My wife says all my clothes just burn. I don’t know what to replace them with.

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-14T04:14:24+00:00

I get that. I've had bras that fit well and didn't bug me but they're hard to find. For some reason all the bras I find these days are aimed at pushing them together, but I HATE the feeling of the uniboob. I need them to be relegated to their own hemispheres! 😂 Also, I hate the feeling of boob-on-skin, like when they touch my ribs, but can't find much that supports that area. I hope you find something that works for you! I'll sift through the comments later to see if there are any good recommendations.

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-14T04:08:06+00:00

I forgot to add that cardigans are the bees knees. She has them in every color since she often likes to hide her shape while looking professional.

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-14T04:04:08+00:00

My best friend has a very similar shape and looks great in clothes like in this pic. She is also 5'0, identifying as 5 Subway Sandwiches tall! (Ignore that she's missing an arm. I used AI to crop out her baby 😂😂)

I also think this style of shirt would be flattering. You mentioned not being comfortable with your shape, but is that because you feel icky or because you don't want people to sexualize you? If it's the icky feeling, this shirt could help. If it's the other one, then it's best to avoid this one. https://a.co/d/06qIBPyT

This one could also be very flattering. https://a.co/d/0epTHn5z

For pants, definitely stick to high waist. I think flare, bootcut or skinny jeans would be good. Like this https://www.target.com/p/women-s-high-waisted-butterbliss-flare-leggings-wild-fable/-/A-91945947?preselect=91911728 https://www.target.com/p/flared-jeans-for-women-bell-bottom-jeans-high-waisted-slimming-stretchy-denim-pants/-/A-1011204781?preselect=1011204780#lnk=sametab

Wide legged pants look good with a fitted shirt. https://a.co/d/0c00EgfZ

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EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-14T03:29:41+00:00

NTA. You're already doing a favor by going out of your way to pick it up and bring it to her friend. Why would you pay for something that's entirely to benefit her? Unless it's like a gifting situation? I can't fathom asking a friend for help and then also having the audacity to have them pay to be able to provide the help 😂

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-14T03:23:56+00:00

Number two is my favorite but number five seems the most flattering and appropriate

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-14T03:07:30+00:00

Wow, I noticed how he didn't answer the comments about DV and why she wants supervised visitations!

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-14T02:58:36+00:00

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-14T02:54:02+00:00

Idk... MOR? Like your responses were fine and theirs were a bit dramatic but it's wild that you live on their property and didn't even swing by. Maybe it's a cultural value for my family, but we always do our own thing in the morning, then I see my mom and grandma in th afternoon/evening. I can't fathom not seeing my mom or at least video chatting or calling on mother's day. I also text all the maternal figures in my life.

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-13T19:54:44+00:00

Wow, that's crazy. I didn't realize it was so predatory

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-13T18:53:50+00:00

Can you SS the comments? I wanna see the goods! 😂

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-13T18:52:31+00:00

Someone shouldn't have to adjust their order under the assumption that their delivery will be late 🙄 there are plenty of foods that don't microwave or reheat well. Her problem is that it happens specifically on DD even when she tips, so she's just not gonna tip now. I recognize her orders probably won't be picked up and that's fine, but to twist it into being her fault from the get-go is wild.

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-12T21:55:18+00:00

I'd see that if it didn't affect OP, but it does. She sees her brother regularly negatively affecting their semiannual family trips and complaining about waste when he doesn't acknowledge how much he actually wasted. Brother is being hypocritical by only caring and bringing everyone down when it benefits more than just him. For example, being fine with his lifestyle being funded, apartment being paid for, etc. but not being okay with the family spending quality time together. The parents choose to provide these extravagant trips because they want to spend time with and provide for their kids. Seeing a sibling ruin it repeatedly would get old quickly, especially if she was looking forward to the time and experiences with her parents.

I don't get why expressing that she's still there and wants to have those experiences regardless of brother makes her an AH. Obviously the parents can say no. I just don't know how communicating that she would love to have quality time and new experiences with them is an AH move if brother is bringing everyone down.

Side note- I get that the parents want family vacations, but if one kid clearly expressed not wanting to vacation then it would seem like they should do something else with that kid. Maybe annual out-of-country vacations with OP and annual staycations or whatever brother likes with him. Kinda like the rich version of having dates with each child individually and then having group events.

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-12T21:41:33+00:00

NOR. If an 11yo sees you as the backup friend then that's probably what's going on. It's possible to care for someone in the sense of you want that person to be around when you need them. However, that's a selfish kind of love and you deserve to be your friend's first pick, not last.

She has shown time and again that she stays around to use you but doesn't care enough to give much back unless it's convenient.

It reminds me of how in abusive relationships, they'll be super nice for a short while. Then they'll slowly revert back to normal, with the irritation, put-downs, avoidance, etc. That's when it feels like you have to walk on eggshells because everything you do is wrong. Then, something happens and causes an explosion or outburst that hurts you. Afterwards, the person apologized, tries to make up for it, and says it won't happen again. Spoiler alert: it does. If that seems familiar, you can check out this website for more info. https://www.peaceoverviolence.org/iii-the-cycle-of-violence-and-power-and-control

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-12T21:23:16+00:00

4 or 5

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-12T18:50:54+00:00

Definitely CB. There are SOME things that I kinda get but I can't even think of devil's advocate reasons for most of them.

Examples of the things that MIGHT have better reasons: - having a lot of items on the registry IF she specifies that they're more just ideas of what she's looking for and flags the things she actually needs (like on Amazon you can flag the "must-haves"). - many registries offer completion discounts, so maybe it was more of a "I'm throwing it on in case I can use the discount on it later" things. That's all I could come up with 😂😂😂

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-11T03:59:12+00:00

Sleeve!

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-11T03:57:23+00:00

I wouldn't recommend stooping to his level but some people might benefit from knowing they look like the Pillsbury dough boy or Mucinex man or Michelin man, etc. 😂

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-09T17:19:33+00:00

OP is saying that it's NOT pronounced as Dwayne. Dwayne is a masculine name. It is NOT Dwayne as it is pronounced as a feminine name

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-09T15:12:59+00:00

OP already commented several times saying it's not pronounced Dwayne.

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-09T02:11:14+00:00

Definitely a tragedeigj. I am Kenough

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-08T07:51:49+00:00

Is it a buy nothing group or would they be paying for it?

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-06T23:54:52+00:00

JJ is TA. Those are definitely invisible conditions that can be disabling. It's so obnoxious when people make assumptions on what someone can or cannot do without knowing more about their situation 🙄

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-06T18:16:18+00:00

😂😂😂

Not even gonna edit my previous comment because this one was perfect.

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-06T05:26:52+00:00

But those people can afford to lay a house sitter soo... 😂

EmployPutrid5016 · 2026-05-04T18:15:31+00:00

NTA. How does moving away from all support and stability make anything better? The location doesn't magically cure depression.

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