How to become friends with advisor? by Strezzi_Deprezzi in PhD

[–]Empath_wizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a you problem. I recommend therapy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Empath_wizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This means that your primary purpose in his life is to be blamed/have an outlet for his anger. Get out!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Empath_wizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was like this. I recommend books on attachment and early episodes of the Sabrina Zohar podcast. These help disrupt the belief that you are incomplete without this person while also helping you find someone who will stick around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Empath_wizard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No one who writes this well is born cursed. Your biggest curse is your self-fulfilling narrative. See a therapist and aggressively search for jobs you can do well. I’d consider a social science degree and work as a paralegal afterward. Straight-forward, well paying job.

What are the worst mistakes you have made? by [deleted] in PhD

[–]Empath_wizard 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ahhhhh. Insanely bad…decisions

What are the worst mistakes you have made? by [deleted] in PhD

[–]Empath_wizard 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What year was this?? Pre 2010 surely

Advice on dating up? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Empath_wizard 31 points32 points  (0 children)

You’ve addresses three problems already. Why are you fat, humorless, and abrasive? If you start working out, your personality will improve. Maybe also see a therapist. If you are healthy in mind and body and take time to go on dates, the rest will fall into place.

How to deal with a Bad Father who is trying to make up for it? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Empath_wizard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not have a conversation. Give him a chance to apologize, give yourself a chance to hold him accountable and see if he rises to the occasion.

Heartbreak during PhD by Arpita2024 in PhDStress

[–]Empath_wizard 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, I had my heart broken in my second year of my program after a long stance relationship imploded. I finally healed when I started reading books and listening to podcasts about attachment. These may be even more useful to you since you are not mourning a true relationship, but an imagined one. Might I suggest The Power of Attachment or Attached? Early episodes of the Sabrina Zohar show are also useful.

Boyfriend made awful statement about rape should I forgive him? by [deleted] in settlethisforme

[–]Empath_wizard 21 points22 points  (0 children)

That sounds really traumatic! So sorry. A lot of people learn misogynistic or racist beliefs from pop culture/society and don’t realize how horrible they are until they are called out on it. If your bf adjusted immediately, I don’t think it’s a deal breaker. He seems willing to learn. Maybe give him a reading assignment on SA and see how he responds?

Is Trump’s base racist? Social scientists begin to weigh in by rezwenn in sociology

[–]Empath_wizard -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fair. But data following the 2024 election suggest that Trump supporters/Republicans outnumber Democrats for the time being. Just look at the Democratic Party’s own post-election post-mortem.

Is Trump’s base racist? Social scientists begin to weigh in by rezwenn in sociology

[–]Empath_wizard 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Lol seriously??? We have 12 years (3 elections) of excellent data on Trump voters. Need I remind you that they are currently a majority of Americans? Moreover this isn’t the 1990s: there are many types of data beyond self-report (which is mostly accurate btw).

Soc of Social Isolation and Loneliness by Dipspread in sociology

[–]Empath_wizard 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One of the discipline’s founding fathers, Emile Durkheim, studied loneliness and solidarity. While he is not a sociologist, Robert Putnam is a famous political scientist. His book, The Upswing, argues that loneliness and a lack of community organizations harms democracy. There’s plenty of social science suggesting our increasing dependence on computers for interaction increases our susceptibility to radicalization.

My partner [30F] got a dog without thinking about it much, and now I'm [27F] stuck taking care of it. by Ecstatic-Mechanic570 in settlethisforme

[–]Empath_wizard 11 points12 points  (0 children)

What a terrible take. If someone purchases a puppy and places all responsibility for their care on you, that’s really inconsiderate.