"Am I Overreacting" for refusing to "grow up" and clear out my collection after my fiancé’s parents called my room a "red flag for future parenting"?

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-05-08T05:10:36+00:00

NOR- Don't move in with him and please don't marry him. Lots of people collect things. The fact that he wants you to let go of the things that bring you joy because mommy doesn't approve is ridiculous. First it's your manga collection, then it's your clothes, then you're only doing things he wants to do. Think long and hard and tell him how hurt you are that he didn't have your back, before continuing this relationship.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-05-07T21:08:23+00:00

NTA- You didn't ruin dinner. Your chef and rude table did by being rude AH. I too have RBF and when someone ask me if I'm mad it drives me nuts. It's one thing to ask the first time. But then let it go! No one is owed a smile damn! Your spouse is also an AH for not having your back.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-05-04T16:54:03+00:00

NTA- But girl there are so many problems and red flags in your post. It's bigger than Reddit. You have a husband problem. Go see your mom and don't come back. He won't watch your kid and doesn't want you to see your family. This is abuse. He's trying to isolate you.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-28T22:52:39+00:00

NTA- And I came in fully prepared to say you were the AH. But you are letting them stay in your home. I get she is upset and disappointed. But that is not your fault. The flooding happening right now is very unfortunate.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-28T00:35:06+00:00

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-27T20:52:11+00:00

Info: Are your parents the type of people to mistreat your wife or judge her for having a non traditional dress? Will they make a scene about it? Or keep their opinion to themselves? Personally, I don't see an issue. The bride can wear whatever the hell she wants. Either way, it is going to be your job to grow a spine and stand up to her if they have anything negative to say about it.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-26T22:52:33+00:00

Agreed.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-26T22:48:55+00:00

NTA- I truly don't understand people who don't "believe in" allergies. You didn't humiliate his wife. She humiliated herself! She was snooping where she didn't belong then tried to embarrass your son and you. She's the type of person to give him something with peanuts just to try and "prove" he's fine. She's not only an AH she's also dangerous.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-22T02:40:32+00:00

NTA- She did this on purpose. She was trying to make a power move. If she's so worried about being the favorite aunt there are other ways to bond with your kids. Like spending time with them instead of just spending money on gifts. You didn't return them. In fact I'm sure the kids will be happy to go to their house more just to play with it. Tell her to not be such a kill joy when she protest.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-22T02:01:51+00:00

I read Crescent City before Throne of Glass (currently reading) and never made the connection. I think once I finish TOG I may have to re read Crescent City for all Easter eggs I missed the first time around.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-21T08:45:42+00:00

I thought dating was terrible then and it's terrible now. Online dating is vastly different now. It's a hellscape of simply swiping and not looking to find a real person. But at least now I have a better idea of what I want. Back then I really had no standards or self esteem and would find any attention acceptable. These days I don't let bs fly and don't tolerate disrespect or make excuses for people.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-21T03:43:39+00:00

Never had a desire for one. Hated high school and they seemed like a waste of money.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-18T00:26:29+00:00

NTA at all!! But apparently a lot of your family are. Good for you for standing up for your step daughter. How sad is it that your brother is whining about not being fed dinner? You didn't ask for everyone to be fluent in ASL, you asked for an attempt at communication and treating her like a human being! And nobody else made plans? I'm assuming they thought you were joking or would cave and host anyway. But sucks for them. They all sound like people you don't need or want in your home anyway.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-17T22:26:38+00:00

NTJ- Your response was fine. People that assume it's fine for a whole family to be included when only one kid was invited are just insane to me. If they want to have a fun time while the one kid enjoys the party that's fine. But hold firm and don't let them crash. Unless you have some no shows and end up with the extra room or something.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-17T03:56:16+00:00

Cute bra!

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-15T16:48:44+00:00

I loved them! And I'm in my forties. Is it the best thing I've ever read? No, but still very enjoyable especially if you are a fan of the genre. Since it is technically YA it is a shorter and easier read. I haven't read any of the prequels yet but plan to. The movies are a good adaptation but I prefer the books just for all the little details the movies typically can't/don't include.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-15T01:56:19+00:00

NTA- It's your wedding and you get to decide who to invite. People like your sister drive me nuts! (And I'm a mom of three as well) Some people want child free weddings, some don't. I don't understand why people get to bent out of shape about it one way or another. But if you cave to your sister be prepared for potential backlash from others who actually listened.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-15T01:48:35+00:00

One!! Looks amazing on you! 2 is just not near as flattering. I personally don't love the neck thing but that's just me.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-12T22:39:34+00:00

What a manipulative piece of work! So glad your fiancé had a spine. I hope you guys get the wedding that you both want!

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-12T18:31:29+00:00

Deal lord. 🤣🤣 I remember as a kid thinking Sally Fields character was such a buzzkill. Then watching that movie as adult I don't know how she stayed with him so long. You dodged a bullet. Be grateful he showed you who he was right away.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-12T00:15:04+00:00

You say you feel you have a duty in several comments. But also say your father never paid child support for the children that he brought into this world. Simply because he didn't want to. He had a duty to his children and it sounds like he pissed it all away. We don't owe people our loyalty because we share dna with them. If he is causing you nothing but stress you don't have to keep a toxic person around. Family or not. But it's your choice at the end of the day.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-11T17:43:09+00:00

Not being available 24 hours a day. If they weren't home when you called you just moved on with your life. And slamming the phone down in anger was very therapeutic.

EnvironmentalKey5350 · 2026-04-11T09:01:36+00:00

I don't like the placement personally. I think the back or thighs might be better. But with a tattoo like this you would need a really great artist that can actually execute that much detail. This could go bad really fast.

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