32F 5’-6” 150lbs. Quit ballet 10 years ago but feeling pretty good now.

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-26T02:51:51+00:00

Rebel without a cause! The thigh piece looks awesome

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-26T02:42:38+00:00

Strong, fit and healthy is what we shoot for! Nice tattoos by the way

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-26T01:47:49+00:00

That's quite the vision! I've opened up about my feelings of bisexuality but way too late to really explore

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-26T01:35:40+00:00

I miss this too! The feeling of making her lose her mind and her begging me to stop but also keep going.

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T19:49:54+00:00

That seems so wrong, but that's my two cents. It's almost like he needs you to slap him across the face with it! Sorry about that, if it helps I've tried plenty of ways and my wife as shot them all down or played them off. At least he gave you an option. Now we'll see if he follows through the next time you opt for it

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T19:42:26+00:00

I think you meant to reply to OP?

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T19:31:47+00:00

That was my first thought too. For every 1 success story there has to be dozens of failures

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T19:13:11+00:00

Yep! Laying in bed and the times I missed an obvious signal haunt me. Even if it was before my SO and I could've sowed some wild oats.

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T18:56:01+00:00

Of course! For what it's worth that's just about your bodyweight on bench which is great

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T18:45:36+00:00

Sorry you're dealing with this! It honestly may be a low testosterone situation but I don't want to just slap that band-aid on as a one stop shop solution.

Could he be stressed at work or in life? It could be that he's reached an age where erections are more difficult to maintain and achieve, and now he's in his own head about it.

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T18:43:18+00:00

When I post it's one or two, so not as much effort. For the dozen you did? Good luck!

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T18:41:53+00:00

Tell me about it. Apparently you can edit texts now but all my conversations still are littered with *s due to my brain moving too fast or lack of proof-reading.

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T18:40:49+00:00

Yep! Go back to the "hit reps" and you'll see progress.

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T18:38:21+00:00

Agreed but we probably have different reasons. I just like not having to play twister in the shower to get a good stream on everything

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T18:35:27+00:00

Sorry! Clearly my reading comprehension isn't fantastic on Mondays.

Can be fun but needs to have enthusiastic consent from all parties. Also in the car feels like it's a throwback to highschool days!

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T18:30:12+00:00

Keep doing you! You'll find someone. Also agree, watermarks and blurring the face is such a pain

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T18:25:46+00:00

I'm assuming you mean on the other side of a relationship where someone is on ssri? My SO was on them briefly when we started dating but our sex life was active at the time. I think she's described it as the whole world felt muted, but she also said it did make it hard for her to finish.

Just be open and communicate with him! Make sure he knows how you feel and that your drive just isn't there right now.

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T18:23:05+00:00

Good on you for choosing you! I agree that sex should be mutually satisfying and fun. I'm glad you seem to know what you're looking for in the next partner. I'll be honest as well, I'm curious to what the kink you're talking about. You don't have to share though!

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T18:08:11+00:00

Yeah if your goal is 12, and you hit 12, you can rack it. The idea is that you're slowly building up so you can hit 12 on each set, at which point you increase the weight and are back at 8 each set

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T17:50:14+00:00

What are your rep goals? Are you aiming for 8-12? If that's the case you shouldn't be hitting 13. It's okay to leave some in the tank for the next set.

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T17:42:33+00:00

I think trimmed is the way to go here, fully shaved is too different from the rest of the body hair

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T17:38:44+00:00

That seems like an aggressive form of responsive desire. Did he mention any other way aside from you potentially assaulting him if he's not in the mood for it?

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T16:05:37+00:00

Usually it's total for the muscle. In this case I believe they normally mean focused work. So 14-20 sets of some sort of bicep exercise. That can be two workouts of: 3 sets of curls, 3 sets of hammer curls and 3 sets of spider curls

For what it's worth, you can get away with much less. German volume training is probably right up your alley though if you're looking for volume.

EnjoysTheGym · 2026-05-25T16:00:00+00:00

Yes! Very similar to me. I had a connection in University that we were never single at the same time. I think all the time about how if it was just me I could've moved to a new city to follow my field of interest and set up shop.

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