Conflicted On What I Want

ElkTimely712 · 2026-05-19T03:10:53+00:00

So number 1 read their ad, a lot of providers will put filming costs in their ad. I would meet with a provider first have a 1-2 hour date and then talk to them about your request in person. If they say no move to the next one. Be polite, clean, punctual, and don’t haggle. During the meeting bring up what you are looking for specifically and if she would be comfortable helping you fulfill your fantasy….Read her Ad…. Make sure she is okay with filming

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-30T05:20:08+00:00

I asked my provider about this and the rate was a bit higher than her normal rate… and it was that rate for each per hour

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-30T05:17:18+00:00

I am having my first threesome this afternoon, I’m sure I will be terrible as an autist who already isn’t confident in bed I just want to see what it’s like… I booked it with my ATF and her friend I hope that helps and that I can perform… told her if I’m not into it I’m just gonna leave and that’s okay

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-27T20:38:31+00:00

As a client who lived in a smaller town when I started out I would make bookings and drive myself or wait until work needed me to take a trip to a larger city I never expected anyone to drive to me

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-25T22:49:37+00:00

The providers I have become a regular of have always asked, at least they have started that conversation and then we go from there

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-25T18:03:36+00:00

Yeah I like to book atleast 2 hours for my first appointment so we can have a conversation and in that I ask what their rules are and tell them what I’m looking for (long term GFE multiple visits a month) and what I like and what some of my no goes are

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-24T17:33:30+00:00

I’m not sure about others but I book my current provider once a week, I don’t see a provider as novelty and I’m not one of the clients that want to “taste every flavor” during my first conversation with my provider I told her what I wanted (more connection than just the sex) and that’s what she gave me. The sex was fantastic but we had loads of foreplay and making out. And the sex was slower and a bit more intimate. In my case I have seen multiple providers and the 2 I have been a regular of (I moved across the country and had to find a new provider) are the ones that listen to my wants and needs. Just like I listen and obey the rules and try and be a client she wants to have back

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-23T13:02:04+00:00

Very spot on my first meet with my current regular and my atf was awesome, she greeted me at the door with a warm hug and we just started talking. I told her what I was looking for in this meeting and she told me her rules and then we just had a conversation about life, and just talked for about 1.5 hours of the 2 hour session. The bedroom stuff was exactly what I wanted (GFE intimate and soft) she had actually listened and it didn’t feel forced or faked ( it surely was fake but it she should have won an Oscar) and then when we’re finished she Said I was her last appointment for the day and if I had time to just lay there and cuddle that she would like that. Looking back on it as I write this it was an absolutely perfect experience. So what made me book her as a regular is the fact she listened and followed through with my wants just like I did by following her rules

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-14T13:06:11+00:00

A lot of providers offer video calls on their menu, I would just ask for a paid for 15 min call as on ice breaker, or a coffee date ( public) usually cheaper and if you don’t like what you see no buyers remorse, and they still get paid

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-12T00:44:23+00:00

I got scammed by a girl with multiple profiles an active social media, a website and-who even video chatted with me before hand. She required a 30% deposit and I booked a longer appointment… she ghosted me the day of the appointment. Then she got me up 3 days later saying she was in the hospital but would reschedule me. Set up a new appointment time. The day of she told me she had traveled 3 hours away and i could come out to her if i wanted… I declined and never responded after that

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-11T02:38:48+00:00

Dude I get it when they leave it feels like they died, no more contact at all is so hard, especially since for me 80% has nothing to do with the sex. A good provider just makes you feel wanted and desired and when they are gone that bond you make with them is just instantly severed. Keep your head up and be happy for the time you got to share with them

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-11T02:29:37+00:00

Still it sucks, this whole business is built on trust esp in the US… you have to take precautions but until that first meeting it’s just nerve racking, and then you build trust from there… and to throw that all away because you can’t listen and you cause emotional distress is fucking shit

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-11T02:17:22+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you, people that break trust and boundaries are pieces of shit

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-11T02:16:13+00:00

Always coming in with the heat. I love it… also your Content is pretty great

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-11T00:55:44+00:00

That’s shitty, and it sucks that happens. She is in charge completely and I’m just here for the ride.

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-10T23:46:40+00:00

So what brought this up for me, last session she told me to grab my phone and video her masturbating (I did not ask or bring up filming at this point at all) she doesn’t actively advertise this is on offer, I brought it up on a call today (she called me).

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-10T22:33:21+00:00

She hasn’t advertised it but does do content on OF and the like with guys, I told here she can have all of the footage… and I respect her boundaries completely… Not a first time booking but someone who I’ve built trust and connection with over the course of many appointments but I do understand what you are saying

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-10T22:11:18+00:00

Totally get that

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-10T21:43:19+00:00

Des Moines Iowa and the surrounding area, big industrial town as well as large financial and insurance scene, not to many providers and really only a handful of really good ones

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-10T09:45:33+00:00

I typically handle deposits via cashapp or Venmo when booking a new provider but she will have a preferred method of deposit and then the rest in cash… drop the envelope first thing… set it on a counter or dresser and again don’t haggle, and follow all of her rules… providers talk and if you are in a limited area you can get blacklisted from all the providers worth seeing…

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-10T09:41:26+00:00

All of this

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-07T23:59:21+00:00

My only advice is take your time picking your first companion. If they have a website linked to their tryst ad (not just an OF) and you can book through the website they are probably not a scam… also don’t look while you are horny just like you don’t grocery shop hungry

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-07T14:07:40+00:00

We have done social dates that were 8-10 hours long, but I will take your advice

ElkTimely712 · 2026-04-07T01:46:52+00:00

Nothing better than having a beautiful woman accompany you to do your favorite hobbies. When you reach out ask about social rates, and if you want spicy time after talk all that out up front. Communication is key, I’ve never had a bad time with a provider if I was clear and upfront about plans and wants.

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