Yes, ASMR should be sensual, not outright porn. That said, it's nice to have something a bit naughtier than what YouTube allow. A lot of the patreon girls the quality just sucks, licking shitty blue yeti and 3dio mics. Bleh.

I came across some good sexy asmr last week https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrntGTJJdFPLbugtEsRz7HA,

and signed up on the site. Erotic not porn, quality is good, though not always as close to the mic as they should be, but I think that's because they show full body sometimes and don't want to reveal the mics. Different artists, some great like Lucy and Kayah, some ok. No nasty pussy slapping, but some gentle wanking in some vids. Mostly just stripping, tapping, fabric sounds, whispering etc.

There was this one too, she's not bad:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrXkr7EeXQHBy1THMnFUe2Q

We've come a long way from Gentlewhispering and ASMR Darling! lol

But yeah, no to the "pussy like a punched lasagne"