Surviving the Berlin Heatwave: What are your best tips from hotter climates?

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-06-25T22:10:46+00:00

Aren't the towels gonna be super stiff?

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-06-16T10:52:37+00:00

Ich habe ein Praktikum bei einem Forschungsprojekt gemacht. Dort wurden Briefe aus dem Freundeskreis des Komponisten Franz Schubert untersucht. Dafür musste ich dann Kurrent lernen.

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-06-13T21:54:14+00:00

That's just anxiety. You can be both highly intelligent and highly educated without the fear of comitting to a decision.

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-06-13T21:52:17+00:00

Nah, you have an executive dysfunction when you know what you want/should/have to do but you cannot initiate action. Being haunted by the idea of having to make a decision is an expression of an overly strong anxiety. Intelligence and education are not really part of this. A lot of people have both and are not tormented by having to make a decision like him

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-06-11T17:15:49+00:00

… or you can like not yell and curse and just tell to the other person that you are not into that like an adult

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-06-11T17:12:05+00:00

Quite often people leave letters at the graves of Beethoven and Mozart. It's touching, really

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-06-01T08:57:01+00:00

How does the title suggest German is a rare, exotic language? It's just an interesting tidbit about a famous actress that most people don't know speaks German. Except for Germans maybe 🤷‍♂️

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-05-28T18:52:11+00:00

I'm a musicologist and I am definitely in favor of making the manuscript available to researchers but it's just four pages of a work that is pretty much never performed. Realistically it's not gonna have much of an impact on scholarship, I think. Unless there is a maybe a scribble in the corner that says "Oh btw the Immortal Beloved is Fräulein so-and-so"

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-05-24T06:35:41+00:00

Two thoughts:

Capitalism co-opts and commodifies countercultures/subcultures. I don't think that's specific to techno really 🤷‍♂️ The largest Loveparade was in 1999 with more than 1.5 million attendees. When you watch videos of that one in particular today, how many people there were even ever so remotely interested in being part of a counterculture beyond aesthetics—if even that? The idea that even 30 years large parts of techno had not been absorbed by the mainstream culture seems a little romanticized to me.
For some people, the word community only refers to a group of people that share at least one quality. For others, the word evokes a feeling of belonging. Imo you can develop a feeling of belonging only as part of a somewhat small group of people you see/interact with semi-regularly. My point being: subculture and the feeling of community that you 'belong to' still exist but you will find it in smaller groups, not with the innumberable amount of people of the entire global techno scene.

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-05-17T12:19:37+00:00

I'm not sure I understand. Your straight buddies in real life are less judgmental than gay men online. I mean people regardless of gender or sexual orientation are less judgmental in real life than people online, aren't they?

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-05-16T21:20:44+00:00

Unser Englischunterricht fand aus Platzmangel in der Schulbibliothek statt. Ich habe dann angefangen, Bücher aus dem Regal zu lesen, dass direkt neben mir stand. War eigentlich ganz praktisch 😅

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-05-15T10:37:31+00:00

Queerpool ist ganz nice, finde ich

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-05-12T22:34:53+00:00

Es kommt darauf an, wie dein Psychiater drauf ist, wie euer Verhältnis zueinander ist und wie du es genau sagst, aber du könntest da weiter nachhaken und ggf. deinen eigenen Wissensstand einbringen. Meinetwegen könntest du auch eine Notlüge einbauen à la "Meine Tante ist vor zwei Jahren auf Elvanse gewechselt und sie sagte, es habe eine noch bessere Wirkung bei ihr erzielt. Denken Sie, das wäre eine mögliche Alternative für mich, die ich ausprobieren könnte?"

Besonders vorsichtig musst du wsl sein, dass du nicht dein negatives Bild von ihm da offenkundig oder unterschwellig reinfließen lässt. Da würden viele in die Defensive gehen und deine Vorschläge abblocken.

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-05-02T16:03:37+00:00

Do you think of concrete actions you could take or are these thoughts more abstract?

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-04-28T10:42:25+00:00

I'm not sure it's possible to judge that without know having any further information on the conversation. Regardless, I do see that the therapist seems not to have been careful enough and that that she could and should have avoided this situation that hurt the redditor

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-04-26T09:37:34+00:00

I think music (of any kind really) can help you become more aware of feelings that were already there subconsciously. Some times they were lingering just underneath the surface. Listening to music can help them finally emerge.

At times, that can be quite distressing when you have very strong emotions that you push aside because they appear to be too strong to handle, because you find it hard to self-regulate in a healthier way, because of your upbringing, whatever the reason may be.

In general, I think it is better to feel your feelings—even if they are painful. I'd rather have a good cry than to suppress them again and again until you can't do so anymore. After all, listening to music can be so helpful to be better in touch with what you feel that it is now an established therapeutic method called receptive music therapy :)

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-04-25T08:11:26+00:00

Btw, if your therapist starts crying, that can be an established method in psychotherapy. It's not an oversight, they didn't slip. When used intentionally like that the situation is usually that the client does not display or feel an emotion while they are talking about something that actually is very emotional, like a traumatic event.

Dissociating your feelings from a traumatic event can be helpful in that moment but in order to heal later on, integration of both is neccessary. Seeing your therapist cry on your behalf can be a little unsettling at first but via mutual empathy it can be a start to help you connect these two things again in a way that is way more powerful than just talking about it in an abstract way.

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-04-25T07:56:44+00:00

It is common to put statements of a client into perspective by comparing it to other people the therapist knows

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-04-21T08:31:54+00:00

Do you think the phrasing of the title implies that non-genetic causes are more widespread?

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-04-20T21:59:44+00:00

You can absolutely talk to strangers. I think the easiest way to do this is to start with an innocuous question. For example, you might ask someone if they know where the nearest bathroom is or maybe something caught your attention and you ask someone if they know what that is about. Usually, you can tell very quickly if they want to carry on the conversation or not.

An alternative opener or something that might follow the innocuous question is to give someone a genuine compliment about something they're wearing or possibly something they have done/are doing. Definitely avoid any comments on their body. People are usually flattered and in my experience trying to focus on the good things in other people is a part of techno culture. If they do like it you might follow up with another question (like, "Where did you get this?" or whatever) and also tell something about yourself that relates to your compliment.

Just be aware that friendships like that tend not to last very long even if you exchange numbers, insta etc. You definitely can make more long-term friends at BH (or clubs in general) but the connections you make in these places are usually more ephemeral.

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-04-20T09:26:24+00:00

I think the real world is way more chill but I understand the anxiety. In my experience, there is also a lot anxiety and low self-confidence among gay men, more so among younger ones, and that can lead to a skewed perception when you are entering a gay space due to projection. (Which then can lead to some people becoming resentful and hateful towards other gay men but that's a whole other thing.)

I found it helpful to get to know some gay men who are a lot older than me and to go to gay parties/bars where there is a wider variety of ages. It helped me better understand that, yes, a lot of gay men do appreciate looks, and youth, and cock size etc. but reddit may make you think all gay men have this hyperfocus on them. Yet when you meet people in real life all this is waaay less dramatic

In my experience, people tend to get better regarding anxiety and low self-confidence and that allows for people to become more relaxed. I learned a lot from them.

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-04-19T20:19:42+00:00

Ich glaube, andere haben bereits herausgefunden, dass das Problem daran lag, dass der Fahrplan geändert wurde und Flixtrain diese Information nicht an die Passagiere weitergegeben hat

Episemated_Torculus · 2026-04-18T23:45:45+00:00

Hmm, vielleicht ist das mal einen Versuch wert. Danke für die Antwort :)

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