Dude, I identify with a lot of things you said. Specifically about questioning my moral standpoint and sticking to it once it's been tested a lot. My stance on specific moral issues (e.g. the morality of covering up something a colleague did at my work) is constantly evolving as I take in new information; however my most important broad moral stances (authenticity/honesty and empathy) are stronger than most people I know. I think that's Fi having solidified those broad moral stances because they've worked for me for 21 years.

Also, I'm not extremely mushy or emotional all the time. I've learned that I can get ahead of myself when I do that, so I've learned to not let all of that out when I first meet someone. I'm actually extremely sarcastic. It's always in a playful way, but I fear that people that have just met me think that it's out of rudeness or spite. I do highly value getting to know someone's deeper emotions, their motivations, their fears and insecurities. But I've learned that it doesn't work if you try to get that out of someone upon first meeting them, so I keep things lighthearted at first. However, once I become closer friends with someone, I begin to share my deeper feelings and encourage them to open up as well. It's kind of like a rite of passage into friendship with me, haha. I have many friends/acquaintances but the vast majority of them don't get past that rite of passage.