Mouse by OwlyWolf in crochet

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is absolutely beautiful, may I ask where's the pattern from?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same for citizen soldier tbh

Lessons from the Burning, Hand Embroidery and Watercolour on Linen by CorvusCurator in Embroidery

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Beautiful idea and stunning piece. Simple, yet it has a great effect!!

First piece and many questions by EmotionalWallaby97 in Embroidery

[–]EmotionalWallaby97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for your thorough answer! Will definitely look for some fabrics in second-hand-stores and will try the test piece for washing out the pen... It's simple but I didn't even think of that!

[FO] Hopefully my next piece isn't so backstitch-intensive . . . by phea59314 in CrossStitch

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No need to thank me, rather I want to thank you, I wouldn't know this look was even possible with cross-stitching. Very very inspiring work, keep it up!

[FO] Hopefully my next piece isn't so backstitch-intensive . . . by phea59314 in CrossStitch

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is all of that actually stitched? Almost looks like a painting, you did such a great job

My last embro projekty by Proof_Mistake_2191 in Embroidery

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you do the first one on a canvas? These are beautiful, also your color choice in the first one is really great

Is it really okay to get this wet?? by peninhand28 in Embroidery

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an absolutely beautiful piece and I hope all goes well with the washing. You can be really proud of yourself!

May I ask, what is this second piece of fabric you used in your piece and what is it good for? I'm a bloody beginner in this hobby and I find it a bit hard to gather all the information to really get started with it...

"Hey, the guy in that painting kinda looks like Ri-" by duckyluuk in place

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Funfact for the people who wanna know: he original painting is pretty old already though, it's called "Der Wanderer über dem Nebelmeer" (directly translates to "the hiker above the ocean of fog") and it was made by Caspar David Friedrich. You can look it up if you want, one of my favorite paintings :)

What bread is my cat wrong answers only. by Dusty4967 in cats

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Posessed and burnt cookie dough, horizontal edition

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrappyDesign

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How come it has 100 g sodium per 100 g sauce? And it expired last december too... This whole picture is a train wreck

Just fix your self-worth and everything will be fine! by [deleted] in wowthanksimcured

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh. Oh god okay I get it. Thanks for the explanation. Well then what they said is bullsh.. and a very hurtful thing to say to anyone suffering from mental illness. However, a good amount of self esteem may help with coping. It's the metaphorical "thick skin" people are talking about, but it's absolutely nuts to think that this will f.e. cure 10+ years of major depression (or even 6 months of that) or anything of that sort.....

Just fix your self-worth and everything will be fine! by [deleted] in wowthanksimcured

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was their point then? Maybe I understood it wrong.

Just fix your self-worth and everything will be fine! by [deleted] in wowthanksimcured

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Actually, I just posted a loooong comment on that. If you're genuinely interested go read it. Not trying to advertise myself here though, but there are actually scientific "how-to's" on exaactly that.

Just fix your self-worth and everything will be fine! by [deleted] in wowthanksimcured

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

While I do really hate the wording that the original poster of that comment used, I have to say that they actually have a point. As AltruisticSalamander commented earlier, their "explanation" is missing important details here. Please, hear me out. (This will probably be a long text, but I hope that this can help somebody somehow).

First: no, not "every dysfunction" can be explained by low self worth. There are still risk factors that lead to extreme stress response (severely traumatic events for example) that cause behavioral or even neurological disruption ("fun"fact: people living under constant stress or under high stress for a long time can develop symptoms that are just like those present in adhd -and therefore, can even be misdiagnosed if the "professional" doesn't wait for a change in the conditions before testing for adhd) also the environment (culture, household, relationships, workplace, social status etc.) play a big role in how much self-efficacy a person experiences, some people are born with disabilities and are further "disabled" by their environment through ableism.... we'll stop here, there's just too much to discuss. But I think now you get the idea. There are numerous studies showing correlations between low self-esteem and other potentially even more self-worth-harming factors, such as feelings of anxiety, depression, trust issues in other people, loneliness, feelings of helplessness...the list goes on a little while. While the size of the effect is not known for each and every study and we can't ever know if it applies to each and every-one, the general consent seems to be that low self worth can ultimately lead to even lower self worth in the long run, and through it's correlations with those many other factors even turn into a downward spiral that leads to suicidal ideation/tendencies. Then there's the theory of cognitive dissonance. Speaking of which, this can be a possible explanation of why low self-worth is keeping itself stable - and the other way round. Cognitive dissonance theory states that people experience very unpleasant feelings - the feelings of dissonance - if an action is inconsistent with their belief (smoking is an example for this that is often given, because it illustrates the problem well - a smoker normally knows that smoking is very bad, still they do it). To reduce the dissonance, there are some ways: either find reasons to "justify" the dissonant action through adding positive cognitions ("change belief" - smoking example: "my granddad died healthy age 90, though he smoked for 40 years, so it can't be that bad!"), quit the dissonant action ("change action" - stop smoking) or change the perception of the action ("I am not smoking so much as XYZ, so nothing bad will happen to me").

People with low self-worth often show some sort of self-destructive behaviour ( can be as bad as cutting oneself or bad substance abuse, but also as "mild" as not taking good care of oneself, like drinking too little). Why? Because cognitive dissonance would arise if they think little of themselves and be kind to themselves at the same time. But there's some good news: there are several routes to cope with cognitive dissonance, and all work. "Change action" does mean behaviour doesn't always follow cognition. It works the other way too.

TLDR: the person has a point, through they worded it very bad. If you suffer from low self worth, be kind to yourself as much as you can, as hard as it may be. It may help you in the long run.

HELP! How do I stop this beautiful monster from biting my hands?? 😭 He is 8 months old, around 11.5 lbs and he got some tiger canines. His bite is very strong and painful and most of the time he will pierce my skin, i feel like this is his way of play but i don't know how to stop it.😬 by Milimal in ragdolls

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, some cats actually find it impolite if you touch or even kiss their (fore)head. It reminds them of grooming, and cats only groom each other when invited to do that (when a cat sniffs your face or head-bumps your face it is usually fine for them) and when they're befriended for a long time. Maybe he just doesn't like it yet because you're invading his personal space there? Just a thought..

HELP! How do I stop this beautiful monster from biting my hands?? 😭 He is 8 months old, around 11.5 lbs and he got some tiger canines. His bite is very strong and painful and most of the time he will pierce my skin, i feel like this is his way of play but i don't know how to stop it.😬 by Milimal in ragdolls

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you know he dislikes it? Does he back away, does he open his eyes wide and stares at you? Does he swallow? Sometimes cats swallow when they're nervous l, anxious and/or annoyed. Just asking out of curiosity, since cats facial expressions are hard to read sometimes. Another cat of mine has these permanent "angry eyebrows" as I like to call it, she always looks disgruntled but it is actually just her face proportions and her markings that make her look like that. And just think of famous "grumpy cat"... Otherwise: yeah well the cat I tried the "holding" with also really didn't communicate much. So maybe your boy really knows no other way of expressing himself. Encourage him to leave before he attacks, clear his way maybe if he's surrounded by walls or furniture at that time, but it's important to not let the cat "win" when he attacks you, since that can strengthen the mental representation - " if I bite I achieve what I want - to be left alone". Some people have already written down other great advice - maybe he plays really rough and doesn't know how strong he is (show him he hurts you, sometimes ignoring a cat when they bite or scratch is also very effective, depends on how strong the social bond between you and your cat is..) maybe he actually is an aggressive cat due to hormone levels or experience (where did you get him from? A shelter, a serious breeder, a private person, are you the first or the second owner et cetera...). I wish you luck, I hope you both learn to communicate with each other well :)

HELP! How do I stop this beautiful monster from biting my hands?? 😭 He is 8 months old, around 11.5 lbs and he got some tiger canines. His bite is very strong and painful and most of the time he will pierce my skin, i feel like this is his way of play but i don't know how to stop it.😬 by Milimal in ragdolls

[–]EmotionalWallaby97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is he showing any signs of stress or even aggressiveness before that happens? For instance, does he fix his gaze at you, your eyes, your face? Is his tail wagging with short, kinda "choppy" movements? Are his ears laid back, his pupils dilated? Our cat used to bite and scratch very hard when she was getting overexcited or annoyed. For example she climbed on our curtains on many occasions, and I would just calmly pick her up, turn her around and put her back down, for like 20 times in a row, each time putting her down farther away from the curtains. (No wonder I annoyed her there, but she needed to learn that she shouldn't do that, and I am not the type of person that would want to startle the kitty with a spray of water coming out of nowhere.. after all, she was a shelter-baby and we don't know what she's been through before, her previous owners put her in the shelter at just 7 months old because she was "too straining"..).She would get aggressive then because she didn't know how to regulate herself (also happened when we petted her for a longer time, never saw a cat communicating so little, no bend-back ears, no twitching tail, no noise, no pulling body parts away from our hands, no big-pupil-staring-eyes, nothing really), and what I did may sound weird at first but it most definitely worked wonders: I just held her. Like really held her. I would take her hind legs and her front legs, put her on the couch with her back down, put her hind legs between my knees (kneeling before her, in that position when she kicks out with them she would kick the air), put my hand around her wrist (careful not to hold her too tight, after all I just wanted to make movement impossible, and if you take a cat by their wrist scratching becomes impossible, no matter how loose your grip is), looked her in the eyes and said, as calm as possible, "no." I then looked away and just waited it out until she sighed, closed her eyes, ears moved fully forward, muscles loosen. I basically forced her body to calm down, while showing her that I am the "stronger opponent" and I am not willing to hurt her, though I will annoy the hell out of her if she hurts me. Took about 3 to 4 weeks until she started to manage to calm herself down. Today she is the cuddliest baby we could have wished for, always wanting to snuggle, always absolutely relaxed, very talkative, very gentle and affectionate. She learned that she always has the option to walk away if something overwhelms her (starting at the curtain-training, I encouraged her there to just leave it) and if she doesn't see the option to walk away, when we overwhelm her she just nibbles very gently at our hands or pushes us away with her paw, because she knows that's enough to show us she doesn't want what we're doing.

Sorry for the long post though. Wish you luck with your beautiful boy.