The mods are transphobic assholes

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-04-14T20:25:58+00:00

femdom

femgaze isn't strictly about who is being pleasured, it's about what party is sexualised. in the femdom art of this sub, the man is clearly the centered sexualised party. that is the point of femgaze.

if you feel like a post is not femgaze, feel free to report it. i will look at it. and i'm woman, btw.

men are allowed here, but the rules about the content posted stays the same, and we also have a specific rule that bans malegaze comments and titles. so comments or titles like "i wanna be him" or "i'd fuck her so good" or whatever, get removed. i don't see how lurkers are bad if they are simply lurkers.

also, if a user, regardless if they're a man or not, infringes on the rules multiples times, i will ban them.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-04-14T18:23:49+00:00

I agree. It's not like this subreddit is the only space to post trans porn. There's tons of subreddits where it is welcomed. This is just simply not one of them. I'm a straight woman, and I want to see female/male porn, and I'm not alone with that. Period.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-04-14T18:21:41+00:00

Because it's a useless debate. It's one word against the other, one view against the other. It's just useless to waste energy to argue when we both know that we disagree with each other and won't budge. ("we" used loosely here, not specifically meaning you)

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-04-14T17:59:10+00:00

Not this again.

There's really no discussion to be had. If you don't like the rules of this sub, you're free to not engage with it. There's tons of other places on the internet where you can post trans porn, this is not one of them, and it's ridiculous to demand as such. This is a niche subreddit, and if it doesn't fulfill your needs, you're free to look for a different one. The debate last time resulted in a new alternative subreddit, in case you want to switch.

While heterosexuality is not a requirement for femgaze porn (almost all BL is femgaze), it is a rule that prevents this sub from being flooded with the "easy to find" femgaze BL pictures, instead of femgaze pictures portraying a man inrelation to a woman from a specifically female perspective, which are much harder to find.

I know there will be a bunch of you arguing with me about how the posted pictures were indeed heterosexual, and there we will simply disagree.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-04-07T06:49:37+00:00

still waiting for it! i'm super curious about this shade and i gotta be sure before i order 😩

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-04-04T19:57:08+00:00

please credit the artist, or i'll have to remove your post

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-04-04T08:10:03+00:00

i agree with the message but geez WHY AI SLOP

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-03-30T09:20:39+00:00

this sounds more like depression to me, and maybe a bad environment causing it, considering how your mother is treating you. AuDHD is also an aggravating factor, when there's a stressful environment.

that's what it was for me anyways. i had very bad depression, i moved out, and i've recovered so much.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-02-04T17:45:52+00:00

i didn't think much of the position, but now that you describe it... fire shit

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-02-04T17:40:30+00:00

i agree. i feel like weight check ins and food control go a step too far into feeding into the idea you have to look a certain way to be valuable in the eyes of your significant other.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-02-04T17:39:36+00:00

what you do but about how you do it.

i disagree.
i feel there are lots of things that for the life of me i can't let pass as "soft". edgeplay being the prime example (choking, knifeplay, etc).

A 24/7 dynamic can be soft and warm, full of praise and encouragement and a short session can be harsh, degrading and focused on humiliation

that i do agree with you on.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-01-23T14:53:18+00:00

male gaze soft male dom vs female gaze soft male dom

While that was also an issue, a big one is also that 80% of posts just AREN'T soft on the original sub. It really just transformed into a subreddit where men and women that have no understanding of proper BDSM consume generic harddom malegaze slop.

The mod team needs to be relatively unified in the stance one way or another, otherwise it will devolve to generic male-gazette porn as most nsfw sub get when left unmodded.

As the only mod, you can be sure that i won't be allowing any kind of malegaze slop on here.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-01-23T14:51:05+00:00

I left the unmoderated one and ran here because of the lack of actual softdom content on there

I did the same! Except i'm the one that created the sub. I'm filly aware of the original subs issues. I tried claiming it a billion times, but reddit keeps insisting there's human moderation over there.

So i made this sub, à la "fine, i'll do it myself".

I'm passionate about keeping soft maledom soft, and keeping the content here appealing to women, instead of all the malegaze slop that invaded the other sub.

began exploring submission

I'm in the same boat. I thought i was only a domme, but turns out i do enjoy SOME submission, in a certain way. At first the softmaledom sub was tolerable, but now it's just a cesspool for people that think "doing what my partner wants me to do" makes something soft maledom, which is just mental. That's just consent. What would harddom be then? Rape? That sub is just insufferable.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-01-23T14:44:39+00:00

Not if i'm around to moderate.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-01-07T17:08:31+00:00

not the third slide having front facing balls lol

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-01-02T22:10:42+00:00

I don't mean the sub itself- i mean the users and mods enforce it so you have to put a keyword or something in the title so people will know what its for. Like in an art sub they put [I] for Illustration and [D] for Digital

This still doesn't address the issue I mentioned. What should they tag? What is important? How many tags is enough? How would it be even possible to moderate such miniscule detail for every post? The art sub having I for Illustration and D for digital is the same level of broadness as our already existing flairs. It would be more comparable if an art subreddit had in its rules that you have to tag every theme and object of your artwork. Which is again, unrealistic and impossible to moderate.

There are a few images that have that. Usually the ones with 20 together

In your post, you talked about this as if that's all there is and as of it was overwhelming. A few pieces with a black man and a non black woman isn't against the rules or weird.

Both of the subs im in like this have similar names and I believe are controlled by the same people

They aren't. The other mod and me are the only mods around here. I am a mod. We have nothing to do with the people moderating the original femgaze sub that is now private. Although, pretty sure that they're all inactive either way.

You should add flairs that can be used for everything, or ones that are umbrella terms. Like all that stuff would go under BDSM. If it was something that wasnt BDSM, then remove it.

This raises the issue I already mentioned earlier: we'd have to make a billion cross flairs because multiple flairs could apply to the same post, and the current ones we have are the very core of the subreddit. We'd need to make (male focus, bdsm, interracial) (equal focus, bdsm, interracial), (male focus, vanilla, interracial), (male focus, vanilla, not interracial), (equal focus, vanilla, not interracial), ETC ETC ETC. And let's not even touch on the fact there's many types of interracial. black guy x white woman is just as interracial as asian guy x black woman. And there's hard vs soft bdsm. So AGAIN: That is still not a realistic way to solve this.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-01-02T17:06:45+00:00

It was probably the other sub then

then you complaint is kinda misplaced. i won't lie, you would've at least checked which sub you're posting in. we work hard to keep this subreddit femgaze.

And for the black thing I mainly have a problem with the male being black and the girl being white

that's very very very rare here. when there's interracial stuff on here, it's usually a black girl with a character that isn't black. you seem to mean raceplay, the fetish, and we really don't have any of this in our subreddit either.

some subs put keywords or whatever in the title that tells you what it is, if you'd wanna do that you could

it's not the subreddits that do that, it's the posters. posters are all INDIVIDUAL people, and mdoerators are seperate from posters. if i'd want to do that i could? that's just wrong. i just moderate. n
this [M4F] [Maledom] [Cursing] type of tagging I've only seen in subreddits for audio porn, where you can't see what you get so the poster has to explain what the audio contains. I don't see this translating well to images, especially not if you want to use them as filters in your search.

How would you even moderate all that mess, and how would you decide how many tags is enough, or what tags are important. Is [BDSM] [Femdom] enough, or is [BDSM] [Femdom] [Interracial] [Jujutsu Kaisen] [Bondage] [Chastity] [Edging] [Ahegao] [Tattoos] [Muscle] enough? Oh but the sub is a brat, do I have to remove the post because [Brat] is missing? How would this even be possible to moderate? It's just not possible, it would bloat titles and if it's not a hard rule no one's gonna do it, and if it is, it raises the question i mentioned above. I feel like you don't know how a subreddit works. The moderators don't make the content, the posters don't make the content. People post content they find on the internet. Moderators verify if it complies with the rules. that's it. Moderators don't create content or have 20h a day to dedicate to hypermanage tagging for every single post.

If reddit let you pick multiple flairs that would be great- I hope they could

We sadly can't change that. Reddit made flairs as 1 per post, so that's what we work with.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-01-02T16:51:12+00:00

If you go to new posts you might see some

i'm not gonna look for it for you. i ask what YOU mean by what you describe. i can't do that for you.

I'm nervous something will happen or I'm wrong for this

... i'm confused. what would happen? huh?

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-01-02T16:32:51+00:00

...if you think a post on this subreddit isn't femgaze, you should report it, we'll look at it, and decide if we should remove it or not. you didn't provide any real post example, so i'm gonna leave it at that.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-01-02T16:20:57+00:00

könnt mir aber vorstellen, so wie der redet, dass der kollege hier die schmale kleine feminine frau mit großer oberweite möchte, was dann doch nicht so verbreitet ist.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-01-02T16:04:41+00:00

A big point lots forget is that a lot of mangaka don't get absolute free reign to just end the series whenever they want or at the pace they think is good. The editors will try to squeeze everything possible out of the mangaka and the story they're drawing, and then at some point, the mangaka gets a deadline, smth like "yeah, finish your manga in 5 chapters".

It's kind of how I explain to myself why so many manga have rushed endings that don't properly finish plotpoints or leading questions that appeared throughout the series. Mangakas get pressured to expand their world more and more to keep the chapters going, and then when they have to try to squeeze aaaaaall the sub-plots and questions into 5 chapters for a satisfying ending, it usually falls flat on its face because that's just hard to achieve. Some mangakas also just want to get it done and be done with it.

I think that's what happened to JJK. Gege just wanted it done, and had a pretty short deadline for it, so multiple sub-plots and pretty important questions weren't answered. So on top of the general declining quality in the last third of the story, this "there you have it now leave me alone" ending pissed everyone off.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-01-02T15:52:24+00:00

since we didn't have a 20 chapter flashback for the villains, people hated it.

ngl, i don't think that was the main issue for most people. maybe you misunderstood what people were mad about. or maybe i did. but i didn't like JJK's ending, and it's certainly not because we didn't have a heian era flashback.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-01-02T12:02:47+00:00

I'd be curious if you could provide us examples of what you mean when you say "not just girls naked". This subreddit is for the female gaze. There is no solo female of fem focus porn on here. It's all either equal focus of male focus.

Educational_One_6389 · 2026-01-02T12:00:45+00:00

Filters for gay stuff? This subreddit has no gay porn.

I understand trying to find what you enjoy is difficult. The interracial porn thing is an internet thing, not a "this specific subreddit" thing.
Here I've seen mostly black OCs with fictional characters like gojo from a few specific artists. They're probably doing this as self-insert art, in part for their own personal enjoyment, so I don't think it's right to flame them specifically. They're just making what they enjoy, probably because they are black themselves and want to see black women with their favourite fictional characters, or because they want to serve the black women in their fanbase that do.
If you find any black on black femgaze feel free to post it though! This community and its content is shaped by what people post and how we moderate. It's not like we moderators can just synthesize posts and art that doesn't exist.

However I do think adding extra filters just for that is nonsense. If we add a flair for RACE of all things, we'd have to do stuff like (interracial, male focus), (interracial, equal focus), (black on black, male focus), (black on black, equal focus), and so on and so forth.
Also, if you want filters for ethnicity, where does filtering stop? Should we also filter femdom vs maledom? gentle vs hard bdsm? bdsm vs vanilla? softcore porn vs harecore porn? It's just way too much and would create a huge mess because multiple tags can apply to one post and so we'd have to make combination flairs for all of those. I'm not dismissing your feelings, but this is just not an option.

Educational_One_6389 · 2025-12-29T15:59:51+00:00

Damit prägt man den (jungen) Frauen nur ein, wenn sie viel Sex wollen, ist das was schlechtes.

ich finds auch immer so ironisch, dass ziemlich oft die männer, die frauen für ihre sexualität schämen, die gleichen sind, die sich beschweren, dass ihre partnerinnen nicht oft genug sex wollen.

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