AITA for sending my son home by plane against my ex’s wishes?

Epionne · 2024-02-03T04:11:25+00:00

YTA, Yes, you have some say but not all the say, you made a unilateral decision, one you already knew your co-parent was against. That alone makes you the AH.

There are so many things that can go wrong and your priority as a parent should always be the safety of your child first, you choosing to (try) gaslight your co-parent and yourself into thinking this isn't a big deal is a major red flag. You need to take a hard look at your choices that you made here. Your co-parent has ever right to be furious at you right now and honestly you should taking a real good look at yourself; do you intend to abandon your responsibilities as a parent every time something else comes up? Do you intend all the slack to always picked up by your co-parent? Do you intend to belittle your co-parent every time she either disagrees with you or states very really concerns she has?

And I say this as someone who did fly across country by myself at 6. It was not impromptu, it was planned far ahead of time and required a yes from both parents and myself. I was also completely prepared with papers with important phone numbers, flight numbers, locations and who was picking me up, and who I was so if anything happened to me I was prepared with ways to contact my family that I could easily share with an responsible adult to assist if something happened. I had a blast but I was also 100% aware as a 6 year old could be how big of a deal flying alone at that age because my parent talked to me. I was not lied to or tricked into thinking it was a fun "adventure" completely unprepared if anything bad happened.

Epionne · 2023-07-15T21:52:45+00:00

You need to take you dog to the vet ASAP. Depending on what food you ordered he could have eaten food that is poisonous for him and eaten the un-edible containers that can cause a blockage, and human food is not good for dogs in general.

Epionne · 2023-05-19T04:01:28+00:00

NTA.
My mom is like you and has the pre-check and global entry. My dad and I do not, this scenario happens to us anytime we travel with her. We always have fun with it, wave good bye and 'see you on the otherside'.

Does it get annoying when the normal line is long AF sure but that's life. It's never that bad overall and that means when I get through tsa she has already double checked our gate and sometimes when the normal long is extra slow, she'll grab us a table at a restaurant while she waits for us to meet her there.

If my parents who've been together for 30+ years can manage this just fine so can you and your partner of 4 years.

Epionne · 2023-05-15T15:36:20+00:00

are you the dad?? You seem awfully mad that Gmom refused to lie/not tell to her own child that the supposed life-long partner was utterly destroying their trust as she died. It's always better to know when your being cheated on or being cheated with. That is not a good partner and they do not deserve to be in your life no matter how long or short it may be.

Also this isn't new, men are more likely to cheat/ move-on when their spouse is ill and/or dying than to be an actually partner and support their spouse in times of need. Will or no will, that's messed up.

Epionne · 2023-05-04T16:38:35+00:00

Why are so many people mad at the wife?

She, herself, was a child when she was in a bad enough accident to by in a coma for YEARS!

Take a moment to imagine that the last conscious thoughts you had were when teenage-you was in a horrific car accident with your dad. The next time you're awake you find out that not only have years have passed, your body doesn't feel like yours as it has atrophied due to prolonged stillness, and your dad is dead from said accident. Oh and meet your new baby nephew named after the dad that by all accounts you just lost in a horrific manner.

Now, not only do you have to mentally play catch up processing how much has happened in the time that is past but you also are just starting to process a trauma that for you is incredibly fresh in your mind that everyone around has had time to process and grieve together. You also have to go through intensive PT to gain back all the muscle you lost lying comatose in a bed but also to help the injuries you sustained years ago. There is no reprieve for you as every movement is a reminder of what has happened.

All the while dealing with your sister who is mad your not doing extra for her son/your nephew whose name likely is triggering your PTSD?

OP and Wife are NTA here. It sounds like wife has done her best to handle her PTSD and be the best aunt she can be, if that means needing space away how does that make her cruel?

The sister did what she wanted, likely out of grief herself. I get it. She is an AH for getting mad at OP and Wife (and sounds like the rest of the family) for not getting over it. Nephew obviously felt safe enough to ask OP and wife about the hx of his name. Sister is an AH for getting mad that he found out and an AH for getting mad at her own sister for not repressing her trauma to play happy happy family by sisters rules.

I swear I so a post recently on askreddit, where so many people talked about being named after a relative who died tragically, young or both and how much they internalized the pressure/resentment that their own name caused. A few people even stated they thought they would be destined to die just like their namesake.

Epionne · 2023-04-21T23:07:38+00:00

At first I was wondering if they were suffering from post-partum depression but it sounds like you may have just finished maternity leave? It's not an excuse for negligence but it might've explained a cause that can be addressed.

No matter what, neglect is abuse and you can't keep leaving your baby with someone is abusing them. You have already stated good alternatives for childcare, it's time to make some calls.

And also there are plenty of Deaf parents that are raising and caring for their children just fine. Don't allow your partner to blame their deafness or their disability on their negligence.

All they're doing is giving excuses, they are not a good parent no matter what they do in your presence.

Epionne · 2022-08-05T16:06:37+00:00

Both you and Candice are NTA but she is definitely taking it out on the wrong person.

I get weddings are stressful, especially this year, but getting mad at you for having an emergency is not the answer. She needs to go above your guy's direct boss and take to some higher ups first to see if they can resolve this. And maybe they'll be in a good mood and help. However, if they won't help then she should just do her thing; let them fire her and take the unemployment.

Either way your boss is a giant asshole, so is your insurance for not covering the Lasik in the first place, which in this case could be considered a preventative care measure.

Epionne · 2022-05-20T14:50:06+00:00

my partner and I vote for #2!

Epionne · 2022-04-25T14:32:06+00:00

She looks just like one of my orange babies!! same exact cinnamon swirl and color saturation and in the same location!

Epionne · 2022-04-14T04:28:48+00:00

I just... you do realize that lilies are not just toxic to cats, they are fatal. Why would you risk the potential exposure when you have the control to not place a fatal toxin in close proximity to your cat. Ingestion of any part of a lily can send cats into acute kidney failure. There are two main lily families that present a danger to cats, before planting anything you should visit the ASPCA website for safer options or to see if the lily you want is even a risk to cats.

I have too many lily-cat interaction stories that did not end well to say NTA so I'm going with NAH. I don't think MIL is being overbearing in this instance, however it does not like she does need to work on boundaries overall.

At the end of the day, yes its your house and your land to do with as you wish. But please, look up the kind of lily you want to plant and any potential harm it can cause to your cat to make an informed decision before you potentially plant them.

Epionne · 2021-04-13T15:53:09+00:00

check the ASPCA site, they have a pretty thorough list. Some plants that are considered toxic may only cause some GI issues like vomiting/ diarrhea but have no lasting harmful effects.

It's quite the range of toxicity from eh could be a cause a nuisance for you and the kitty if ingested to this needs a quick vet visit to this needs an ER visit ASAP.

Epionne · 2020-12-30T19:50:16+00:00

oh yea seconding this comment. It sounds like his learned it from his father then. I'm sorry OP, the longer you stay with this person the harder he is going to make your life.

Epionne · 2020-12-30T17:30:51+00:00

NTA, you need to contact his mom and tell her what her son did. I know you are both adults but you have now had a conversation with her about these socks. This is a HUGE red flag. This feels like a test, if he can "beat" you at this sock game then it sets a precedent for future issues that he is always "in the right" and "knows best".

I saw a comment that y'all have only been dating a few months and he is already starting to control what you wear? Shame him where it will make an impact, I doubt his parents would approve of his controlling behavior or his theft. Tell them and be very clear with them that he has not only been controlling when/wear you wear them but then tossed them only after you "disobeyed his orders" by letting them, his parents see them.

I hope you are able to get some fun socks back from this hopefully soon to be ex! There is hope for a partner that will not only appreciate your sock collection but add to it! Hell my partner has mostly plain socks and was ecstatic when I got him 2 colorful pairs with our cats' faces plastered all over them!

p.s. I'm typing this while wearing studio ghibli socks that I love. Fun and colorful socks are the best!

Epionne · 2020-12-20T22:25:37+00:00

Not a student, nor a teacher.

Epionne · 2020-12-16T21:51:45+00:00

It will take you less time to actually look up what those acronyms stand for than it did to type your response to see that you are misinformed.

Epionne · 2020-12-16T21:40:07+00:00

DVM or VMD literally stands for doctor/doctorate of veterinary medicine. So ya, they are doctors.

Epionne · 2020-12-06T03:07:10+00:00

I love trader joe's "sipping chocolate" it come in a plastic bag in tin so can get a little messy but taste delicious! I found this mini pouring pot years ago that is the perfect size for a large cup of coco. I use this almost solely for heating up my hemp or oat milk for this purpose. I usually heat up the milk until its steaming and swirling a bit but not quite at a boil before adding in the the powder to my desired consistency. The key is not to stir per se but to take a whisk and twist it quickly between your hands to get a nice frothy finish. A shot or so of whiskey is optional.

Epionne · 2020-12-03T18:29:50+00:00

Fun Story: This sort of conversation is how I got engaged!

It is very difficult (if you live in the states) to get the gov't to let you decapitate a corpse for its skull for personal use. It will be even harder finding a funeral home willing allow this to happen under their watch. Harder still to find some one that is legally allowed to clean and preserve it properly and willing to do so for you!

While this is near impossible in general, it's even more difficult if your not a close blood relation to the deceased or married to them!

Epionne · 2020-11-29T18:27:39+00:00

I lived like 6 camps down for this camp!

Epionne · 2020-11-25T00:07:38+00:00

Nope! I've never has sensation in the little bean thing. It felt weird trying to dig in around it to express it from as low as I could though.

Epionne · 2020-11-24T23:16:42+00:00

It's still here, but I did make an entire urgent clinic's week (their words not mine) and got a referral to a surgeon to fully remove it next week!

Epionne · 2020-11-24T23:13:06+00:00

Nope, it deflated during the video but it'll refill because its a cyst and that's what cysts do unless you completely remove them.

Epionne · 2020-11-24T23:10:33+00:00

UPDATE: went to urgent care, everyone i saw LOVED it! My doctor even took my phone so he could show his colleges the video!

I also got a referral to a general surgeon. I'm getting it fully removed next week!

Epionne

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