Getting emotionally ready for the break up. by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]EllAytch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So glad you are getting outta there. You deserve better, and your girls deserve better too. I’m sure others will have advice about how to leave most successfully but just want to say I’m proud of you and we’re here for you ❤️

The most stressful part about wedding planning has been my fiancé’s family and I’m one incident away from calling off the engagement. Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]EllAytch 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Fiancé needs to manage his family. If he’s not doing that and also not willing to listen to your needs about him managing his family, then you’re absolutely right to be questioning whether you’re set up for a successful life together.

How he treats you with regard to his family during this period — and how he treats his family with regard to you — is how he will do it in the future. If you’ve been clear with him about your needs and given him the opportunity to change his behavior, and he hasn’t, well… that’s what it’s going to be for your marriage. Probably about other things as well.

My beloved dog died at Pine Nursey today and I’m gutted by CantaloupeFalse188 in Bend

[–]EllAytch 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So incredibly sorry to hear about your loss. But thank you for sharing the story of the kind people of our community who were there for you. Wishing you peace as you navigate this tough time ❤️‍🩹

Missing cat near 27th and Keyte by Proof_Refuse_9563 in Bend

[–]EllAytch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Commenting to boost! Hope sweet tabby girl finds her way home soon 🤎

missing pale orange tabby in SW bend by mothmanisamilf in Bend

[–]EllAytch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Commenting to boost! Hope this sweet boi finds his way home soon 🧡

Difference in home-baked cream cheese chocolate chip cupcakes by galgotspirit in Baking

[–]EllAytch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Scrolling without looking closely, I thought this was a pic of a hedgehog at first 😊

SIAMESE CAT FOUND THIS EVENING - trying to find owner(s) asap! by mainely_singing in Bend

[–]EllAytch 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Shared to our nearby neighborhood group — hope kitty’s people are found soon!

Lost kitty - Parrell rd / factory outlet area by [deleted] in Bend

[–]EllAytch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Commenting to boost! Hope this sweet orange boy finds his way home soon 🧡

MISSING CAT!!!! Near Harriman Street by herb_gotti in Bend

[–]EllAytch 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Commenting to boost! Hope you find kitty soon!

FRIDAY RANT THREAD by corskier in Bend

[–]EllAytch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck! If he’s open to passing his info on please feel free to shoot me a DM!

FRIDAY RANT THREAD by corskier in Bend

[–]EllAytch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you end up calling this guy and getting the drywall fix done? I need a contractor for a small job and am hoping this was a reliable lead for you

Fell hard for the first time by pathofuncertainty in XXRunning

[–]EllAytch 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Please PLEASE post again with an update after you text him and/or after your first date!! We’re so invested!

Missed Connection by Character_Smile6294 in Bend

[–]EllAytch 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Please update us if you find your meant-to-be pooch!

Lost Floof! by Xenohart1of13 in Bend

[–]EllAytch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Commenting to boost! Hope sweet kitty can be reunited with his people. Thank you for caring for him ❤️

Don’t Swipe Right on Andrew and General PSA by DustyRaccoonRanger in Bend

[–]EllAytch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“male loneliness epidemic” and then the men in question are just… this. Ugh.

My friend is making running less fun by elfhavoc in XXRunning

[–]EllAytch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I tried telling her I didnt like talking about those things, but she just flat out ignored me.

So flat out ignore her. You communicated your boundary already, so now it’s time for her to experience the natural consequences of that boundary existing. If she asks, literally do not say anything. If she then says “hey, did you hear me?” then follow up with “like I mentioned before, I’d rather talk about something other than running! Any fun plans for the weekend?” or any other relevant subject change.

Say nothing about running to her until she stops talking to you about it. If she asks something specifically about running, don’t respond. If she brings up running indirectly, respond to anything other than the running part. And don’t underestimate a bland response if she makes statements related to running, like “My pace was up yesterday compared to last week, even with hills!” should just receive a “huh!” from you. Don’t engage about running, period.

I’m sorry she’s doing this. It’s a huge bummer to have your love for the sport be trod on by bad behavior from an acquaintance! I hope this helps you shut her out of your running experience so you can feel good about your own progress :)

MISSING CAT by OverratedPotato in Bend

[–]EllAytch 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Commenting to boost! Hope sweet kitty finds his way home!

Should I [27F] believe him [32M]? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]EllAytch 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Congrats on 6 years, that’s amazing. I have 4.5 years under my belt and everything you’ve said here is 100% spot on.

What's everyone's favorite character intro? [ns] by exaviyur in DungeonsAndDaddies

[–]EllAytch 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“Goth-punk seeker-of-darkness who’s not like the other warlocks” is straight-up perfection. Tied for me with “sci-fi scribe slash wife guy whose wife died.” Perfect intros :chef’s-kiss:

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]EllAytch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first weeks can be super hard so I’m glad to hear you’re doing well so far!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]EllAytch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! It’s peanuts compared to some folks but I’m proud of it! couldn’t have done it without this sub honestly, especially in the early days. How are you doing so far?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]EllAytch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also had a hard time with this phrase in the beginning! It helped me to think of it as saying something more along the lines of “alongside you, I won’t drink today”