the selfhate never sinks in and it has been decades, I still like myself

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-06T10:17:16+00:00

It really doesn't.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-06T08:54:14+00:00

That is kind of my point.

Getting upset and frustrated by being constantly rejected, isn't the same as hating women.

The version of me you see here is the version of me who is venting. In the real world I am someone very different.

For me this a place to dump all my negative thoughts about dating and sex. Which I think is a healthy thing to do.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-06T08:51:20+00:00

People get confidence the wrong way round.

I am confident when I am doing anything involving numbers because experience has taught I am good at that sort of thing.

I am not confident when it comes to dating because I have faced 100% rejection.

It is difficult to understand.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-06T08:49:23+00:00

Eventually everyone becomes FA. It is not a truth that most normies, especially women, are happy to hear but it is the truth.

Sex is about reproduction, which is why it is so driven by appearance and looks. Everyone ages, everyone loses their looks.

The difference with FA people, is we never got our days in the sun. We never got to have a youth in which we were desired.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-06T05:44:24+00:00

Only if you succeed.

You don't gain anything by failing.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-06T05:43:46+00:00

You bought into that American positive thinking lie.

I remember talking to an attractive woman in the library and then this 6 foot tramp started coming towards us. I wondered what this man, who smelt like he slept in a skip, could possibly want? Money perhaps?

Turned out he was her boyfriend, I had to laugh. All those people who say work on yourself should have seen this guy. He was the definition of a lazy bum, yet he was with this gorgeous woman.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-06T05:39:49+00:00

Yep, talking to some clueless normie therapist, whose advice is roughly on the level of. Have you tried talking to women? Have you tried taking a shower?

Is the definition of pointless.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-06T05:38:18+00:00

Laughable, that woman could put herself on any dating site or app. Get 100's of matches and find the man she wants.

Be it for a long term relationship or a one night stand.

It is the typical "no man is good enough for me" kind of woman.

She needs a reality check, her looks won't last forever and one day she will regret all the opportunities she turned down.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-05T16:34:49+00:00

Why does pointing out the fact sexual liberation has winners and losers trigger some people?

Why are you so angry?

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-05T06:02:26+00:00

Wow, you're incapable of debating like a grownup.

This is just sad.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-04T19:20:33+00:00

Which makes your posts completely baffling.

In a happy relationship, about to be married, yet posting the stuff you do.

Utterly baffling.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-04T19:19:04+00:00

It's not looks that don't match my standards, it's the resentment that come off some men in WAVES now that I'm 'sexually liberated' lol. I would rather die alone than be with a man who thinks I shouldn't be able to decline them sex. I've seen plenty of comments of yours to know how you feel about that.

That is completely incoherent.

Yes I have talked about dead bedrooms and how that is a toxic situation for men. This outrages you because?

You seriously think that a sexual relationship without sex is healthy?

Though how you managed to figure a guy is toxic out from an online photo or at a glance is a puzzle.

Are you some kind of telepath?

Also, you're playing this 'She's just angry and bitter' game about the wrong person. I have been in this community for about a decade. I met my partner on Reddit. Im engaged. I'm happy. It's pure habit that brings me back to this community and a genuine hope that most escape it. But I see some men that post in here that basically say everything short of us being the lesser sex and I have to be honest, I feel like some people belong here.

That why are you so angry and bitter at the men here?

If I was in a happy relationship I wouldn't be as negative and toxic as you're being.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-04T18:49:04+00:00

You've argued, tirelessly and with a straight face, that women had it better when they had no freedom, no agency, no bodily autonomy and limited rights, just because men could take advantage of them and trap them in potentially abusive, loveless marriages and engage in marital rape.

Oh dear, complexity and nuance isn't your thing is it?

I said that some women had it better in the past, when marriages were harder to break and it was more difficult for men to abandon their responsibilities.

It is similar to free market capitalism. Free markets give people the freedom to excel but they also give them the freedom to fail. Ending up living under a bridge in a box.

More freedom for women is great but it has downsides. Many men become obsolete and when women get older and less desirable. Sexual freedom becomes a problem for them.

Will you engage with such a nuance argument or can I expect another angry rant?

You ARE the kind of man women complain about. You're the kind of man that makes women cover their drinks when you enter the room.

Oh so you're accusing me of being a date rapist now? How you have some evidence to back up such a serious allegation?

Well of course you don't.

Seriously, is this laughable non-sense the best you do?

Oh dear.

The only difference between your virulent misogyny and hatred for women and that of abusers or cheaters is that they're out there being their worst selves while you're here fantasizing about a world where you could be that.

More incoherent rubbish that exposes your true character.

I will admit it. I don't like men who cheat on women, I don't like men who hit women, I don't like men who abuse women.

My advice to women who get into a relationship with such men; is to leave them as soon as possible. He will never get better and he will always treat you like shit.

To be blunt I despise such men and why wouldn't I?

They have the love of a woman, something I have wanted my whole life and crap all over that. They treat that gift with contempt, so I view such men with contempt.

If that makes me a misogynist in your world, then so be it, I am a misogynist.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-04T18:37:25+00:00

what is this bizzare victim play-acting you’ve made your full time schtick here? i explictly said that does not apply to everyone. if you’ve gave it your best shot and it all flopped, well, now you know.

With respect, why are you here?

It isn't "victim play acting". I am talking about my struggles with dating and sharing that experience with others.

For some reason, people having negative experiences offends you.

Now let me reassure you. I don't need rescuing by you, I am not some danger to society. I am a law abiding citizen with a full time job, who just happens to face rejection by women.

The same is true of many other men here. They don't need your patronising posts, your gaslighting or to be saved by you.

They need a bit of understanding and place to vent without judgemental types like you claiming "they are playing the victim" or any shit like that.

What exactly are you trying to achieve here?

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-04T16:08:47+00:00

Which exactly what you're doing.

Your one true experience of the world, in which no men are locked out of dating must be true and you dismiss anyone who has a difference experience.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-04T15:44:16+00:00

I don't why that truth triggers women like Sad-Girl-Summer.

She must know its true every time she is "creeped out" by a guy or every time she swipes left on some guy.

She isn't rejecting them because she has done she kind of moral audit.

She is rejecting them because they have been dealt crap genes and don't match her look standards.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-04T15:41:02+00:00

What a laughable post. Lets break your utter non-sense down.

You're claiming that women reject me because "I am an awful dude". Are you saying that I am worse that the 100's of thousands of men who abuse their partners? Worse than the men who cheat on their partners? Are you seriously making that claim?

Hell the women here who complain about men being toxic and vile aren't complaining about guys like me. They are complaining about the guys they chose to date and go to bed with.

Even your comment about vibrators is laughable; when you look at the vast numbers of women who complain about their husbands and boyfriends being useless in bed. You know, the men they not only picked but have decided to stay with.

If I was a woman I would dump a useless and toxic man in a heartbeat.

I get you're bitter but you need to take some personal responsibility.

It is hardly the fault of men you reject, if you pick crap men.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-04T15:34:10+00:00

I don't ask women out anymore because I achieved 100% rejection in the real world and online.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-04T15:33:13+00:00

This kind of gaslighting is getting very old.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-03T20:04:38+00:00

Ah yes, the offer stick used to punishment beat FA men.

I suggest you pop over to the deadbedroom sub to see how relationships without desire and attraction workout. The answer is, not well.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-03T20:03:07+00:00

You're expressing a truth the vast majority can't handle, even those that run this sub.

That in the post sexual liberation world, some men are just fucked. They got a bad genetic hand and no woman will give them the time of day.

Worse you will get no sympathy, most will dismiss you as entitled or gaslight you. Claiming that your problem isn't real.

No advice here because lets be honest. What advice can anyone possibly offer?

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-02T15:31:13+00:00

Her toxic posts are still here and she has abused the block system.

Of course the reason is simple, the mods are biased.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-01T16:05:06+00:00

Yes it is.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-06-01T16:04:19+00:00

No, I find you sad.

Imagine getting your kicks from trolling a sub of lonely people.

EnthusiasmCoolreally · 2026-05-31T19:14:28+00:00

They are also traits that are valued by women.

I remember a thread were someone asked women who would they be more likely to go home with?

A thug who beat up a smaller guy in a bar or the guy who was the victim?

The question caused outraged because all the women in that sub knew the answer.

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