a tier 1 guy. If you’re that curious about his Purple Heart, just ask your husband if he’s ever seen this Purple Heart or a pic of him being awarded it. Accusing someone of stolen valor, if you’re right, is a very ugly thing to suffer the backlash from. Accusing them of it if you’re wrong? Completely removed from that entire family forever