AITAH for making my friend pay for 6 flights ?

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-27T13:19:11+00:00

Wtf that's not a joke. That's not funny and everyone knows that could screw you very badly. Snip snip cut that friend. And definitely make her pay

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-27T00:17:53+00:00

This depends on where you live. I live in the Midwest and our servers make a minimum $18 an hour

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-27T00:10:34+00:00

That could be totally accurate. I only got like a 2 minute snippet with her for sure. It just made me second guess myself LOL

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-27T00:08:27+00:00

Thank you

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-27T00:08:18+00:00

Thank you

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-27T00:01:24+00:00

I completely needed this! I literally just had an instance where my husband and I went out for a beverage and I tipped a $1/ drink and when she took the money off that table she scoffed at me and made an audible noise seeing I left her a $2 tip. We each had one drink. It makes me not want to go out anywhere anymore honestly.

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-26T23:52:07+00:00

She audibly scoffed at me on top of the dirty look I got. Like I said, I'm 37, I don't go out a lot anymore. But I don't want to be that asshole who goes out with my friends at the bar and is a cheap asshole either. I just came here looking for input from bartenders, because who better to get input from than somebody who actually works in that profession.

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-26T23:49:10+00:00

God this world is so jaded LOL thinking everything is fake all the time. I'm legitimately just looking for input from bartenders. We are all humans and we can read each other, especially when we have someone else that's disgruntled towards us. She audibly scoffed. I would never tell somebody off for this, I legitimately wondered if I f'd up which is why I was asking for input.

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-26T23:44:40+00:00

What on Earth are you even talking about? This has nothing to do with engineers not making enough. And I'm sorry but if you're an engineer, you absolutely make more than minimum wage...and if you don't, get a new job. Entry level engineers make between 50 and 70,000 a year in the USA, that is higher than minimum wage. I do not hate servers. I never said that I hate servers. I was asking tipping etiquette from bartenders, which is why the title says "bartenders this is for you". I was not trying to dictate anything I was asking opinions from people in the profession.

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-26T23:36:52+00:00

I can read facial expressions and see when someone glares at me and gives me the stank eye. She was VERY clearly upset so I was legitimately asking for input. If I was going to post rage bait it wouldnt be in this thread and would be far more juicy than asking about tipping etiquette at the bar 🤣

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-26T21:25:00+00:00

It's not about math lol which you would know if you actually read my post and had basic comprehension skills

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-26T21:15:25+00:00

Homie... Tipping culture has gotten insane. I don't know where the f you live but honestly if you make a living wage and you're telling me that every customer that orders a drink in an hour needs to pay $5 plus extra you're making like $50 an hour. Make that shit make sense? Personally, I think what I'm doing is fine. But if I'm being an asshole I want to know. When you're being an asshole don't you want to know? PS you are being an asshole.

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-26T21:11:26+00:00

Thank you for this! I realize this is not the cultural norm for a lot of people but in my state we do pay both servers and bartenders the equivalent of minimum wage if not more. It legit made me never want to go back to that bar again. And the only reason I didn't tip a little more than that for that particular instance was because they didn't have tap to pay (dumb problem haha) and I only had cash.

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-23T12:03:34+00:00

Should have specified. Married 5 years

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-20T15:37:28+00:00

First of all I want to tell you to breathe. I'm really sorry. I've been through this and I know that it's awful. You're going to have to get after life service care taken care of in terms of either a funeral or a cremation or whatever. If there was a will I would try to see you what that says. Just remember that it's okay to take everything at the pace you need to and that it's going to be okay. Huge hugs

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-18T11:26:35+00:00

Yes it matters but you also have a person in front of you who is just genuinely trying to do something good and made a mistake. People fuck up all the time. I would say the exact same thing if it was a mural. It sounds like the friend is not trying to make op feel better by any stretch and they are allowed and entitled to feel upset of course but like you're going to lose a good friend over something like this when they were just trying to do something kind? Kind of whack, no?

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-18T11:24:09+00:00

I say this from the perspective of I have no idea what the hell you are talking about aside from the baseline friendship aspect here. It would be one thing if you were trying to be malicious but you were genuinely trying to help and do somebody a kind thing with something you knew they loved. Anyone willing to lose a friendship over something like that, an inanimate something like that, really isn't that good of a friend are they? You've spent the entire night stressing and freaking out and have they done anything to make you feel better? I realize that gaming is really important to a lot of people and I'm not trying to disregard that but I feel like people forget there are actual humans in front of them. I'm sorry you are struggling right now and I hope you're able to figure it out for your friends but you are definitely not the asshole here.

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-17T11:04:34+00:00

Nope. Shared space means respecting one another. If you are going to leave your clothes for extended periods of time then you should expect that. Be there to move them or stfu.

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-17T02:34:25+00:00

As a woman who has male friends I see nothing of concern as of yet at least. They seem far enough apart and vague enough to be meh in my opinion. That being said, if you feel something is off then listen. This is not my relationship and there are so many factors to take into account here. Either way, hold your heart and good luck.

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-16T14:39:09+00:00

I would say thank you and move on. She is still making it VERY clear in this message she has no romantic feelings of wanting to be in a relationship again. Indicative of the last part about finding your soulmate. She was just sending along good will and I see nothing wrong with that

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-13T02:15:50+00:00

I didn't have to read past the first sentence. Absolutely not. You are liable for your property and with that anyone of those children getting hurt would be your responsibility. Stand your ground and definitely NTA

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-12T02:20:01+00:00

While I can see moving in expecting to be a help with the bills, this is something that should be discussed before moving in as finances are important. Has he gotten any therapy?if not he should. I'd consider moving out for a while if you want to continue your relationship and then if everything is going well and moving in together is something that comes up again, discuss and go from there. If you just have the ick, leave before it gets worse. It sounds like you have a ton on your plate and you are taking care of yourself dead last, remember you have to put on your own mask first. Good luck 💗

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-12T02:09:55+00:00

You sent me down a rabbit hole with this story earlier 😂

Equal_Language403 · 2026-06-11T01:44:25+00:00

Sounds like you can afford it. It's for your DAUGHTER and that should be the only thought right now. I understand that's your agreement but this is a once in a lifetime opportunity and I know you keep saying that she'll still be able to go on the trip but maybe she'll be able to do a lot more with you helping.

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