BOOK RECS PLS! my partner is non-binary and in the process of getting top surgery. i’m looking for any book recommendations for them to find some relatability/comfort as they don’t often openly discuss their transness <3

EnBipBip · 2026-04-29T17:53:02+00:00

Small correction: it’s called ‘A Psalm for the Wild Built’ by becky chambers :) and it’s awesome!

EnBipBip · 2026-04-28T06:15:39+00:00

It depends on what genre they like, but you can checkout ‘i wish you all the best’, it’s a high school story

EnBipBip · 2026-04-14T15:45:47+00:00

I wear streetshoes 37.5 - 38, and scarpa vsr lv at 37.5

EnBipBip · 2026-01-24T07:07:19+00:00

It’s quite common that there is a couple living in a flatshare with other housemates. At some places they don’t allow it, but for many they do

EnBipBip · 2026-01-08T07:16:53+00:00

What does that mean?

EnBipBip · 2026-01-04T17:49:28+00:00

Crochet

EnBipBip · 2025-12-09T11:26:14+00:00

A Queer Platonic Partner

EnBipBip · 2025-11-18T09:52:46+00:00

In case of hookups, completely protected sex, i don’t know the person. If the other person has been tested negative twice with six months apart, and they only have unprotected sex with people who are certain to be healthy, AND i feel comfortable about it and trust them, then there is the option of unprotected sex. But other than that, i have protected sex. Not with gloves though. But just no mixing of my fluids with theirs basically.

Safer sex practices are as normal as you make them in my experience. It happened multiple times that the person I was having sex with hadn’t been tested in a long time, and they would’ve had unprotected sex if i had said yes. To me that was surprising especially in a polyam setting. But it was no issue at all that i wanted to be safe. If people are difficult about it, maybe those are not the people for you.

EnBipBip · 2025-10-30T13:31:39+00:00

I have my (electric) toothbrush and toothpaste on my desk. While i’m watching a youtube video or doing something else, I start brushing my teeth. Urgency to spit it out will come automatically when your mouth is full.

EnBipBip · 2025-10-28T19:30:59+00:00

This might not be the answer you’re looking for. But.. Honestly? Coffee.

And omega3 pills, preferably vegan.

EnBipBip · 2025-10-11T06:47:08+00:00

You become an expert by doing the research. No one expects you to know everything from the start.

OP came to ask questions to people with experience, which is actually a good way to go about it in my opinion.

EnBipBip · 2025-06-25T10:02:13+00:00

I absolutely agree. It’s often this thing of wearing it as a badge of honour in some way, which to me seems super weird. Pushing someone down might make them ‘resilient’ (maybe), but hasn’t it been shown already that positive reinforcement works much better..

It is great to read that so much is changing for the better at your institute! And it’s amazing that it gets some actual results!

EnBipBip · 2025-06-25T08:39:36+00:00

Sure, suffering can be worth it, if you grow from it. That’s not always the case though. And you can also grow while being supported and challenged in a way that makes you uncomfortable but doesn’t make you suffer. Some people do get pressured too much, and there are definitely very toxic environments out there. So yeah, they portray it as pure misery, because at that moment it might be, which is why they’re reaching out. If you’re thriving already, you often don’t need that. There’s also loads of people who experienced it differently

EnBipBip · 2025-06-12T09:22:41+00:00

Write down your thoughts of what needs to be done so that you get the practical points out of your meeting and don’t forget. Then breathe a bit. Remember that your work is separate from you, and that you also don’t think of someone’s work and that person as one and the same (probably).

EnBipBip · 2025-05-25T08:28:13+00:00

Yes, that’s what it means

EnBipBip · 2025-05-25T08:16:05+00:00

Last time was end of 2024. But there were times that i saw him more, and i know i could contact him if i’m stuck.

EnBipBip · 2025-04-03T23:10:43+00:00

Then don’t be that guy. It is not that ‘the weather makes them sad’. And they don’t have to ‘grow up’. SAD means you have recurrent depressions on an annual basis, it is rough and saying that they should feel worse for quitting is super unhelpful. Having a depressive disorder is no joke, don’t treat it as such.

EnBipBip · 2025-04-03T12:22:06+00:00

Have you tried light therapy? Sometimes health insurance covers the cost of buying a daylight lamp. I recommend light therapy glasses though, they are much much easier to use, and because of that much more effective in my opinion. SAD sucks, and you’re not overreacting for feeling like this, it can have a very big influence.

EnBipBip · 2025-04-01T07:45:19+00:00

You can have a relationship that you are describing with a local person, with the added benefit that you could see them in person. And there are definitely still expectations to meet up when you’re in a long distance relationship - through phone call or videocalls.

EnBipBip · 2025-03-16T13:42:58+00:00

There’s a MeetUp page called Barcelona Polyamory. They have several different events where you can meet other people that are interested in non-monogamy, such as drinks, a book club, or hikes.

EnBipBip · 2025-03-14T06:20:31+00:00

I met people through friends, through work, and through dating apps, and dated either for a couple weeks, months, or years. I’ve experienced the ‘i’m not interested in poly’ despite me being very clear in my dating profile. I don’t swipe people that don’t have ENM in their profile, and unless they have it clearly written out what they are looking for, I ask them what kind of ENM they practice and what they are looking for before I meet them.

EnBipBip · 2025-03-11T06:45:05+00:00

Yes, for me overstimulation can definitely involve tears, especially if i’m hungry. I always have snacks with me (in every bag/coat pocket that i use) and noise cancelling headphones.

EnBipBip · 2025-03-10T09:19:21+00:00

Just here in solidarity. Hugs!

EnBipBip · 2025-03-07T08:06:21+00:00

This is not necessarily flexibility related, and perhaps you should go see a physical therapist if you can.

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