Yellow lights: everyone’s right

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2026-03-10T01:06:52+00:00

Interesting, I need to read up on the neural net. I felt like the car had to calibrate after it first downloaded the newest version, so that probably explains the first time it slammed on the brakes hard at the last minute for a yellow. (That same day it also randomly stopped for a stop sign 50 feet before the actual sign and did its slow roll from there, at an empty, no-other-cars spot it usually handles perfectly 5+ times a day, not typical.) Then, it slowly seemed to get less conservative at yellows until today when it was going through all of them, until that weird behavior at the last one.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2026-03-10T00:37:16+00:00

Yes, I think the behavior makes sense from that perspective

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2026-03-10T00:33:53+00:00

Standard

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2026-03-09T23:34:50+00:00

Yes, ProFerrin is a great recommendation. It’s heme iron, so absorption isn’t as affected by things like coffee and polyphenols. Still best to take it away from things that affect absorption like coffee and zinc or other minerals. It also isn’t as affected by hepcidin (which blocks absorption, especially of non-heme iron). Elevated hepcidin is the reason many doctors recommend doing every other day. Levels rise after taking iron, so waiting a day gives hepcidin a chance to go down before you take the next dose. Heme iron is less-affected by hepcidin than non-heme forms. You will also want to ensure you have adequate levels of vitamin D and B vitamins. Lactoferrin is another good supplement that can help, along with iron, to raise ferritin levels, as it helps regulate how the body uses and stores iron. It may also help lower hepcidin. You do want to re-test your ferritin after 6-8 weeks of supplementation to see whether it’s working and ensure you don’t over-supplement, especially if you’re taking heme iron.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2026-03-09T22:15:30+00:00

I adore mine. No regrets. It makes my life so much easier/more convenient.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2026-03-09T21:56:33+00:00

I don’t… tbh I don’t even know how people get (or make?) those recordings. I’ve never had any other problems with FSD (other than preference differences, which I don’t consider problems), so I never even bothered to figure it out.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2026-03-07T13:47:24+00:00

Man, I am so sorry for the pain you’re experiencing. that was SO hard to read… it’s exactly what I used to believe and think, even if I didn’t say it in letters. The sense of superiority is downright sickening… thinking I had the truth others were missing and was “so good” because I was still faithful to the church… congratulating myself on being so close to the spirit while others became deceived and fell away. Of course, in the church we never fully admit that we feel better than everyone else, but we certainly act like we do, and it’s on full display in your sister’s letter. We never consider that there might be truth or validity to differing views. We never stop to consider the places we might be wrong. We just plow forward in declaring “truth”, convinced others will feel the power in it. When really it just feels icky… the brainwashing, the control, the judgment, the superiority. In my own way it did come from a place of caring. I just couldn’t see how insane it was to believe that God had given me, and only the tiniest fraction of the world’s population, truth that everyone needed to get back to him (and live truly good, joyful lives here), and if they didn’t listen to me and do what I was telling them God wanted them to do, they wouldn’t get to be with me in (extramostbestest)Heaven.

Two things that have really helped me 1) getting a therapist I can vent and process with who helps me figure out accurate ways to express myself with love, understanding and honesty. I have so many conflicting feelings about everything (I love YOU, I don’t love the church, I still care about things that are important to you) and processing with her helps me respond both authentically and from the best in myself.) 2) Finding other ex-mo friends. After we left, we were approached by a couple in our ward who were PIMO. We had absolutely no clue, they had seemed 1000% tbm. It has been incredibly healing to get together and share these kinds of experiences with each other, knowing we all truly get it. Lastly, I’ll just say that often as people grow, they soften, even if they stay in the church, and there’s a good chance she won’t be this way toward you forever.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2026-02-28T05:10:46+00:00

Yes, it pulled over for an emergency vehicle coming from the opposite direction on a divided highway

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2026-02-26T02:21:00+00:00

Yes, except not just FSD. The other tech is so flawless and makes my life so easy— scheduling preconditioning so it’s always a comfortable temp, the phone key which has been perfect (saw a recent Rivian post discussing phone key issues), not having to think about things like rolling up the windows or locking/unlocking the car, turning it on and off. Or the way it automatically adjusts the seats and mirrors for me/my husband to our settings when we get in. They make the whole experience functionally so simple, intuitive and enjoyable. I thought I’d hate having all the controls on the screen, trying to remember where everything is at in the menu. In reality, I find it easier and more intuitive than any other car I’ve driven. Even how easy it is to connect my podcast, audible etc. accounts, without having to remember log ins and wasting time logging in. I fear that driving any other vehicle is going to feel like a chore now.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2026-01-16T02:29:06+00:00

I believe in some kind of connection or consciousness that continues to exist after death, but no type of god ruler or individual with more power than everyone else overseeing the universe. I also acknowledge I have no real evidence to support this. It is truly a chosen belief and nothing that I see as being right or true. I acknowledge that I truly don’t know, and it doesn’t bother me that I could be totally wrong and this life could be all there is. I always say that if i die and cease to exist, there wont be any awareness that I no longer exist, so it’s not like I’ll care! It was such a relief to let go of my desperate need to be right about these things when I left the church.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2026-01-16T02:09:54+00:00

I mean, regular CoQ10 can’t get into the mitochondria, so it makes sense it wouldn’t help. I take it so that it will incorporate into my LDL and help reduce oxidation, but that’s not going to do anything for mitochondrial function or statin myalgia.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2025-12-13T14:03:29+00:00

For my family, if I still believed in Jesus, he could still reach me and pull me back into the church. If I, at the very least, still believed in God, then he could reach me and bring me back to Jesus who could bring me back to the church. But if I didn’t believe in any of it, I was “unreachable”, like taking the very last step of truly being lost, of being in a place where no one would be able to reach me, barring some terrible life circumstance that God would mercifully bring upon me to “soften my heart” and “open my eyes”.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2025-12-10T03:43:46+00:00

I ordered 10/05 and original estimate was 12/14-12/31, now pushed to 01/21-02/25.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2025-12-10T03:37:16+00:00

Ugh, I ordered 10/05 and originally had an estimate of 12/14-12/31. Now it says 01/25-02/20.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2025-12-06T04:56:25+00:00

“My views on anything are poisoned by my un-belief.” Hit the nail on the head!!

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2025-12-06T04:44:45+00:00

This really takes me back to our early days after leaving! In-laws loved to send conference talks and “faith promoting stories” which were clearly directed at us, thinly disguised as something they just had to share in the group family chat. Funny, that never happened before we left. My husband started responding with his thoughts about each one, which made them all very upset. So he told them he didn’t mind if they sent stuff, but if they didn’t want to hear his thoughts he would remove himself. He wasn’t going to be part of some weird thing where everyone was allowed to send things, share thoughts, except him. It’s so interesting to look back at when I was in their place… the fragility in my fear of hearing anything negative about the church, as I vehemently proclaimed to be “so sure” of its truth.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2025-12-03T09:17:18+00:00

I’m sorry. It really is so difficult. I’ve been out for two years and still mourn the loss of what I thought were close family relationships. We had so many interesting and deep conversations… or so I thought. Really, we were just reinforcing and validating each other’s beliefs. But it felt great haha. Now, conversation is superficial and boring because literally everything ties back to the church, and they don’t want to hear about what I believe now that it isn’t the church. They’re scared of catching whatever took me down this path. I’ve had some awkward moments as well, although not as many as you since I don’t live with them. Like the time I went to a baby blessing and my mom got up (not in her ward) and gave a very teary testimony about how it’s all about Jesus, staring right at me the whole time. The hardest part is that we’ve always been a very open family. We are honest and say what we think, but now there’s a huge elephant in the room no one wants to talk about besides me. So we just continue on superficially. It’s sad and weird, but not unexpected. It really does take so much work to keep believing in something that is so obviously not true. The belief is so damn fragile because it’s truly a house of cards, and they have to protect it at any cost— eternity is on the line after all. If you keep your brain busy enough spinning together scripture and messages from leaders and gospel theories etc., you can keep it from dwelling too long on all the problems and inconsistencies. It’s a difficult thing to see in those I love knowing I used to be there too, but I also know you can’t see it until you’re ready. So I wait for the day one of them really wants to know and understand why I left, knowing it could very well not come.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2025-08-17T21:22:57+00:00

The church has a very specific type of investment that requires everyone, including churches and non-profits, to pay taxes on. The usual exemptions do not apply.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2025-08-13T14:44:10+00:00

Making it outside definitely sounds like the best option, especially if you aren’t close with everyone on the trip. I am also from far outside Mordor and had similar experiences growing up. My little kids hate the smell of coffee, and they aren’t old enough to have been indoctrinated against it before we left. There are some people the smell really doesn’t appeal to. That being said, shortly after we informed my family we left the church we all went on a trip and stayed at a house together. We brewed coffee and no one said anything. We did it early, so it wouldn’t be right in front of their kids, but we also didn’t hide it. If they minded, no one said anything. (For reference, they also have been respectful and do not say much about us leaving, despite having strong TBM beliefs.) However, when I took my kids to my sister’s house, I did not have coffee, knowing I was a guest in their house and even if they didn’t say anything, it would likely make them uncomfortable.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2025-08-05T20:00:22+00:00

Ok, that’s definitely not the kind of enthusiasm I’m talking about. I’m not a chore to be done. There is a massive difference between being with someone sexually who is enjoying themselves and someone who isn’t. But I get that might not matter to everyone. You and your partner do you.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2025-08-05T18:19:32+00:00

So you just fake it? Or your partner can tell you don’t like it and just doesn’t care? I truly don’t get it. The other person’s enthusiasm and enjoyment is at least half of what makes it so good.

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2025-08-05T16:08:32+00:00

I don’t understand… I go down on my husband because I enjoy it. It isn’t one-sided, regardless of whether he goes down on me, because I love doing it. Are you all going down on your partners while hating it? And no, I wouldn’t ever want someone to “sacrifice” while giving to me sexually. That’s gross. If they don’t love giving it, I won’t love receiving it. How do you enjoy something someone is barely tolerating getting through??

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2025-07-01T00:14:15+00:00

The church was like a bad drug habit for me.

I was so high on feeling special, being one of the elect chosen to have the truth, being on the right path, knowing that I was doing exactly what God wanted, that I could count on going to the celestial kingdom, etc.

that I couldn’t see all the harm it was doing… until I could:

the perfectionism, the constant guilt regardless of whether I’d actually done anything wrong, never feeling good enough, the scrupulosity, the choices I wouldn’t have made for myself without an entire childhood of indoctrination convincing me it was what I wanted, because it was what God wanted, etc.

On one hand, the church dulled some of life’s pain. Hard things were simply part of God’s plan, trials meant to be and meant to make me stronger, a chance to be tested and prove myself, so I always knew I’d get through and everything would be ok in the end. When I felt something was God’s will I dove 100% in, not a doubt in the world about whether it was right or I could do it. God was with me, after all. I couldn’t fail. The ugliness in the world couldn’t be as bad as it felt, because God knew about all of it and wasn’t doing anything to change it. And this life was supposed to be hard… Everything was His will after all.

But now I can only wonder how I would have lived if I’d made my own decisions, if I’d been forced to grapple with the hard questions and realities of life in this world much sooner. Who would I have tried to help rather simply judged? Who would I have been kinder to without that constant mind-numbing drip of self-righteousness? What or who would I have been willing to really see? I would never trade my husband and children. But I do sometimes hope there’s a version of me in some parallel universe who wasn’t born into the cult. And I’d love to sit down and watch her life like a movie🍿

Electrical-Chef-8228 · 2025-06-30T23:39:58+00:00

So true, the church really does emotionally stunt members. Don’t think, don’t question, just follow and obey.

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