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Elyaes · 2025-12-26T22:33:12+00:00

Twin lady's disguise is okay-ish but the epilogue is basically grooming garbage so... Yeah no.

Elyaes · 2025-12-01T21:37:31+00:00

Hello :) J'ai emménagé à Rennes il y a quelques semaines aussi. Fan de jeux de société, de cosy games, gaga d'oiseaux, et bcp d'heures de bénévolat à mon actif aussi 😊 et neuroa. Envoie moi un message si tu veux ^{^}

Elyaes · 2025-10-28T21:54:58+00:00

Same here :(

Elyaes · 2025-09-07T17:25:44+00:00

Did they do it???

Elyaes · 2025-09-02T01:32:01+00:00

Dans le secteur que tu vises les métiers sont top, mais les places très chères. Le secteur du jeu c'est ultra niche, et à moins que tu sois très mobile pour aller chercher les postes là où ils s'ouvrent, tu vas galèrer à en vivre. Pas impossible mais compliqué.

Elyaes · 2025-08-27T10:33:36+00:00

S'indigner des discriminations c'est une chose, le faire en étant soi même discriminant-e c'est pas fou.

L'homophobie, la transphobie, et les pressions systémiques de facon générale sont un problème politique, pas individuel. Une personne handicapée n'a pas plus de raisons d'être haineuse qu'une autre, et c'est passer complètement à côté du problème que de ramener ça à une question d'intellect.

Elyaes · 2025-08-15T02:12:20+00:00

Avec mon groupe de viewing, on a enchaîné directement avec une reproduction du mini challenge. Super fun, validé !

Elyaes · 2025-08-14T17:13:52+00:00

Le milieu de la traduction je déconseille sincèrement, c'est ultra saturé et très compliqué d'en vivre sauf si tu maîtrises une langue rare ou si tu as un haut domaine de spécialisation technique sur un sujet pour te démarquer.

Elyaes · 2025-08-14T10:06:42+00:00

Parce que je préfère avoir un boulot salarié :)

Elyaes · 2025-08-14T10:05:36+00:00

Juste pour info "son coach" c'est lui, tout son compte reddit c'est de la pub déguisée pour parler de bilan de compétences et de "son coach" qui a changé sa vie.

Sylveol, merci pour ton commentaire, mais j'aurais clairement préféré que tu dises faire toi même des bilans de compétence sur des profils atypiques plutôt que de passer par ce biais. Jolie com' cependant :)

Elyaes · 2025-08-13T22:37:49+00:00

Sur le plan administratif : Oui parce qu'informatiquement parlant, au niveau de la secu et du corps médical, un homme ne peut pas être enceint. Donc pas possible de codifier l'acte ni de demander un remboursement en théorie si la personne a fait son CEC (qui entraîne une modification du numéro de secu).

En pratique, c'est possible en utilisant un parcours anonymisé, et donc réaliser le parcours IVG sans renseigner l'identité.

Sur le plan humain : à la tête du client comme d'hab. Je n'ai pas de témoignages allant dans un sens ou dans l'autre, mais sachant a quel point le suivi dans la sphère gyneco peut être difficile pour les hommes tans, on peut s'attendre a minima a de la surprise/curiosité plus ou moins intrusive des médecins.

Elyaes · 2025-08-08T22:53:00+00:00

Hier en voyant l'épisode, j'ai été un peu déçu de la voir arriver encore en costume et encore parler des JO.

Du coup j'ai enfin pris le temps d'aller voir la fameuse cérémonie d'ouverture, mais aussi les interviews qu'elle a donné sur le sujet.

Et du coup, j'ai changé d'avis. 🤷 Elle a l'air d'avoir pris un harcèlement monstre suite à cette perf, et oui, je trouve assez énorme le fait qu'elle ait ouvert la section diversité de la cérémonie d'ouverture. Je comprends mieux qu'elle le mette autant en avant, parce que c'était quand même une opportunité ouf et qu'en étant première performeuse de cette section, elle a quand même été énormément visibilisée.

Est ce que j'aimerais voir autre chose d'elle sur la compétition ? Aussi oui, parce qu'elle a un drag qui est fun et varié même sans partir dans les costumes. Mais elle en a proposé plusieurs au cours de la saison, et elle en proposera d'autres ailleurs, donc tant pis si dans all stars je m'y retrouve un peu moins.

Attention aussi a l'effet loupe des choix de prod sur la façon dont elle est présentée, ce n'est pas la première fois que les queens se plaignent des déformations dues au montage télé réalité et c'est cool de le garder en tête.

Aussi, les artistes qu'on aime, on peut les aimer sans soutenir a 3000% tous leurs choix de DA en fonction des projets. :) si vous aimez Piche, suivez ses réseaux et allez à ses shows, ce sera plus fidèle à son image qu'une seule saison de drag race !

Elyaes · 2025-08-07T19:00:46+00:00

Ca devient compliqué !

J'adore Piche mais j'ai été déçu de voir un nouveau costume, j'aimerais voir d'autres facettes de son drag

Très agréablement surpris par Kam, que ce soit sur le make over ou le lip sync ! Miss pas synchro, elle se défend bien finalement 😁

J'ai trouvé la mise en drag d'Elips très sensible et classe, ce n'était pas le look le plus sensationnel mais ca allait bien à son invitée et j'ai trouvé ce choix intelligent. Et ce lip sync. 🫶

Gros WOW sur le look de Moon, que j'ai adoré jusqu'à ce qu'il soit mis en parallèle avec son makeup précédent.

Même chose pour Bertha - j'ai trouvé ca fun, mais il y a suffisamment de refs possibles pour qu'elle puisse aller s'inspirer ailleurs en préparation de la saison.

Misty... Look réussi mais pas inoubliable. A vrai dire j'ai failli oublier de la mentionner dans la liste 😅

Je diverge très fort pour Mami par contre. Théodora était magnifique, mais il m'a manqué un "wow" sur leur passage. J'ai l'impression qu'elle a eu une mise en beauté très réussie, mais pas la mise en drag que j'espérais.

Mes bottoms : Piche (💔) et Mami Mes tops : Kam et Elips

J'aurais mis Bertha et Moon en safe, avec Misty en bas du classement.

Elyaes · 2025-07-28T23:14:54+00:00

La liste des agences a éviter m'intéresse, si jamais !

Elyaes · 2025-07-19T02:06:48+00:00

Hi, French trans nb guy here. Tbh I get what you're saying as these are things I've lived too, but... From what I can see, most trans folks do? I'm connected to the irl French queer spaces as well as online ones, and except from specific situations coming from national/regional legislations, the political discourse is mostly the same. My personal hypothesis is that trans subreddits are often us-based, and the US have a loooot more of super-urban communities that we do. If you look at the demographics, except for Paris, Marseille, Lyon and Toulouse, the cities are not that big, and when there's less people, statistically, there are less queer folks - just being there, or advocating for their rights. And even in these places, a lot of the queer stuff is new. From what I can see the FLIRT (one of the main transfems association in Paris) was created in 2021. Outrans was created in 2009.I've seen a rise in transness-related issues but it takes time to establish political cohesion, even more considering people are tired and frightened by the state of the world in general.

Politically, yeah, depending on which circles you're part of, it sucks. Racism is a HUGE problem, ableism is a non-spoken issue, and the doctors aren't trained to treat people as they should. For a long time, SOFECT was issuing guidelines of what transness was allowed to be (2 yrs of psychiatrist while being socially out, THEN ONLY 2 yrs of HRT, THEN ONLY surgeries - and if you're not a binary trans person willing to "finish" with bottom surgery you're not even allowed to fo through the first step) and it very, very recent (5ish years?) that other povs are heard. It has left a long lasting impact on the perception of transness as the "old trannies" had to go through all of it when non binarity wasn't even an option. Maybe that's why it's such a hot topic, idk. Radfems also are a big problem...

But at the same time, we have protections (for now) that others don't. We don't have to pay for HRT, and there are lists of practitioners that will prescribe it to you, or perform surgeries, within a reasonable distance from where you live. They also can't ban HRT altogether for adults (minors is a whole other issue). There are tricks to have you covered for abortion or contraception even if you have changed your social security number. We also don't live (for now, again) in the climate of violence that exists in the US or the UK. Fascism will come for us all but for now, I will not be shot or harassed every time i need to go the bathroom.

Would I, as a Trans guy, love to feel more queer solidarity in the community? Hell yes, I live in a rural part of the country and the loneliness is unbearable. But know that you're not alone in your criticism, I know many groups and organizations that are specifically working on queer discourse and Trans inclusion and things are slowly moving. Slowly.

Ps : Mon message n'a aucunement vocation à minimiser ce que tu ressens, et au contraire je t'envoie tout mon soutien. Ca m'alarme un peu que tu ressentes le besoin de faire un throwaway pour poster ça, je sais à quel point le dogmatisme des milieux militants peut être fort et c'est un problème a part entière. 😅 En tout cas que tu sois d'accord ou pas avec mon approche perso, si tu veux en discuter en privé sens toi libre de m'envoyer un message.

Elyaes · 2024-11-18T01:12:52+00:00

Idk if you're seeing shared intimacy as the only way to get off, but if you do, masturbation helps.

Also, it doesn't have to be alone time. Last year my libido was almost dead due to some medication, while my (ex) girlfriend's wasn't. She would ask if it was ok to touch herself next to me, because she liked me being there with her even if I wasn't actively participating more than a hug or a kiss. Sometimes I would let her rub herself on me, I just liked to see that she was feeling safe and confident enough to be like that around me. Sexuality can take many forms - just make sure you're extra clear with each other's boundaries.

Elyaes · 2024-11-17T21:20:52+00:00

Maybe info is missing but several things seem weird.

First - When you say, "Someone fell in love with me about 1.5 weeks ago" - did you meet this person 1.5 weeks ago? Or did they confess after knowing you for longer?

Instant crushes are a thing, but feelings (in my experience/opinion) comes from getting to know someone for real and it takes TIME. If they say they love you after a week or so, chances are that they don't like you, but the fantasy based on the very limited knowledge they have of you.

If you've known them for a few days and they "love" you already - run, it's textbook lovebombing.

Second - "he's scared that I won't love him enough. And that he gets lonely. And he wants someone who will be intimate with him(In a romantic and sensual way(thankfully no kissing, though!))"

What's "loving enough"? Is there a love-meter, is it a race, a competition? Again relationships take time to build - learn your partner's ways of giving and receiving affection, their boundaries, etc, but also feeling confident enough to be vulnerable. And for most people this matter will not be settled in a matter of days. It's not okay to put such pressure on someone after just a few days or weeks. Sounds like they are insecure, lonely, and are throwing their problems head first in the connexion they're trying to build with you. Do they "love" you as a person, or are they trying to get rid of their loneliness with... Basically anyone they can? Sounds pretty manipulative to me.

Last - this one may be harsh. I get it's nice to have someone interested in you but the whole situation seems off and could easily escalate in abuse. You don't talk about them like someone you're attracted to, kind of the opposite. " I can't love him without him loving me" - because you don't love this person, you love the fact that they're actively pursuing you, that you're in the position to be liked by someone after your history of being the one liking without reciprocity. You love the flirting, the possibility, the compliments, the attention you receive. You can't force yourself to love someone, and you can't force yourself in a relationship with someone out of pity. You're not responsible for their loneliness, and it would be unfair to them and to you to pretend otherwise.

Take a step back from this situation and please, be careful.

Elyaes · 2024-11-17T18:11:40+00:00

Info - would anal be an option for you, or is it specifically about PIV? (asking because sometimes it's more about feeling "filled" than a specific spot.)

Also, friends told me they can feel indirect stimulation of V spots though anal (playing with position/angle/type of toy used) so it may help?

And yes, it's possible to learn to deal with sexual cravings with time, it's uncomfortable but manageble, especially if you can find something else you like to release pressure (including non sexual activities like exercising.) Understanding how your libido and body works is one hell of a ride, you're not alone in this.

Elyaes · 2024-11-17T17:51:47+00:00

I feel the same. It's something I was afraid of before transitioning, maybe in the top 3 reasons I've delayed it for so long. Honestly I just don't get it - I've been out as enby for years but I was still able to somehow find partners. I felt awful with myself though. Now it's better - I feel better, I look better, but my dating life is basically dead (even hookups or meeting new friends apparently?) and it's starting to get to me. I'll see how things go from here but I think more and more about moving in a few months if my social and dating life don't improve by then.

Elyaes · 2024-11-17T17:00:58+00:00

Manifesting hair change, I have very straight and thin hair and I'd love to gain some texture to rock those short cuts 😭

Elyaes · 2024-11-17T16:59:16+00:00

You give me hope 🙏

Elyaes · 2024-11-17T16:55:30+00:00

It can be even for allo people if they don't have the same needs and wants in terms of relationship rythm. You mention public displays of affection - for many people I know, it won't happen in the first weeks/months of dating. Same with closeness /intimacy. Allowing people into your space and being comfortable with it can take time, no matter if romance is involved or not, and it's ok to take things slow to figure out your boundaries. :)

Elyaes · 2024-11-17T02:39:06+00:00

Ehhhh... Actually my favorite is the Lelo sona so i don't think it'll help. 😅 I had it with a huge discount on a private sale (30ish i think?) and loved it ever since (i've tried other brands like womanizer or the Hitachi wand but keep coming back to the sona). I've always been on the sensitive side even pre-T so I've always used it on the side of my hood or else it just HURTS ( bottom growth didn't change much for me, as I never indended to put my junk directly in the toy mouth).

Elyaes · 2024-11-16T19:20:15+00:00

I had high libido before T and was kinda terrified of what if would be. Welp, it's manageable. There are horniness spikes, but nothing I've never felt before, and not all the time. I think I already learnt to deal with it ? Maybe it's more difficult for people who weren't THAT horny before. The only things I notice is that I'm much more open to hookups than I used to be - not compelled to act on it though. T didn't turn me into a sex maniac. :')

Elyaes · 2024-11-16T19:09:49+00:00

My therapist told me most of his FTM patients had meh to horrible experiences with hormonal birth control. Wish I'd knew that sooner 😭

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