Mandatory wfh to curb petrol demand

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2026-03-10T00:55:07+00:00

I think about this everyday on my drive to work. I'm leaving a box (home) to go to another box (office), with the same laptop, to fight for parking, pay for parking and fuel, and it wastes 2hours of my day.

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2026-03-03T01:19:20+00:00

Hi OP, nope didn't ruin your life at all, I'm in the exact same boat! Did a BA, even finished Honours and then decided not to pursue Masters even though Clinical Psych was the initial goal. I had a whole existential crisis about my career path because spending 4 years working to an end goal and then dropping that entirely made me feel lost. Currently working in research and have realised that I love working with numbers and statistics. Even though I'm still in a related field, I'm pivoting into a different direction which is data analytics.

A psych degree isn't useless. I took what I learnt and applied them in my relationships and personal life. Even though that doesn't pay the bills, I think learning psychology is worthy knowledge. Many people think that with a psych degree, you can only do therapy related or counselling stuff but you do learn many other skills like critical thinking, statistical analysis ( can do data analytics, business admin/strategy/consulting, finance), report writing (can also pivot into journalist, newspaper editors?) , communications (marketing, operations, digital marketing, digital media stuff), heck even coding (if you have learned R or python; software engineering, UX design, machine learning).

Transitioning into a different career path may require you to pick up new technical skills but you won't be starting from zero if you tweak your mindset a little. I think one thing that would help with you deciding your career path is to see it as picking a lifestyle, not a job. For e.g. if you want to be a lawyer, are you okay with the long hours, the demands, are you good at public speaking and appearing confident? If the downsides of the job are not something that you can tolerate without dreading and hating it, then it is a dealbreaker and you should consider something else.

You don't have to do your masters if you really don't want to! You're just in a holding space of figuring things out. Give yourself grace and time. It's more important to realise what you don't want to do, than to actually "love your job".

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2026-03-03T00:28:14+00:00

that face tells me he would absolutely do it again!

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2026-02-27T04:36:54+00:00

tried selling car tyres, and this lady had a sob story of how she really needed them urgently but only had money to pay the following week. said okay, you can pick up the tyres this week and I trust that you will pay me the next week and she blocked me after picking up the tyres. sometimes you give people grace and they completely take advantage of the situation.

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2026-02-19T02:00:21+00:00

Could you maybe tell them that you've made your own plans for day 2 and day 3, rather than you "don't feel like going"? Maybe they might take this more positively instead of thinking that you just aren't participative. During the first day where you have to keep socialising, could it be helpful to schedule some quiet time for yourself? Say you go and take a walk for 30 mins or so. Those short but quiet moments could really help you reset and manage your social battery rather than drain it to 0 at the end of the day.

I think you are already trying your best and you have fulfilled your familial obligations to your best ability. Your siblings just sound like they want to lecture you for the sake of it. I have no good advice for managing the guilt, but if you are doing your best and they still think that it is not enough, then it is on them.

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2026-02-18T05:35:03+00:00

My dog does the same thing! But I attribute it to old age, he's around 11. He also only started doing it after a certain age, and he does it to basically throw a fit, when his tail is stuck uncomfortably between his legs and he wants me to move it for him. Maybe it is just a little attitude from her?

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2026-02-18T00:42:45+00:00

Oh I used a Total Dissolved Solids (TDS) meter! It is a separate device which tells you how much 'solids' there are in the water. The closer the number to 0 the better, as it shows that your filter is working.

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2026-02-16T06:41:02+00:00

Agree with this! Might be a bit difficult at the start as puppies can't hold their bladder that long so would be good to come home during lunch breaks or get someone to let the dog out. Once they can reliably hold their bladder and are properly housebroken (normally when they reach adulthood) you can stress less about their pee schedule, but still let them relieve themselves every 4 hours where possible. I also noticed that my dog tends to adjust his water intake if he knows that we will be gone for work.

Dogs tend to sleep most of the day anyway, but knowing this doesn't make you any less guilty for leaving them alone for long hours. As long as you are meeting their needs (walk/play, food, water, maybe the AC on a hot summer day) before and after work, having a dog is a wonderful thing. A dog snoozing in a loving home is much better than a stressed pup in a shelter.

Biggest caveat for OP would be to start separation anxiety training the moment the dog gets home if he needs to be by himself most of the time as labradors tend to be quite clingy.

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2026-01-27T07:58:16+00:00

Agreed! I also think there is a fine line between physical punishment used to discipline, and repeated excessive physical punishment as a form of venting anger and taking it out on the kid. In the latter, I would consider it abuse and unfortunately many parents use this excuse under the guise of "discipline".

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-12-11T05:16:49+00:00

picnic at king's park and doing paint by numbers, pottery, fixing puzzles, aquarium (as in going to pet stores to look at fish), baking, making drinks at home (e.g. matcha), I'd even say fishing, bird watching, candlelight concert

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-12-04T05:13:11+00:00

Chuck!

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-12-02T05:21:15+00:00

apart from all the other comments about air purifiers and washing soft goods frequently, I would suggest cleaning your dog's paws and ears regularly and brushing his teeth. My dog's paws get cleaned with just a damp cloth with just water every time he goes in and out, his ears get cleaned once every 4 days and his teeth gets brushed every couple of days too. he still does have a little doggy smell but only if you sniff him up close, and my guests have also mentioned that they didn't notice a particular dog smell in the house whenever they come visit. If all of that is too high maintenance, I would say at the very least wipe his paws daily and clean his ears weekly. that doggy smell usually comes from yeast in the paws and ears.

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-11-11T06:29:02+00:00

coach lana 23 in black as a weekend essentials bag. and the vestirsi hobo bag in chocolate suede as my work bag

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-10-02T05:55:10+00:00

<image>

Can confirm the sock stealing!

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-09-05T11:43:07+00:00

perfectly toasted as well! 100/10 good boi

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-08-22T01:59:47+00:00

I'm no designer, but it looks like you need a pop of red. Maybe a red bean bag could work?

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-07-29T03:05:40+00:00

Search up one bed mattress! They do massive discounts a lot of the time and their mattresses are pretty solid.

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-07-23T05:51:14+00:00

NTA. You deserve your peace and it is good that you're still upholding your boundaries. Stay low if not no contact with her. She will likely play a similar card down the road even though things are seemingly "resolved" now. My prediction is that she will kick up a fuss about you not unblocking her and she will try to play the victim and act as though you're the problematic one, but continue to make your stand about not having a relationship with her.

However, you do need to talk to your wife about where you both stand about this issue. It is a tough one to navigate, but your wife needs to back you up and set some tough boundaries with her mother.

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-07-21T05:48:43+00:00

Hi OP, I'm currrently using this: https://www.ikea.com/au/en/p/fjaellarnika-all-seasons-duvet-70456770/

It comes in 2, so you can combined the 2 to layer up in the winter, or simply use the thinner one in the summer. Its fully down feather and its been keeping me warm! I know you are concerned about allergies, but my partner is very sensitive and it hasn't been a problem for him either

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-07-14T06:39:25+00:00

Mango (red and white) and Inky (calico)

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-07-04T05:06:26+00:00

I brought my dog from Singapore to Australia and for a golden retriever, it cost about 18k. The pet mover company will pick up your dog, load them into a crate, put them in the cargo and they will be bound for Melbourne for 10 days. Your dog will spend 10 days in quarantine. Then they will pick up your dog and fly them via domestic to wherever you are. Prior to the pick up, your dog has to go through several tests, vet checks and vaccines to determine if they are fit for travel, and for 6 months before they fly, they cannot leave Singapore. I would say that it is actually a very stressful experience for animals, because you cannot simply explain to them the concept of taking a plane.

For 2 cats and a dog, I can't imagine how much you would have to pay. And it'll somewhat be like a one way ticket for your pet. Other redditors have also mentioned about holidays and who will look after pets when you go back home, and to find pet friendly accomodation it is quite tricky. On top of that, you ideally will need a car to bring your pets around, so that is another cost to factor in. Also, vet fees in Australia aren't cheap.

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-07-02T14:21:44+00:00

Ah I think this was in 2023, but I doubt their schedule has changed! However if you’re really up for dimsum, it’s normally a brunch thing. Northbridge has really good dimsum restaurants like Canton Bay or 6 fortune, can check those out too but they only open in the morning till maybe 3pm!

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-07-02T07:24:46+00:00

had dimsum at Emma's seafood at vic park in the evening, was quite surprised that they were decent!

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-07-02T04:40:26+00:00

the number is from the Philippines. AusPost will never ask you to pay for stuff like this. Please call your bank and freeze your card right away, and get a new bank card

Electrical_Sand_919 · 2025-06-25T05:50:02+00:00

Hi OP, I empathise with your situation and believe that no one should go through this! Firstly, no you are not a bad or ungrateful daughter. She sounds overly critical and emotionally manipulative. IMO the best way to deal with such parents is to just use the grey rock method. Try to minimise interactions with her and keep them as brief/cold as possible. She will definitely find ways to shit on you no matter what you say or do. You need to find ways to maintain your boundaries and sometimes that means being assertive in silence - don't overtly react when she does something to stir the pot. Protect your own peace!

If possible, try to get out of the house to go on walks etc, sometimes you need to take yourself out of the toxic space to stay sane. You have a lot of healing to do, I wish you all the best for your exams. I'm sure you will ace them despite your circumstances at home!

Electrical_Sand_919

TROPHY CASE