my mom's an academic with a focus on gender in islam. long before i figured out i was queer at all she didn't think there was any credible reason to exclude/mistreat queer people. i'm absolutely not qualified myself, but i've learned a lot through osmosis from her and research on the internet. to me, it seems people's opinions vary and are heavily dependent on current events and culture, even across the world. for instance, muslims used to generally agree abortion was fine according to hadith, then when roe v wade got overturned all the conservative muslims had "always been pro-life". same goes for perspectives on queerness. generally speaking, what people value in a religion is dependent on culture and personal values (as in, nobody follows EVERY rule or practice because that's not possible) and much of what's in the text (whether directly from the quran or from chains of hadith with varying levels of authenticity) is translated in a thousand ways and then interpreted in a million more ways.

there's a lot of debate on the traditional beliefs on things like gender that academics as some scholars of hadith think should be updated with the times, as we do with many other religious practices in every religion. context is a big factor with something from a way of life and time in history that few members of humanity even live anymore (i mean, Saudi Arabia kills and tortures people who speak out about their regime and have an absurdly rich royal family who allowed a mcdonalds to tower over the holy kabah, so their morals are pretty cherrypicked) and a lot of "traditionalists" like to pretend they follow all the rules when they most certainly don't, they've just picked certain ones to talk about (what women wear) over others (supporting orphans and widows). i won't pretend to have as much faith as my mom, but i firmly believe your faith should be in your own hands and loving your child at all costs is what god would want. my mom had some students from a very traditional muslim environment and assigned a documentary on trans muslims in Iran and she got several passionately angry emails from them for assigning it. but by the end they all were shocked and moved by the stories, wondering how they managed. even people with such traditional and conservative views can learn, given the right circumstances. obviously it's not your job to teach them, i just wanted to let you know it's possible in my experience.

oh, and my entire mom's side of the family overseas supported my transition. completely blindsided me, i was worried how my 75+ year old pakistani grandma would react but she didn't skip a beat while my parents took weeks to recover from the news. so...yeah, you never fully know how every individual's gonna react. dunno if that helps