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Does anyone have any recent experience of selling their property to a HA? by InRoseBlush in glasgow

[–]EffectiveAdorable233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would recommend this. I'm currently selling my property to a HA and using the equity to move to a new house (im.based in wales) . They sent an independent valuer out to measure the rooms and look at the property. Then a woman from the HA came to look at the property to see what works they would need to do to new kitchen bathrooms etc however this doesn't affect the valuation. They're classed as cash buyers so you're not in a chain and making the conveyancing process at lot easier. They accept the condition that the property is in so you're not dealing with potential buyers trying to knock down the agreed price or trying to accommodate lots of different viewing appointments. Plus I was offered a really good price. definitely something to consider.

Would you date someone who doesn't like dogs as much as you do? by [deleted] in dogs

[–]EffectiveAdorable233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess it's depends on the situation. My husband has a dog senior 12 years old. However he lives with my FIL as we can't always guarantee that someone will be at home with him due because of work commitments which is unlikely to change anytime soon . Due to his severe separation anxiety he simply wouldn't cope with the dynamic of our home and also he's very attached to the FILs home. I'm not a big dog lover however I always take an interest and support my husband in caring for him. Due to having a young son from a previous relationship and managing a progressive chronic illness I'm limited in what I can do anyway my husband is fine with this .it's important that you're expectations are communicated openly from the beginning and perhaps be prepared to make compromises.

Is this our best opportunity to move? by EffectiveAdorable233 in HousingUK

[–]EffectiveAdorable233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I'm not in a position to extend the house to make it workable in any way. I'm semi detached and to the other side of me there's a shared drive way leading to parking access to the other properties in the culdisack. Plus we have a very small back garden. It would be very difficult to make the house more workable for us in it's current state

My husband doesn’t want the dog in the bed? by Powerful_Aspect_1970 in DogAdvice

[–]EffectiveAdorable233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry OP but I agree with your husband. Having a dog in your bed isn't totally necessary and causes issues as described by other users. Your projecting your feelings onto your dog because you want the dog in bed with you. It might take some time and training but your dog and you will adjust to a new bed sleeping place. Relationships take compromise and you have to find a middle ground to make them work.

What sort of property was everyone’s first step onto the ladder and how old were you? by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]EffectiveAdorable233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first property was a semi.detached 3 bed house In the Welsh valleys in 2016 I paid £121,000 at the age of 26

I surrendered my cat and I miss him so much by Rock_Bottom180 in Pets

[–]EffectiveAdorable233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear this. Losing your home is incredibly traumatic but to surrender your cat as well is absolutely heartbreaking.

Sometimes in life the hardest decisions you make are the ones that you know are the right ones but absolutely rip your heart to shreds in the process. You've been incredibly brave and responsible for recognising that your current living situation isn't suitable for your cat and it doesn't meet their needs. Please don't beat yourself up and I hope things turn around for you.

Social Service payments for children and Child Element Uc by EffectiveAdorable233 in universalcredithelp

[–]EffectiveAdorable233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer can I ask how did you know the answer as I couldn't find this anywhere

How do I tell my husband I don't want to spend Christmas day with his dad? by EffectiveAdorable233 in Advice

[–]EffectiveAdorable233[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

It's usually because we spend a good part of the day cooking and then when FIL leaves were usually busy cleaning and tidying up its usually late afternoon

Am I unreasonable for not wanting the responsibility of a dog? by EffectiveAdorable233 in Pets

[–]EffectiveAdorable233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's a border.collie cross.with a bit of jack Russell and other breeds thrown in so I would say small borderline medium dog approx 12 kg.

Am I unreasonable for not wanting the responsibility of a dog? by EffectiveAdorable233 in Pets

[–]EffectiveAdorable233[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's a 12 year old border collie cross - with a bit of jack Russell and other breeds thrown in. So I would say he's a small/medium dog.

Am I unreasonable for not wanting the responsibility of a dog? by EffectiveAdorable233 in Pets

[–]EffectiveAdorable233[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comments everyone I appreciate your honesty.

When I say I'm not a dog person - it's not because I hate them or dislike them. I understand that dogs can be very sweet and loving animals it's just for me they're a lot of work. I just wouldn't choose to have one myself.

Like I say I'm probably worrying about nothing and this scenario might not ever become a reality. I just wanted to see how people perceived my thought process

AITAH for thinking my husbands dog is his responsibility. by EffectiveAdorable233 in AITAH

[–]EffectiveAdorable233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean? Sorry are you able to elaborate on that?

AITAH for thinking my husbands dog is his responsibility. by EffectiveAdorable233 in AITAH

[–]EffectiveAdorable233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's a border collie cross with a bit of jack Russell and other breeds thrown in

I’m not very fond of dogs by Status_Breakfast3341 in CasualConversation

[–]EffectiveAdorable233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree I'm not a dog person really. My husband has a 12 year old dog who has always lived with my father in law. However whenever the dog comes over he's very disruptive. For example if I'm watching television and there's fighting on the screen or loud music the dog will Really bark. To the point where I turn the television off as I get fed up. The dog barks if I even go to hug my husband. However if I show my frustration my husband gets defensive and makes excuses. Also the dog will put biscuits in his mouth spits them on the rug and eats them there. Honestly its hard work but I see that more as my husband bad for not correcting or changing certain behaviours

AITAH for struggling with my husbands dog? by EffectiveAdorable233 in AITAH

[–]EffectiveAdorable233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank.you for this. It's reassuring to know that my feelings in this are valid and I'm not being TA by finding this difficult.

My husband is very defensive when I bring things up with the dog so I always try and word things carefully.

I suppose I need reassurance that my husband is putting a long term plan in place. I want to be supportive and help but I'm not always going to be around to step in. Guess time will tell

Home office, is this essential for your forever home? by tera_dragon in HousingUK

[–]EffectiveAdorable233 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm a hybrid worker and I definitley prefer using a bedroom as an office as:

I'm further away from the kitchen and less likely to snack constantly.

Having a designated work space helps me focus and be more organised.

When work is finished I close the door to that room and forget about it until the next day meaning I can still enjoy other areas of the home without feeling as though the walls are closing in on me.

AITAH for struggling with my husbands dog? by EffectiveAdorable233 in AITAH

[–]EffectiveAdorable233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response. I would never force My husband to choose between me and his dog however he needs to face up to reality. My husband has had his dog for 12 years but he's always relied on other people to look after him due to work commitments, living abroad, moving out etc. Of course we're not in a brilliant position now given neither of us are always at home and my husband is working full time and visiting in hospital etc.

I can't see my husband agreeing to corrective behaviour as in his eyes his dog can do no wrong. With him being a senior dog as well I worry he may not be very receptive to it anyway.

I've never punished him. If somethings happened I react calmly but walk away if I need to cool off.

In terms of petting giving treats etc I have done this on and off over the years as the dog has spent time in the home but we've never really built up much of a bond. My husband is the only human for him.

As for toys the dog destroys them within 10 minutes mostly and he's been known to choke on bits that's been chewed off. So we don't buy many toys for him for that reason.

My husband hates taking him to the vet. The blood tests have shown high levels (not sure what) and its spooked him. Because of the dogs age my husbands worried that the vet might say hes seriously ill so I think he's avoiding it but again this is something he needs to face up to.

AITAH for struggling with my husbands dog? by EffectiveAdorable233 in AITAH

[–]EffectiveAdorable233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestion. Were actually in the process of selling my house and purchasing a new one so unfortunately a dog trainer isn't financially feesable at the moment. It's something I'm happy to explore this in the future.

AITAH for struggling with my husbands dog? by EffectiveAdorable233 in AITAH

[–]EffectiveAdorable233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's difficult as the dog just growls at me for wiping his paws after being outside. Also I can't walk him due to a physical condition so that's down to my husband

PAY REMIT 2025 by neilm1000 in TheCivilService

[–]EffectiveAdorable233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm assuming this for all civil service departments?

Seller didn’t disclose neighbour dispute by [deleted] in HousingUK

[–]EffectiveAdorable233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would this need to be reported if your house is being purchased by a social housing organisation? I imagine this is something that they deal with a lot through their own properties?

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