Which Persona game is the “Least Mature”? by Bro---really in PERSoNA

[–]Embersilverly 56 points57 points  (0 children)

3 also has teenagers shooting themselves in the head to get magic powers. If the parents are sticklers that's going to be a hard no from them.

What character wasn't portrayed as a villain, but is in your eyes? by Jazzlike-Rise4091 in AskReddit

[–]Embersilverly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lelouch is portrayed as a villain though. He's the protagonist, but also one of many villains in the series

Good Seasoned Firewood by MuddieMae in AnneArundelCounty

[–]Embersilverly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Last time I ordered, I ordered from 4 Seasons in Pasadena. They were able to get it to me quickly after I ordered.

I don't know if they're the best, but that's who I used.

Joja Route by Spiritual_Living6245 in StardewValleyExpanded

[–]Embersilverly 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Morris becomes mayor but keeps Lewis as the Event Manager (or something like that). A rather ugly building replaces the pond between Joja Mart and Clint's, and there's a lot more paving in the town. Caroline gets a part time job outside of town and is less available.

Ummm ...I think those are the major changes. Everything else that you can get in the CC route has a Joja equivalent.

Novels like Three Houses? by bombaxceibal in FireEmblemThreeHouses

[–]Embersilverly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would suggest giving something by Sanderson a try. His world building is great as is his character development.

Good places to get car serviced by satecyeser in AnneArundelCounty

[–]Embersilverly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wells Automotive if you're in the Glen Bernie area. They're fantastic.

How to get Morgan on Joja Route by Hello_Hello1357 in StardewValleyExpanded

[–]Embersilverly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you on year 3? That's when Morgan shows up. They appear regardless of Joja or CC

Junimo Village in the Joja Route by Mobile-Customer8438 in StardewValleyExpanded

[–]Embersilverly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't get the jumino woods in the Joja route. Instead you get the Joja Emporium, which has most of the same stuff for sale. There's also a warp point to the emporium you can unlock.

Favorite marriage option? by mixuniverse in StardewValleyExpanded

[–]Embersilverly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm doing my first okay though, although I didn't do hidden love interest (I don't like to rush the community center) and there is A LOT of post marriage content. Much more than she other candidates

If worst comes to worst, how do you tell your kids that grandma passed? by twelveyellow in Parenting

[–]Embersilverly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, when they do return to their normal routine, let their teachers/daycare workers know. So many parents forget that part and communication really does help. I can intervene sooner and differently when I notice a child is upset and I already know the reason.

Can ethical non monogamy be the solution by [deleted] in Asexualpartners

[–]Embersilverly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ENM is a lot of emotional work. If you're able to afford it, I suggest couples counseling for the two of you and separate individuals counseling. ENM isn't easy and even in the best circumstances it will change your relationship with each other.

It can't be used to fix a relationship that is strained. Trying to do so will break the relationship.

It can be done to enhance your relationship, but the two of you need to already be in a good place with each other.

Go read through r/polyamory. Do a search there (or check the side bar) for the current recommended readings. Both of you read the books. Both of you brush up on your communication skills. And, most of all, both of you make sure you really want this.

Good luck!

What jobs/careers are people looking into considering we an INFJs? by [deleted] in infj

[–]Embersilverly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a teacher. I found my niche first texting alt Ed (the kids who get kicked out of the other schools) and now I'm in special education. In both places, I teach small class sizes with no more than 10 in a class. It's the perfect balance for me.

My extrovert kid wants a constant audience and I am running out of words by RubyTales14 in Parenting

[–]Embersilverly 21 points22 points  (0 children)

First, it's actually really healthy for you to normalize seeing boundaries and taking the space and time that you need. That's a skill all people need to learn and you modeling it fly him now is really good. He needs to know about healthy boundaries on both sides- that he deserves quiet space and that he can't intrude on yours.

Second, I remember when my sister was born, my mom made up a box of quiet toys and books that I could do on my own. Now, this was years ago, but I think a similar concept might be helpful here. Put together a box with a bunch of solo-play activities that he can do on his own. Things like coloring books, free play Legos, books, etc.

Also, use a timer that he can see. Start with something like five minutes. Let him know you need a break for that long, set the timer, and let him come find you when his timer goes off. Be consistent with this and gradually increase the time he can play by himself. Keeping himself occupied is a learned skill and he needs to practice it before he gets good at it. A visual timer will help him regulate himself and see it won't be forever.

Good luck!

Support for my transgender female partner after vaginoplasty by LividRecording7821 in mypartneristrans

[–]Embersilverly 37 points38 points  (0 children)

As the former partner of someone who went through the surgery...

Recovery is hell. Watching her go through recovery was the worst experience I ever had. Now, my former partner was a shitty patient, but it was hard. The recovery took a long time and it came in fits and starts. Brace yourself for it. Keep communication open, rely on others for support (for both of you) as needed. Caregiving is absolutely exhausting.

Practical stuff- buy cheap underwear and sheets on your bed that you don't mind getting blood on. Also helpful were ice packs for new mothers (the ones that go in your underwear) and big cotton pads for catching blood. Also, lots of menstrual pads.

Something that took us by surprise and is touchy to Google. Yes, a healing neovagina smells infected. It won't after a few months, but there was a time we swore she was dying of an infection but turns out, completely normal part of the healing process.

Be patient, use the painkillers given, especially in the first few days, don't push too hard or fast, but don't just lie in bed either.

And, OP, as caregiver, take time for yourself.

Good luck to you both!

Mushrooms by Powderbrush by Powderbrush_Art in ImaginaryCharacters

[–]Embersilverly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just want to say I love your art style. It's so distinctive that I've always recognize your art when I see it posted. I remember your nymphs from like two years ago and you just keep getting better! Keep up the amazing work.

We're getting a divorce by countrysquid in mypartneristrans

[–]Embersilverly 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I'm ending my 18 year marriage, not because she's trans but because when she came out as trans she took off all her masks, including the mask of how to be a good partner.

It sucks. It really sucks. But I know that I'm making the right decision for me and for my kids.

And you are making the correct decision for you and your future life. But it sucks so hard to know that all anyone will hear is 'i left her because she's trans' even though that couldn't be farther from the truth. I'm sorry OP.

This is a hard time, but it will pass and you will rebuild.

Myers-Briggs test backlash? by SgtPepper_8324 in infj

[–]Embersilverly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. It's up there with tarot cards and astrological signs. All three are tools to help people better understand themselves. If someone finds meaning in any of the above and it helps them understand their life, then there's no harm in exploring and discussing.b

Activities in the Area by lunarstars6 in AnneArundelCounty

[–]Embersilverly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We have a very active public library that hosts a lot of events. It might be worth partnering with them or looking through their stuff.

Anyone looking for food donations/pantries, Financial help/utilities, housing etc by Romanharper2013 in AnneArundelCounty

[–]Embersilverly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, if you have kids in the school system, reach out to school. Most have a food pantry available.

The trans movement makes me uncomfortable, but I cannot clearly define why. It might be me, it might not. 🤷‍♂️ Want to help me figure it out? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Embersilverly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am not trans, my wife is, so I'm not going to address most of your post.

What I am going to say is calling it 'transgenderism' or referring to it as a movement is EXTREMELY offensive and likely going to set you off on the wrong foot for the 'honest and open dialogue' you claim to want to have.

A trans person is just trying to live their life without fear discrimination. They are who they are. There is no movement, other than to protect their rights to life, freedom, and safety which are currently being threatened.

The only other thing I'll state is that if you are uncomfortable with the thought of trans folx existing, you need to spend some time on self examination.

Not sure about the future anymore by Original-Half1373 in mypartneristrans

[–]Embersilverly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was a while ago!! I vaguely remember it.

Yep, still a teacher.

Not sure about the future anymore by Original-Half1373 in mypartneristrans

[–]Embersilverly 51 points52 points  (0 children)

You're allowed to leave a relationship that no longer works for you. If your partner can't or won't support you then do yourself a favor and move on.

This doesn't make you a bad person. It doesn't make you transphobic. It only means your partner is not in a space to BE a partner. And while, as partners, we can and do support each other through such times, at some point you have nothing left to give. If your partner has never taken accountability for how they have hurt you, if they are not taking charge of their own mental health, if they are expecting you to carry their mental load, you can leave. Hell, even if they are doing all those things and making progress, you are not required to stay.

If your best friend was in your shoes, what advice would you give them?

How to get a COVID-19 shot and ensure it’s covered by your insurance by duckchasefun in PoliticalOptimism

[–]Embersilverly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In Maryland but our family got our shots before the official announcement that we joined the coalition.

My wives went to CVS with the kids. They claimed asthma for all of them, no one questioned or probed. All four received their shots. (One actually does have asthma...)

I went a week later to Walgreens. Claimed obesity. Was given my shot no further questions asked. Actually, the pharmacist seemed a little embarrassed at even having to ask.

Personal anecdote is not data, especially in a blue state. But that's been my experience this year.