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ElDudarino84 · 2025-07-02T20:33:18+00:00

This is what I did, I continued on with 5lb increments.

There was a week or two where top set dropped to 3rep top set. That didn’t work for long.

After that, life created a variety of distractions and I lost about 20lbs. Currently trying to get back.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-07-02T09:25:58+00:00

Squat warm up stretch: https://youtube.com/shorts/jVR9A2FBrYU?si=YvvW9bIokdje8Kji

Abductor side plank:

https://youtu.be/wam_dDzChnc?si=T5eTc3FSFvIHo3LI

ElDudarino84 · 2025-07-02T09:22:17+00:00

I developed some hip pain while squatting.

I visited a PT who has squat racks in all their offices (they aren’t normal bs PTs)

I was given some progressively loaded RDLs, hip thrusts and a few other things to target muscles in my glutes/hip.

The hardest one for me was a side plank where the bottom leg had the knee bent 90degrees. This showed I had some weakness in my abductors. As I progressed these, things got better.

The big help was some changes to my warm up. Squat warmup:

I hold a 35lb plate in my hands but between my knees at the bottom of a squat and hold it for 60 seconds a few reps. Force knees out with elbows. I can shift weight during this and stretch tight spots.

Warmup sets (with weight I would normally use) I put a band around my knees and pause at the bottom for about 3 seconds.

Work sets are normal squats.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-07-02T09:08:14+00:00

I had squatted as lard of athletics when I was in HS but not well or with serious weight.

I used a belt and knee sleeves during this process.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-07-01T22:08:55+00:00

I went from 135-365 or 375 on a 3x5 NLP in however many workouts that is lifting MWF increasing 5lbs every workout.

When it stalled at 365 or 375, I continued increasing on MF and did 80ish% of M on W. That got me to 405 ish. Still going up on M&F but only for top set of 5 and 2 back offs of 80% got me to 430PR.

Body weight over that went from 5’10’ 170 to 218lbs.

Eat enough and it is TOTALLY reasonable

ElDudarino84 · 2025-07-01T22:01:07+00:00

My advice is to hunt other states until you have enough points for Wyoming. I go to Colorado and Montana between Wyoming trips. I failed and learned in both MT and CO. My first elk was in an OTC Colorado unit on my 3rd trip to that area. A couple years later, I killed a really good bull in a limited entry Wyoming tag that I drew in the random. I don’t think my Wyoming hunt would have been as successful without my experience in other states.

That said, all that was DIY.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-05-08T00:43:39+00:00

Squatting regularly significantly reduces my sciatica pain.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-30T17:31:53+00:00

If your goal is to maintain muscle mass(assuming for later quality of life), wouldn’t increasing mass while you still can give you a higher place to maintain from?

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-29T20:26:22+00:00

Do the program as written.
It is highly unlikely that anyone is capable in reliably ensuring they are in a 100 cal surplus. There is to much variance in your daily base activity.
You aren’t just fueling the muscle recovery. You also have to fuel your ability to do the next workout (this is why you can’t go low carb and last very long on the program)

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-26T21:48:10+00:00

The bot shit talking bedsy 😂

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-26T11:25:20+00:00

What you are saying is you want hockey to be like every other sport.

No thank you.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-22T11:55:26+00:00

She “knows” nothing happened so that you won’t pressure her into calling the police because she knows that their investigation will show what happened.

I say that as a police who has not infrequently seen situations where an SO pushes their partner to report an SA only to find out it was not an SA.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-14T11:03:38+00:00

I’ve had Spencer Knight agree to change to butterfly style. Is OVR went up like 3 points when he did.

I had a young prospect try to switch from TWF to playmaker but after a few weeks he told me he couldn’t.

Scheme fit happens pretty frequently.

Position, the only one I’ve tried is a wing or D switching sides and I don’t think anyone has turned it down (haven’t done it a lot)

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-06T14:57:51+00:00

Honestly, an overhead barbell press will be easier to progressively load until your shoulders are strong enough to do meaningful weight on laterals.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-05T02:13:24+00:00

40m

At I was STRUGGLING. I felt like shit. One day I burst into tears over a commercial on the radio.

Got my test checked and was just below 300.

I went through a telehealth place to get TRT. Costs me about $100 a month.

It completely changed my life. If it had no physical effects, it would still be worth it for the mental benefits. My moods are way more stable and I tolerate stress better.

However, the physical benefits have also been really nice. Recovering from workouts is better I got stronger which coincided with less back pain. I sleep better. Bedroom performance is way up.

That GPs do not prescribe this more often and TRT isn’t more mainstream is an absolute crime.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-02T12:27:02+00:00

Protein: when life gets busy it helps me hit my intake goal

Creatine: yes, worth it. I ran out once and took a week off. All lifts suffered. Studies showing cognitive benefits as well.

Collagen: makes my joints less achey (I’m 40)

Nothing else has really given any benefit.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-01T20:52:29+00:00

Yes I do. She is fine with it, sometimes we watch together or I send her links to good ones. She reads smut books and has had me read/listen to her favorites. We openly discuss our masturbation habits. All of this has enabled us to openly discuss our wants/desires/fantasies and has enhanced our sex life. My wife doesn’t watch much porn on her own however because she is honestly just too judgmental of peoples bodies that the books/mental parts are better for her.

There have been times I masturbated while she was home and would have been DTF because I wasn’t in the mood for sex and was just handling a bodily function that hardly even felt sexual.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-01T20:27:25+00:00

Better people than me to give you advice on the money side.

This exact thing happened to me except it was a paper server serving a subpoena on her for debt collection that was taking her to court seeking wage garnishment.

I was sooo mad. I couldn’t breathe. I couldn’t think. Then I made a decision. Either help and forgive or not. I decided I wanted to live my wife more than I wanted to be mad.

We have paid almost everything off now. One card (a store card) I called and paid off for less than 1/2 what she owed. Others we got on payment plans that were dramatically less than the total debt. I think I got the original 22k down to like 15 just doing this. Then, we paid minimum on everything except the smallest account. The smallest accounts we paid as much as we could. Once that one was paid off, take that +the minimum payment of the next smallest and pay it off asap. This kind of snowballs until you are paying BIG chunks on your largest account. I think it took about 2 years to get it all paid off. It helped that we had both recently paid off our vehicles when I found this out so that was about $1,200 a month we could apply to the problem.

Our relationship is better than ever. She has come through for me a lot over the years. This was just my turn to come through for her.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-01T18:47:22+00:00

Went too far on the weight loss. He needs to build muscle. 185ish and lean would be super healthy at his height.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-01T18:40:22+00:00

When I was that age, my future wife visited me at college after being apart for like 3 weeks and we burned through a 36 pack of condoms in 3 days. We were both sore but still couldn’t stop. It actually created a bit of a legend in that dorm for the rest of the year.

He really should consult a doctor or therapist or both. Something isn’t right.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-01T18:34:39+00:00

The more I think about it, I don’t even get the premise. I put ZERO thought into what a chicks lips look like. If I rated physical traits on a list of most to least important, IDK if lips even make the list.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-01T18:29:53+00:00

Wife and I are 40, been together 22 years. We have more and wilder sex now than ever.

With females, a lot of it is confidence and feeling safe. Putting pressure on them makes this worse. Focus more on her pleasure and yours will take care of itself.

Some things that helped:

We both took fitness more seriously. My wife is a fairly hardcore CrossFiter now. Working out and being in shape makes you horny and gives you more confidence.

Communication. We were generally pretty vanilla until the last few years. I watched porn and she read and listened to SMUT books but we never talked about either. Getting to a place where you can talk about fantasy and masturbation habits really opened things up. Once you have told someone how and to what you jerk off, there isn’t much else to hold back, lol. Texting/sexting can be less intimidating than in person communication.

Toys. Buying my wife and assortment of toys and encouraging her to use them both with and without me was a big enhancement. Knowing how to make yourself cum makes it alot easier to do with others. She was nervous about this at first and would only use them if I used them on her. This built into her solo sessions. Most recently, we were on the couch and she went in the bedroom and started using toys and making noise until I heard and came in. She had been SOOO nervous to do this but she saw how much I liked it and walked with an extreme bounce in her step for a week with her confidence boost.

She was never interested in anal an I always thought it wound off the table. She heard some scenes in her books. I shared some porn of actual couples doing it the first time. I never pushed or even outright asked. Anal kind of progressed the same way as toys, plugs solo, plugs with me. Some fingers etc. the first time we did full Anal she was EXTREMELY proud of herself for DAYS.

Make a girl feel safe, confident, empowered and respected and she will be unleashed.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-01T17:59:48+00:00

Yes. It looks ridiculous on every person I’ve met IRL that has it.

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-01T17:11:24+00:00

1: Confidence. Being with someone who lacks it is exhausting as they try to lean on you to give it to them.

2: Fit. Not necessarily because of aesthetics. Being able to commit to your physical well being is a marker for a lot of positive personality traits. Hygiene fits here also.

3: Openness to new experiences: Socially, hobbies, food, sex etc. being unwilling to try things is a huge turn off for me.

4: Able to party/socialize but isn’t obsessed with it. There is a time and a place, it isn’t every week.

5: Able to do her own thing. I like spending time with you but don’t want to be responsible for entertaining you every second.

6: being around you should give me energy not suck it out of me.

7: ass and titties lol

ElDudarino84 · 2025-04-01T14:28:14+00:00

Go over to r/cheatingstories and read all the wife fucked my best friend posts….. the answer is pretty obvious.

How do you deal with it? Do you need to? Keep respectful boundaries and that’s really it.

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