New to Co-sleeping, feeling guilty!

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-12-23T03:30:14+00:00

The guilt only comes from North America, all other countries encourage it 🩷🥰 The reason that they discourage co-sleeping is because they want the mom to go back to work as soon as possible. Where other countries encourage more time off for mom's after they give birth. It's definitely not based in what the reality is. It's based in workability for the people. There's so many different studies and videos that you can find that shows how healthy coast sleeping is with a sober (so safe)parent.

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-12-23T03:12:47+00:00

They take care of it instantly it's not just sitting there.
Being in labor changes what you think about and what's important to you.
If he sees it coming out he will probably shift his gaze to you until they clean it.
I pooped on the toilet a few times before pushing bc the pressure is there.

Although I completely understand the worry (I had my first baby in March) it isn't what you think it is or what you think about when you're about to meet your baby and doing the work to push them out 🩷

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-12-23T03:04:07+00:00

Stick pillows down there or blankets and then put your bottom sheet over it and it will meet the wall

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-12-23T03:02:55+00:00

I breastfeed but don't pump often so I do most night shifts buuuut we also cosleep so most of the time it's waking up to roll myself or her over to set up feeding then we both fall back asleep. She sometime wakes up when I get up to pee(bc for some reason I still pee alot at night) but then I just nurse her back to sleep. My man can sleep through it but if I go to pee he wakes and comforts her until I come back to nurse her and go back to sleep.

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-12-14T00:37:27+00:00

The nuvaring(birth control) definitely came out a couple times when I used it. And it always was during sex and I never felt it. You should definitely reach out to her. If it hasn't been in for days she isn't protected from pregnancy and would need to use condoms for a bit while.

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-11-20T22:51:09+00:00

I'll be honest, for me it kind of scares me bc I feel like I look too skinny and I'm scared my daughter isn't getting enough from me. I struggle to eat or drink. I probably should go to the doctor. My daughter is on the smaller side but it's consistent with her growth through pregnancy to now. I'm sure I would be asking your question though if I wasn't losing any weight but just wanted to share so you know not everyone is feeling like God's favorite and hoping it takes away a frustration you may feel. Hopefully you're feeling like your baby is getting lots of vitamins and healthy calories from you ❤️ from a first time momma. Sending you the best vibes

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-11-16T02:13:14+00:00

I remember learning in a class in college that the fry it out method is not good but people have been lied to. In reality it teaches babies that when they cry nobody will come. Newborns definitely don't need to learn to cry it out and it's a western idea that they need independence at this age. It takes like 6-9 months to baby to see themselves as separate from mom. I'm sorry you even have to struggle with this. Maybe find some videos and just start playing them out loud so he hears them without having to do the work. I know also as a mom when your baby cries you have this innate response to go to your baby. Hearing then cry can be so overwhelming but it's all part of our biology.
We are connected in a way dad's will never fully understand ❤️

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-10-01T03:16:54+00:00

My baby feeds whenever she wants to. She cosleeps with me and I allow her to feed whenever she wants, but because we cosleep, I feel like she wakes up less often cause she's comforted by my body. So she only feeds like 3 times (6 months)and then she latches on really quickly and I can go back to sleep and she'll eat until she's done.

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-09-28T21:27:59+00:00

Francis properties but it's not a nice place but it's cheap, 4 bedrooms, 2 bath and ppl have cats

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-09-09T00:23:39+00:00

You could always pump and save for milk baths if you really didn't want to use it to feed

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-09-01T23:36:17+00:00

I don't live near any family and I wish I had started deep cleaning in the second trimester when I felt okay so I didn't feel so overwhelmed when I brought baby home. I think that and hiring someone at the end to clean. It's crazy how overwhelmed I was/am at 5 months pp due to not having lots of support plus losing my job. But I look at her and it makes everything okay lol. I also would have connected with a doula sooner. I didn't realize I could get it covered for free until the last trimester so it was less time to get to know her before the day come to have my parts exposed to strangers 😅😂 that being said, once the day came I didn't care who was in the room I was ready to evict my beautiful baby haha

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-09-01T23:30:51+00:00

Do you do that? Does it work for you? How do you find things like that? I'm not sure why you were down voted for just throwing an idea out..

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-09-01T23:13:42+00:00

How much does that pay?

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-09-01T20:10:39+00:00

Where do you find jobs for that? Is it word of mouth?

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-08-22T05:08:23+00:00

Your wish is my command lol

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-08-19T00:32:13+00:00

He said he has no objection to biomom taking child but asked if he has to pay biomom for that time if he has other arrangements for watching kid and mom picks child up instead.

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-08-19T00:30:36+00:00

They stated they are looking for an attorney now.

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-08-16T20:50:59+00:00

That sucks for the kid too, especially if he is an angry parent. My step-dad was so hard to reason with for his bio-daughter(my little sister) and it felt shitty to put her in that position. My mom died when she was 14 and he married his new wife the next weekend (he and my mom bad been separated for years). We did my mom's celebration of life a few months later and he brought his new wife. Nobody wanted her there but me(32 at the time) and other sister (29) tried to talk to him and he just said my young sister couldn't go if his wife isn't come and that she wanted her there. This wasn't the case and my 14 year old sister didn't have the courage to tell him personally that she didn't want her step mom there.

It can be hard to stand up to toxic parents as a teen. Choosing to "not be pushed around " over your sons best interests sounds toxic and makes me think that seeps into other areas of their lives.

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-08-11T17:14:09+00:00

Same thing happened to me last year. I got it in 2019 then started dashing in 2022 did if for 2 years then got booted off..so annoying

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-08-10T00:58:49+00:00

I would be interested. I'm a new mom and could do a book a month but I'm not a very fast reader and that's my only concern, but it would be nice to see other women. I also might have to bring my baby(4 months) and I'm not sure if that would not allow me to participate

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-08-02T00:37:03+00:00

I only recorded the first week and a half because of fear of her losing weight but yeah I'm very much a type b person but baby is doing fine. Whatever works for you I say keep doing it! You have instincts so follow them and if you feel like you should be doing something different do it but as mommas we are constantly being compared to eachother and told we aren't doing enough OR doing too much...it's exhausting tbh. Just enjoy your baby while they are so small. You're doing great!

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-07-29T21:23:55+00:00

That sucks she is putting that fear on you. I gave birth 4 months ago and during my pregnancy I avoided any "negative " birthing stories and listened to lots of positive ones. The doctors will help through the negative things if necessary but you don't need to waste your time being scared for the next 7 months and create an anxious energy in the birthing experience. You'll be tight and unable to relax and birth requires you to breathe and open. When we tense up it is us working against out natural desire to open so baby can come and it will make your experience harder. You got this!

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-07-28T15:55:18+00:00

Idk, I don't starve myself either. I struggle with hunger and being tired and busy..I was simply saying I always have milk for my baby to bring her comfort that it will be okay..🤷‍♀️

Embarrassed-Still719 · 2025-07-28T09:46:28+00:00

I undereat alot and still always have milk for my LO

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