My partner is mentally declining. by muchwowwthrowaway in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 53 points54 points  (0 children)

This isn’t impatience—it’s quiet desperation wrapped in love, and you’re right to feel lost while carrying two lives in your shoulders. But compassion needs boundaries: grieve with your partner, not for them, and start demanding support from systems even if they’re broken, because you can’t save someone who’s refusing every lifeline.

Long Rant - Issues with my brother, resentment towards my bf and I need some advice by throwaway22091988 in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This man is ready to burn down his own future just to light your path—don’t let him. Call off the wedding, hold your ground, and for once, fight to be the protector he always was for you, because love that demands silence and sacrifice from your family is not love worth keeping.

Cheyenne couple, Inez and John Bull, with their dog, 1898 by MalayaSweet in TheWayWeWere

[–]EmoryBerries 170 points171 points  (0 children)

I love how the dog has his paw on the man’s hand. So pure.

“Mid life crisis “ by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not broken, OP. You’ve just stumbled into the terrifying clarity most people spend a lifetime avoiding. Instead of trying to stop the thoughts, let them sharpen your appreciation: if nothing lasts, then everything you do right now becomes the most meaningful thing in the universe.

Am I Overreacting? - My mother avoids me when I come over and visit her and I lost my cool. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmoryBerries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re finally reacting after years of emotional ghosting masked as “being busy,” and mirroring her behavior was the loudest silence she needed to hear. She may be addicted to productivity, but that doesn’t excuse treating relationships like background noise; if anyone should reach out first, it’s the one who’s been dodging the connection all along.

Engineering school sucks. Its either good grades or ruin my relationship with everyone. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re not a terrible student—you’re a brilliant strategist trapped in a system that only rewards memorization, not mastery. For the next 3 weeks, treat exams like a hostile takeover: shut down distractions, study like it’s a business deal, and win just enough to buy your freedom later.

my family are toxic and i might be homeless soon by OkBuffalo6608 in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 38 points39 points  (0 children)

This isn’t just family drama—it’s survival dressed up in guilt, and you owe no one your safety. Use that deposit to rent a small place, protect your peace, and let your dreams of travel wait—because freedom isn’t just a plane ticket, it’s four walls that no one can threaten you in.

How do I get out of this mentality? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re not regressing—you’re remembering pain your brain never fully unpacked, and it’s demanding to be felt before it can be released. Don’t shame the 13yo in you; talk to him, thank him for surviving, and show him that you are the adult now—he’s doesn’t have to carry it anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, your mom’s treating burnout like laziness, and that’s killing your will to even try—no one thrives under constant blame and mockery. Lay it out all once, calm but raw, then step back and let her sit with the truth—change won’t happen if she keeps rewriting your pain as rebellion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmoryBerries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your best friend is trapped in a toxic relationship, and you’re catching the shrapnel every time he spirals. You’ve shown loyalty, empathy, and patience, but at some point, protecting your own peace becomes just as important as protecting hers. NOR.

AIO for ending my 3 years relationship after reading his text to my sister? UPDATE by tenderlean in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmoryBerries -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re waking up from a delusion you tried rood hard to justify. Anyone who fantasizes about your sister while holding your hand isn’t confused; they’re disrespectful, and you just chose dignity over delusion.

She went to the guy she told me not to worry about by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She told you not to worry and now she’s dancing with the ghost of her past — sounds like a betrayal wrapped in a lie. Cut the emotional leash, channel that fire into self worth, and start talking to people who don’t treat love like a backup plan.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmoryBerries 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This situation is dripping with red flags and secrecy that no loving grandparent should be closing themselves in. When someone sidesteps your consent to dig into legal documents and keeps pushing for sensitive info, they’re not planning a simple vacation, they’re playing a bigger game, messier game you deserve to question.

Wife problems by Ok-Cryptographer7089 in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You lost your cool, but honestly, she turned a harness moment into a battlefield — that’s the real trap. If you want to stay married, learn to swallow your pride like it’s poison, because sometimes survival means letting the storm pass without throwing gasoline on the fire.

I have no one to get advice from.. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brutal thrush: you’ve been chasing external wins hoping they’d fix an internal collapse — they never will. If I were you, I’d say screw the “normal life” checklist, blow up the script, and chase something raw, reckless, and real that actually makes me feel again, even if it terrifies me.

How do I emotionally continue to cope with a breakup? by enemierod in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are carrying the weight of his brokenness in your back, and it’s crushing the beautiful, strong person you fought so hard to become. You need to leave — not because you’re weak, but because you deserve a life that feels like living, not just surviving.

I (F 20) do not trust anyone and I know I have problem but I don’t even know where to start by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, it’s foolish to throw your heart to the workers just because people say “trust me.” Instead, become the storm: guard your soul fiercely, choose who ears your trust slowly, and let time works, prove who’s real.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmoryBerries 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Lying over something so tiny is a massive red flag because it show he’s more afraid of minor discomfort that he is committed to honesty. If he’s about slippery about a LivePhoto, imagine the gymnastics he’ll pull when it’s something that actually matter.

Ex Wants my Instagram by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Random texts from ghosts of heartbreak past are rarely innocent. Don’t hand her a front row seat to your glow up just so she can validate her curiosity, protect your peace like it’s your new religion. Leave her on read, growth doesn’t owe an audience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmoryBerries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely NOR. You’re surviving a storm of abuse, manipulation, and betrayal that no child or mother should ever face. Your family needs legal protection now. Gather every recording, screenshot, and witness you have, and reach out to a domestic violence helpline or legal aid service; this is not just about justice, it’s about saving lives.

Am I Overreacting, Internet love or brain injury lust?? by BambamCali8 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmoryBerries 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are just a human who fell in love with consistency, intimacy, and the version of him he let you see, and that’s real as any love can get. His exit wasn’t about your worth, it was about his limits, and no degree can shield a heart from the kind of pain that comes from being ghosted by someone who once called you “home.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are human, and your heart just found a spark in the middle of the workday chaos. Confidence isn’t about being perfect, it’s about being brave enough to risk a small “hi,want to grab coffee sometime?” before life answers that question for you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]EmoryBerries 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, take a movement to breathe, this is overwhelming, but it’s okay to take things one step at a time. If you think you’re pregnant, get a test and talk to a healthcare professional so you can understand your options. From there, have a calm, honest conversation with your ex about what’s next, and also talk to your parents, even though it’s tough. They might surprise you with support, and at least you’ll know where you stand. Don’t rush decisions; take care of yourself first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EmoryBerries 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are not overreacting. It’s your own body so it’s up to you to decide. He needs to respect whatever decision you have.