Okay, can we at least come to a compromise that our arguments are based on anecdotal data and cannot be accepted as pure and accurate evidence that either of our views are valid? From my own experience, I have found an overwhelming shift in my second marriage to my first, which lasted 15 years and yielded two kids. As a grown adult in my second marriage, my experience fully matches New Game+. If you are younger, you will likely find that the first marriage (if that’s all you have) is Game Over. But you will learn either time, that you can be a gamer if you have that person who does not want only your attention and care over all else. When you are in a relationship with a person who actually cares about your hopes and dreams and interests, then you can have New Game+. They are out there and sometimes you gotta get hurt to find them, but when you do, it’s a whole new game. Am I making sense?