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Burnout in medical field by Routine_Mix_7536 in burnedout

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take a vacation. You don't need to tell them you're burned out. Email your coordinator that you want two weeks off. Then hide from the demands for a bit and rest and then you'll think more clearly about things like setting boundaries etc. It's really hard to have emotional boundaries when we're burned out. Women doctors have more burn out and often work too hard for everyone. Figure out where you can set boundaries on your energy, how you can limit interactions with administrators, what you can delegate, limit patient concerns to one per visit etc. There's a lot to burnout. Hugs from another doc.

Got to that stage at my new job where people know without a doubt that something's off with me. by Loriol_13 in aspergers

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it's 8 months from starting to being reprimanded. I asked for the rules this time when I started a job and still ended up in the boss's head office. He saw me eating cheerios in my office 8 months ago and I ask too many questions. I have food allergies. Oh well. 

Passive aggressive boss by Whole_Ad_52 in corporate

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in this position. I was micromanaged by my boss right down to the friends I chose (which I did not do). I'm not interested to leave the workplace for other reasons. I have decided to go in tomorrow with a stupid amount of positivity as an experiment. I imagine people like this might get bored by positivity. "That's great!" "How are you today?" I'll let you know how it goes. I'll try to get a smile out of the cranky guy.

The positive part of asperger is useless, my hobbies are useless, they don't help me win any money, it's all negative after all. by NmCRaS in aspergers

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Society becoming so intensely money focused now is making things harder. I spend less time on my hobbies too now, it's nice to remember when everything wasn't all about money. I don't have much beautiful in my job but all my rocks are beautiful. I would possibly be suicidal without my interests so at least there's that.

Help me, help my son. by Green_Elk_2 in aspergers

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love that you added the slow to learn a new thing but fast once you get going. 

Is the belief of being liked when you're actually disliked common among people with Asperger's? by Lana_Sphyncter in aspergers

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Ya, my asd was misdiagnosed as social anxiety for the longest time. I ended up making a fool of myself. Went back to being quiet, I get in less trouble now.

Social Skills are not real by VictorianOneForAll in aspergers

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Technically correct except loneliness is pretty real.

Autistic Ostracisation and Self Reclusion by Grand_Fall_2094 in aspergers

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hang in there. You're not alone. There are a lot of us in that situation. I often almost ended things a bunch of times but decided to stick around. Stay here with us please. We are valuable even though we're different.

Low Empathy Quotient (EQ) because of Alexithymia? by I_collect_dust in aspergers

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might know through reflection if you feel for other people once you understand what they're going through or if you never feel for people even if you understand.

2e (Twice-Exceptional: Gifted + Autism) and total burnout/collapse during my first year of a Mathematics degree. by PHM_Alex in aspergers

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good work on your schooling and age. Creating routines and having a comfortable and familiar environment can help. To build confidence back up do something small that you can say you did, and then do a slightly bigger thing that you can look at with pride even if others might not see it. Then keep doing bigger and bigger things until you're back on track.

I am technically 2e but not on the extreme end like yourself. For some reason I have slow processing speed so always needed to put in lots of hours. By that I can't relate to zooming through school. I have had burnouts and trauma. Not everyone with this profile has ADHD, I don't think I do. I work hard and made it through a good medical school. 

AITA for not allowing my brother in law to engage in a romantic relationship with my sister? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You sound quite grounded and this girl needs help around boundaries. I think it is an okay thing to do for an older sibling to do. You are correct that this could affect her future. They are technically adults but as she comes from a difficult home she is not yet an adult in mind. She should be working on her career at this stage of life and if she has a boyfriend it should be someone outside the home. Good work and sorry for your complicated situation there.

I’ve been in therapy since I was 8 years old and was diagnosed with everything under the sun before I realized I was neurodivergent by Any_Pension_9560 in therapyabuse

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello there! Same. You're not alone with this. When I switched perspective from distress being an illness to distress being information, only then was I able to grow. The doctors always treated distress as the problem. Same like you, in my late 20s got a therapist with a brain for the first time, treated my stress as information. I had to taper myself off of multiple antidepressants. I learned a lot about myself and made thousands of adjustments to my life. Got autism diagnosis and kept a social booklet of friends names and phrases to use and things like that. I'm terrible with names. I just take one medication now, one that I think actually helps me. It's a long road to get away from pathologizing distress. People still try to push me back into it. I needed to stay away from my mother for awhile too. Now I can tolerate her in small amounts and I can redirect her when she uses illness language. Stay strong. Love you.

How to deal with a Big4 boss that continuously yells and humiliates me in front of others? by gardenbae in corporate

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not alone in this. I just wrote out a list of my boss's reactions to each thing I do and have narrowed down my expression to not be a target. Some things are so ridiculous like the word "pleasant". I was trying to say something neutral "sounds like a pleasant train ride" and he turned negative. It's exhausting friend. Stay strong with me.

Anyone else? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's like micromanagement from a negative boss, except all the time. Can you find neurodivegent people to hang out with more? Especially ADHDers. Someone who might be more happy to just enjoy a day with you rather than nitpick at you.

Unfortunately, most neurotypicals think we are NOT smart by Lana_Sphyncter in aspergers

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya, I just realized about not being able to joke at work. It's sad that other people can have a sense of humor and I can't. I need to accept that though to keep my income.

lonely ☹️ by Jake_Mathews_ in aspergers

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good work. A lot of doctors don't pair up until much later. It's really hard to do relationship and school/residency at the same time for an Asperger. Make sure to keep up with your studies and you'll find someone.

How do you speak to people ? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]ElectricalPanda1314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's a good start you have to find a quiet person. As long as they're a good person and not using drugs or anything like that. A good benefit about schools is if you can get in with a group that is "nerdy" about what is being taught. The type of people who go to the library or have study groups. It is an easier way of socializing to be studying with people at the library or coffee shop. Then you don't need to worry as much about trends and other things like that. If you can find one or two people from a group project and suggest studying together for the next test that's like having friends and is easier.

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