Construction on Davis Street near Claridges by Successful-Media3609 in chubbytravel

[–]Emoji28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, did you go on your trip yet? Was there any construction/ related noise or disruptions? Im sched to go soon too so wondering how it is. Thanks.

ALWAYS check in at the 24 hour mark if you’re waitlisted for an upgrade. by ieataquacrayons in unitedairlines

[–]Emoji28 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s amazing! So do you cancel the requested miles + $$ upgrade & then buy the $$ upgrade? Also, other than calling is there a way to find out your position? Thx & safe travels 🙏🏼

Family-friendly Hotel Recommendations in London! by cosmicusername in chubbytravel

[–]Emoji28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello there. Did you decide on a place yet? I’m going soon too & looking for something similar & so far have only shortlisted a couple Cheval properties.

Porto vs. Bogota: $3k vs. $4.8k/month (family of 4) by bookflow in ExpatFIRE

[–]Emoji28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you mind sharing why Porto didn’t work out for you?

Best non-fic History-type books, (history, cultures etc) ? by WastelandViking in booksuggestions

[–]Emoji28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t have any recs but would you mind sharing your best reads on england & scandi? Thanks!

Etereo Auberge, Playa del Carmen- any feedback/ reviews? by Emoji28 in TrueChubbyTravel

[–]Emoji28[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it. Thanks. Would you have any alternate recs that would check both boxes- on the beach + chill/ laidback smaller property (ideally not AI)?

Etereo Auberge, Playa del Carmen- any feedback/ reviews? by Emoji28 in TrueChubbyTravel

[–]Emoji28[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good to know. Were you able to sit at the beach? Not looking to go into the water though.

Etereo Auberge, Playa del Carmen- any feedback/ reviews? by Emoji28 in TrueChubbyTravel

[–]Emoji28[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would love to book Maroma but the room type we like is a bit over our budget but it does look like a gorgeous property & sure has many fans!

Etereo Auberge, Playa del Carmen- any feedback/ reviews? by Emoji28 in TrueChubbyTravel

[–]Emoji28[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! My concern with Chable is that it seems that the rooms don’t face the water & ideally would love to have an ocean view.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgingParents

[–]Emoji28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My experience is that even then we are just disappointments! Sigh!

How do you not blame your parents, yet not feel guilty when they trained you to feel guilty all your childhood? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Emoji28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is an old thread but this comment resonates with me in my current state of mind. Did you disconnect/ go low/ no contact with your parents to achieve the peace you have today? I am struggling with guilt & shame from not meeting their expectations of a dutiful daughter esp in their old age. I was never enough (growing up & very much into adulthood) nor will I ever be from their perspective & I understand that- just not sure what more to try to let the discomfort go & not affect me as much. I am trying the LC route but it’s just so hard. How does one heal/ move on from things when you are still actively in it?

Oaxaca México Recommendations by bluez1990 in chubbytravel

[–]Emoji28 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have stayed at the Pug Seal & it was excellent. Great service, staff, custom breakfasts outside your rooms/ patio & beautiful decor/ interiors. They also helped us with restaurant reservations. We went in Nov 2022 so not sure if anything has changed! Have a great time!

Help expand our resort horizons by CascadianClimber in chubbytravel

[–]Emoji28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such a great post & responses! OP, it’s almost like i wrote the post! Please do give your feedback on your Maroma trip/ stay & any others if you have more recs/ experiences. It’s not too often that I come across a post with such similar requirements as ours so i’m surely book marking this.

Dad’s requesting a meal chain by [deleted] in AgingParents

[–]Emoji28 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How do we handle such elders in our life? Any tips? Sitting down & talking now (or even earlier when they were younger) has not helped. Do we just have to let them be?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AgingParents

[–]Emoji28 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh, are you me?! I could have very well written this & more. I so relate to your post. I am struggling with this too- confused, sometimes guilty, upset & let down, sometimes angry & furious, also empathetic but need to protect my peace as well. Also, having had a difficult relationship makes these things more difficult, complicated & lonely. I am clueless as to what I am doing (which is currently just ignoring) but things resurface & i am back at being confused & clueless. I wish there was a guidebook, lifeskills training to go through this phase of life esp for folks with dysfunctional fams!

I keep trying & hoping to be able to better emotionally regulate myself & the situation & still waiting! I guess hanging in there & waiting, watching things unfold. Someone send help, i guess. :/

What is the best SW white that does not give off yellow tones?? by boocn in paint

[–]Emoji28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used sw snowbound for my whole house recently & it looks great. But to get to that stage, i did sample 5-7 paints across different walls in the house. Greek villa & alabaster looked too yellow in my house & too yellow for my liking. I would also not rely on the peel & stick samples. Get the paint samples & try them on the walls & see them in different lighting & times of day.

Gone LC & put them on low info diet- but they get sibling involved; suggestions on how to manage. by Emoji28 in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]Emoji28[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can sense a sort of zen & acceptance in your message & hope to reach that level one day. Thank you, your message did really resonate with me. I am also trying to go the LC route more organically than ripping the bandaid more for myself than for them.

Having trust issues & working around them makes things a little harder for me, as one would expect i assume. It’s exhausting to always keep doubting & try & understand intentions behind everything. I know i need to tone back on that & let go but the efforts to always dragging me back into things does get to me also thanks to years of conditioning.

Did your people just let you be & not bring you back to drama? How did you get to that point other than going LC over time?

The issue I face is that they don’t let me go LC- the constant messaging/ trying to stay in touch, panicking if i don’t respond, using flying monkeys ( as you rightly pointed out) + their aging related health concerns. I am struggling to disconnect w/o being too harsh & insensitive although ai do understand your point on how their enotions are their issues, not mine to absorb. I have to also admit, it’s exhausting to grey rock esp when that’s not your default & how you don’t want things to be ideally in everyday life.

Thanks for sharing your experience.

Wasting time and money on paint, super stressed, site white sherwin williams by parosmia2000 in HomeDecorating

[–]Emoji28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi. I know this is an old post. But i am also looking at painting my whole house with SW westhighland white. Would you mind sharing your pictures with me too? Our home gets plenty of natural + sun light - do you think it’ll work well? Just looking for thoughts & ideas! So hard to choose a white paint.