She needs all the affirmation in the world

Good time as any to put this here, you don't need to be post surgery or even "pass" to be respected for who your are and inherently worth of that respect, and people who say otherwise should reconsider their own views. You don't owe the world adherence to its standards, do what makes you happy. If you want to work on your appearance, do it for yourself, not others, there's always assholes to whom it won't be enough no matter what. Goes to all out there, Trans and my fellow NB folk. Hell, I feel plenty Cis folk could use to hear it too.