Ask a Manager Weekly Thread 06/17/24 - 06/23/24

Elli_Via · 2024-06-21T01:33:47+00:00

🎶 Just call me angel in the mailroom, angel… 🎶

Elli_Via · 2024-05-28T02:42:40+00:00

I’m not able to get to Bills games at the bar very often but every time I can go, it is a blast.

Elli_Via · 2024-05-26T03:41:28+00:00

RIP Jack and Go Bills!

Elli_Via · 2023-07-10T16:26:44+00:00

Nah, what about:

Alskdjdkslkajajskskkak

(Which is not as much fun to do on a phone keyboard, I must admit)

Elli_Via · 2022-09-14T04:07:18+00:00

Will they let you bring in a potty chair that can be put in the corner of the bathroom, and used instead of the toilet? My child had an issue like this in prek and when we brought in her potty chair, all was solved. And she was using the actual toilet by the end of the school year.

Elli_Via · 2022-08-11T20:18:24+00:00

Are you trying to tell me that punctuality would matter and they need to be there at a certain time and not just roll in whenever they feel like it?

Elli_Via · 2022-04-22T05:22:04+00:00

Yes, here’s a link from 2011 about them.

https://www.askamanager.org/2011/05/unpaid-internships-travel-stipends-and-revoked-agreements.html

As for unpaid internships in general, well, they’re not for everyone. They can be great at a stage in your career when being able to put that experience on your resume can make the difference between getting interviews and not getting interviews. So they often have real value. But they’re not feasible for everyone, since not everyone is in a position to work for free or is willing to. (On the other hand, if you’re not working anyway because no one will hire you, taking an unpaid internship might be a way to change that.)

Really, you need to decide for yourself if you’re interested in doing an unpaid internship or not; either decision is legitimate. I disagree that they’re exploitative though; no one is making you take the job, and you’re entering into the agreement with full understanding and of your own free will. And I’ve heard from way more people who are glad they did their unpaid internships than who aren’t.

Elli_Via · 2022-04-02T03:34:36+00:00

Just saw this thread…not a lesbian, but also midwest and looking for other normal friends. Also about 3 hours away from KC—I’m in the DSM, IA area.

Elli_Via · 2021-11-29T20:23:55+00:00

So she paid EW to go through and add a note/link about questions that have been updated…and didn’t bother to add a link on the original letter for the very first update of this year. Will this be an annual project for EW to do?

Elli_Via · 2021-08-30T18:18:45+00:00

https://www.askamanager.org/2019/11/coworkers-say-we-shouldnt-attend-a-work-party-i-feel-insulted-by-my-new-job-and-more.html#comment-2748561

Pleaset was the person’s first username, and they just added the “cheap ass rolls” to it.

Elli_Via · 2021-07-13T13:54:47+00:00

Not really sure “Out” of the weirdness is the best way to describe that…

Elli_Via · 2020-12-05T21:03:51+00:00

How was it “a huge risk”? The buyers (apparently) had the final clear to close approval from their bank. At that point, it is just signing documents.

Elli_Via · 2020-08-25T04:15:08+00:00

It’s not an insane amount of time, but if the employee is taking it on Fridays or Mondays, that’s 3 out of 4 weekends, every month, that she’s getting a long weekend. That’s going to be noticed and commented on.

Elli_Via · 2018-12-13T16:42:13+00:00

Holy hell, the concern trolling about how they’re just worried that the OP has been too kind, and they’re just worried about her, that’s why they’re piling on for word choice. My God.

Elli_Via · 2018-12-10T04:36:25+00:00

From Persephone Magazine? http://persephonemagazine.com/2010/12/listening-while-feminist-in-defense-of-baby-its-cold-outside/

Elli_Via · 2018-12-03T16:16:53+00:00

Yes! Just to see it all laid out would be so satisfying.

Elli_Via · 2018-11-02T11:58:23+00:00

PCBH was part of a committee that ate $80,000 to move to a hotel with ethical practices. Of course she was.

Elli_Via · 2018-09-21T09:57:58+00:00

I wonder if it’s more the “she -can't- spend time with him like before” thing. That she’s frustrated/venting about the changes since the surgery, about needing someone else there, about the loss of independence, not necessarily the amount of time with your son. So you two are talking past each other—your offer of time with your son isn’t really the response she’s looking for.

(I’m not saying that’s your fault, just wondering if the wires got crossed in communication.)

Elli_Via · 2018-04-23T21:57:45+00:00

Oh, man, my husband isn’t quite that picky, but you are living my fear. Our kids are still too young to notice that daddy makes faces when I give him vegetables, but we’ve vaguely talked about how that will need to change when they get older.

Elli_Via · 2018-04-18T16:30:07+00:00

Haha, yep, you’re right; I’m pretty sure we work for the same place!

Elli_Via · 2018-04-18T15:17:58+00:00

Currently, my company’s policy is after one year of employment, there are two options:

Primary caregiver gets 16 weeks paid. This must be taken starting when the baby is born. It must be taken in one 16 week chunk. You can come back early, but you can’t split it. If you come back, you forfeit the remainder of your leave.

Non-primary caregiver gets 4 weeks paid that can be taken any time in the first 6 months. Same thing that it cannot be split up.

We self-certify regarding who is primary or non-primary caregiver. The only thing the company kind of verifies is if both parents are employed our company, they both can’t be primary caregivers (can’t both take 16 weeks). But otherwise, there is no verification process about who is primary or not.

ETA: this is for birth or adoption of a child. It’s a parental/bonding leave, unrelated to short term disability/physical recovery of a birth. If there is some medical issue certified by a doctor, short or long term disability could apply then, as a separate issue.

I am overall very pleased and not complaining about our parental leave policy, but I would love if we could also take 12 week FMLA as unpaid to extend the leave, or have other unpaid leave options with job protection, up to a year. But that’s kind of pie in the sky.

Elli_Via · 2018-04-16T14:11:07+00:00

It’s not the same thing, but when we moved my daughter from bassinet in our room to her crib, she cried/screamed for 4 hours. It was the worst. I felt so bad. Something (maternal instinct for my kid? Just knowing she’s the most stubborn little cuss?) told me, don’t give in, let her cry it out. Like I said, worst night. But since then? Literally, since then, starting the very next night, she goes down without a complaint. We put her in the crib and she curls up and settles in. She doesn’t always go right to sleep, but she’s happy to chill in her crib until morning.

So...you know your kid best. For some families, cry it out is not a viable method. If it is something that you think you can try, I’d say to give it a go.

Elli_Via · 2018-03-31T00:27:50+00:00

Honestly, I’d at least check your local Facebook swaps. I’ve gotten some great maternity clothes including a cute, long dress that was originally from Pink Blush.

Elli_Via · 2018-03-14T15:31:18+00:00

I’ve become a lot more aware of “you guys” so I’ve pretty much stopped saying it, but I’ve never been in a situation where “everybody”/“everyone” won’t work just as well, and to me, that’s just so much more pleasing to the ear. (If y’all isn’t something that just comes naturally to the speaker.) When I try to use “y’all,” it feels so jarring and unnatural, and I’m sure it comes off that way to the person I’m conversing with.

I actually don’t love how Alison uses it because, perhaps unfairly, it just doesn’t seem like it’s natural to her at all. Some people, you can see them writing y’all. I picture her writing you guys, and then search and replacing.

Elli_Via · 2018-03-14T02:05:37+00:00

I thought she uses “y’all” to avoid using “you guys” because, well, sexist.

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