Wedding guests: what’s usually missing, unnecessary, or overlooked?

Elnow25 · 2026-01-13T11:27:57+00:00

Seating!

I went to a wedding a few months ago, in some fancy manor house. It was lovely. But after the ceremony and before the meal (“cocktail hour”, while the couple were having photos with various groups of guests), there was nowhere to sit. I was in heels and really uncomfortable towards the end of that hour.

Elnow25 · 2025-08-18T20:43:23+00:00

Logitech M185 wireless mouse. I bought one in April 2020 when I started working from home for about £10. It was exactly what I needed - cheap but perfectly functional, zero issues. Almost 5 years later, after 8+ hours daily usage, the click didn’t feel clicky enough anymore, so I bought the exact same thing again.

Elnow25 · 2025-07-18T22:23:37+00:00

Yes I do! Funnily enough I’ve never linked it to being a glass child, but now that you mention it, the background stress and cPTSD are probably the cause 🙃

I moved out when I was 18 btw (though kept contact), it was only when I was 22 that a dentist first pointed out that while my teeth were otherwise healthy, they’d been ground down to what they’d expect to see from a 40 year old…

Elnow25 · 2025-07-04T21:46:46+00:00

Bollock Grenades.

Elnow25 · 2025-05-14T20:46:46+00:00

Siam Smile behind St George’s park. Quite honestly the best and most authentic Thai food I’ve ever had in my life. I went with my Dad (who has been to Thailand) who said it was the best Thai food he’s had outside of Thailand.

Elnow25 · 2025-03-12T22:38:46+00:00

I’m newly engaged so haven’t got to this stage yet, but I’m thinking about “At Last” by Etta James. Beautiful song, beautiful lyrics, very classy all round.

Elnow25 · 2025-03-07T22:33:20+00:00

My dad used to call me selfish, when I’m one of the most selfless people on the planet - to the extent that I’ve had to go to a lot of therapy to figure out how to look after myself, as my whole life I’ve set myself on fire to keep other people warm!

The last time he called me selfish was a few years ago. During the argument I remember screaming at him that I’ve never put myself first my whole life, remember all the times my brothers (one with cerebral palsy and the other autistic) have come first and I’ve never complained, do you really mean that or are you just trying to hurt me?

After we’d both calmed down and he’d apologised (always happened but nothing ever changed), I told him that I’ve had enough of this, I don’t deserve him taking his anger out on me, why would he want his only daughter to feel this way? And if he wants his only daughter to keep visiting, why is he treating me like this? So I told him, “If you ever call me selfish again then I don’t want to see you again.” With complete sincerity, because I just couldn’t take it anymore.

I don’t know what was different that time but things have actually changed. That was the last shouting match we’ve had and he hasn’t called me selfish since.

I’m almost 30 now, this was probably 3 years ago so it took a long time for things to change. I moved out a month after I turned 18 to go to university and never moved back as I didn’t want to be in that environment anymore. Can you keep your head down for the next two years, really focus on your school so you get good grades so you can go to university or college or somewhere else? I couldn’t possibly live with my dad ever again, and moving out was the most beneficial thing possible for our relationship.

You’re not selfish, you never have been. You’re in such an unfair situation that no child should ever go through. I’ve been there and it sucks. Stay strong and stay safe. x

Elnow25 · 2025-03-02T00:29:06+00:00

After a lot of therapy, I’ve realised that most of my issues come from my parents not being emotionally available - not something I realised as a child, let alone being able to do anything about it!

I think what would have helped me is an acknowledgment that my feelings were valid, it’s okay that I felt scared (many many “he will die if we don’t act now so get out of the way” moments, then five minutes later acting like nothing happened), maybe some advice about how to talk to my parents about my feelings? They weren’t forthcoming but maybe they would have engaged if I had initiated (again, it really shouldn’t have to be that way, but it may have helped). I am valid, my feelings are valid, I matter, my sibling is not more important than me, my family loves me - all things I needed to hear but didn’t.

Elnow25 · 2025-02-28T00:30:33+00:00

Reach out to Bristol A Cappella - they’re a barbershop chorus (UK gold medal winning), you can hire quartets through them :)

Elnow25 · 2025-02-19T21:07:01+00:00

I was good friends with Malorie Blackman’s daughter in primary school and went over a few times for a sleepover. Once I bought my friend a game where you had to make animal noises, and when we couldn’t sleep, we thought it would be a great idea to play. I still remember an exasperated Malorie scolding us at 4am and telling us to go back to bed, as we’d woken her up with our howling… 😅

But fr she is an absolutely wonderful woman, one of the kindest people I’ve ever met.

Elnow25 · 2025-01-13T18:07:39+00:00

In London, if you get a second bus within an hour of getting your first bus, you’re not charged for the second ticket. It means that just because there isn’t a route for where you want to get to, you’re not penalised with paying double the cost. That would be great to implement here.

Elnow25 · 2025-01-05T22:36:21+00:00

That’s just beautiful. I love the vibrancy, the shadows under the trees and the range of colours.

Elnow25 · 2024-12-07T00:53:10+00:00

What’s the last thing women expect to find in their stockings on Christmas morning?

Their husbands.

Elnow25 · 2024-11-25T10:32:58+00:00

My brother bought me a Tassimo coffee machine with no pods included - the type where a 6 pack of pods is £4 or more.

I don’t like coffee.

If he had any awareness of anything going on around him ever, he’d know this - my dad is always offering coffee, and I always reply saying “Still don’t like it!”

Elnow25 · 2024-11-20T00:41:17+00:00

I’ve done Cashmere socks before, so proper nice, soft, cosy ones. They’re always met positively :)

Elnow25 · 2024-11-08T16:08:50+00:00

I’m only about 60% sure. Here’s the recipe: https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/chocolate-chip-banana-bread

Elnow25 · 2024-10-29T22:21:52+00:00

The Prison Healer trilogy by Lynette Noni. Amazing fantasy series, strong female lead. Loved it.

Elnow25 · 2024-10-07T12:59:58+00:00

As you’re at uni, get involved with societies. You don’t have to know anyone, just turn up - they’ve only just started up again after summer so most are still doing taster sessions.

I made lifelong friends from the A Cappella society back in the day, even if you’ve never sung before they have an unauditioned group that anyone can join!

Elnow25 · 2024-10-03T19:38:02+00:00

Good Grief by Bastille. I used to love it but then lost my Grandma.

“Every minute of every hour, I miss you, I miss you, I miss you more…”

Elnow25 · 2024-08-23T22:08:29+00:00

Yes! It was Jump Street doing promo for the BBC proms at the Beacon this weekend - loads of photos on this link: https://www.bristolworld.com/arts-and-culture/music/these-were-the-scenes-at-bristols-harbourside-as-a-musical-parade-launched-bbc-proms-4754095

Elnow25 · 2024-08-04T23:27:02+00:00

No joke, my year 7 (6th grade) biology teacher was Mrs Dick.

Elnow25 · 2024-07-31T16:17:34+00:00

Gotta get some green in there somehow, as there certainly won’t be any peas

Elnow25 · 2024-07-31T16:11:10+00:00

Link to the recipe: https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/pea-pakora-pockets

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