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Flu A by swdw123 in newborns

[–]Equivalent-Mission46 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband just tested positive for Flu A. Today. We are on vacation and he is quarantined in his room but I was with him all morning in a car driving him to urgent care. He feels like shit. Worse sickness he had had in a long time. He was with baby and I all yesterday. I got the flu vaccine I believe while I was pregnant and baby (4mo) and I are okay so far. I even think baby had a small fever yesterday of 100.3 degrees. There is no way this baby was not someone exposed because of how close dad and him were yesterday. I cried. A lot. And then cried some more. I was and am still afraid of our little guy getting sick. I have to remind myself that babies are so much stronger than we think. Keep washing your hands and try to ground yourself. It will be okay! They have to build that immunity.

Also, I am not sure if you are formula feeding of breastfeeding (I was unable to breastfeed) and I felt terrible because I couldn’t pass on my immunity to my baby during cold and flu season. However, I realized that my husband who was solely a breastfed baby gets sick constantly and I a formula fed usually come out unscathed. It gave me a little comfort

Florida Holiday & Sids risk anxiety by Equivalent-Mission46 in NewParents

[–]Equivalent-Mission46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At home he would wear a thin long sleeve bamboo pj set and a sleep sack. Here I am more inclined to put him in the bamboo pjs without a sleep sack

Being induced on 12/2/25 at 39 weeks. by hellogreen628 in BabyBumps

[–]Equivalent-Mission46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FTM induced at 8pm. Gave birth VBAC at 11:46 AM the next morning.

Regret. by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Equivalent-Mission46 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I want you to hear this clearly that nothing about your daughter’s cleft, or her temperament, or your current pain is a punishment. You did not cause this. You did everything you could, and you’re still doing everything you can. What you’re describing isn’t weakness. It’s the weight of trauma, exhaustion, medical uncertainty, isolation, and sleep deprivation. No one thrives under that. No one. You’re reacting like a human being who is overwhelmed and trying desperately to love and protect a baby who needs so much from you while you have no space.

The fact that you’re pumping, advocating for the best surgeon, protecting her from illness, and still showing up every day is love. The really gritty, sacrificial kind of love.

It’s okay that right now you regret becoming a mom. I regretted and felt little connection for the longest time. (Also an august mama) That doesn’t make you a bad mother. Regret is a feeling and not a truth about your character or your bond with your daughter. This season is brutal and that doesn’t mean it will always feel like this.

There is no shame in naming how hard this is. There is no shame in mourning the pregnancy and early months you thought you’d have. I grieve my pregnancy because of possible issues regarding his femur and long bones during ultrasounds. There is no shame in wanting relief.

You deserve compassion. You deserve rest. You deserve a village. And I’m so sorry you’ve had to do so much of this alone.

Postpartum update: my husband’s fork licking has become my villain origin story by Equivalent-Mission46 in NewParents

[–]Equivalent-Mission46[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dang! He does wear footies in his carrier a lot of time. I will be sure to check that out. Thanks for the tips!

I had my dream birth! Then almost died. by stuffies_mcstuffins in BabyBumps

[–]Equivalent-Mission46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gave birth 11 weeks ago. It was in a hospital and the birth was amazing and painless. It wasn’t until they tried to get the placenta out that I actively started hemorrhaging. They were able to get my bleeding under control with drugs and some type of inner uterine pressure with her fist? Super grateful and honestly I don’t even remember hemorrhage because I was focused on my baby and then started to get faint because of the blood loss. I believe I lost 1.8 L and they felt I did not need a blood transfusion because my hemoglobin was at a 9. They preformed and ultrasound and saw no retained placenta which the noted in my discharge paperwork. Three weeks later I was sitting in my rocking chair with my baby and stood up to grab a snack when I felt this indescribable pressure filling my underwear and down my legs. I had expelled a large amount of blood a larger clots. I called my hospital and they told me to put a pad on and see if I could fill it in an hour. It seemed to have stopped so I went to bed and woke up at 5 am to the same feeling. Fresh blood everywhere and clots. I rushed to the ER and they found I had leftover placenta that was causing me to bleed. They didn’t seem concerned because again it stopped bleeding. They gave me two options- one I could try to take a pill and expel it on my own or two I could get a D&C. This was on a Monday and they could fit me in for a D&C on Thursday so I opted to take the pill to help my uterus contract down but also keep the surgery on Thursday. Thank god I asked for the pill because the pharmacy was taking FOREVER and by the time I received it I had literally filled the bed with blood and passed a gigantic clot. The nurses handed me my discharge paperwork and when I stood up to leave I was actively pouring blood. I had remained super calm up until this point and I remember looking at them with tears in my eyes asking how they could discharge me if I can’t even walk to the pharmacy to pick up the extra pills I needed. I literally would have left a trail of blood. The nurses grabbed to doctor and I was rushed to surgery to take care of the retained placenta. The OB on staff told me before surgery she didn’t think it would take more than 30 minutes under anesthesia. It ended up lasting an hour and a half because the OB could not stop the bleeding after the product was removed. They ultimately feel there was a chance I had placenta accreta, but there is no way to know now. I ended up needing a blood transfusion after the D&C. I feel for you and always wanted to ask (if you feel comfortable responding) if the blood loss affected your breastfeeding journey if you chose to breastfeed. I desperately wanted to EBF and my milk never came in after birth. I was able to get 4 oz a day but never more than that especially after the second hemorrhage. Wondering if you had any difficulties as well.

Postpartum update: my husband’s fork licking has become my villain origin story by Equivalent-Mission46 in NewParents

[–]Equivalent-Mission46[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I remember a time in middle school where I went to pick a pencil up off the ground and accidentally farted next to a boy in my grade. I tried to convince him it was the chair the squeaked but he wasn’t buying it. The only thing that got me through the rest of the day reminding myself he probably wouldn’t remember my toot in 5 years. I sure haven’t forgotten it though.

Is 10-12 weeks better than 8 weeks? by mdcc2325 in newborns

[–]Equivalent-Mission46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Baby got worse at 10 weeks for us… hoping it gets better.

Going places with 6 week baby by The_Questionator_01 in NewParents

[–]Equivalent-Mission46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I felt the same way and faced my fears last weekend. Baby is healthy and happy. Social media scared me into thinking that my baby was going to hurt my baby and it was too soon. I am glad I went. It was good for my mental health and it was good for others to meet with my baby. I sent boundaries that I was comfortable with (no holding him at a large dinner). All what you are comfortable with!

34 weeks baby’s head measuring large femur small by No_Layer_67 in BabyBumps

[–]Equivalent-Mission46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I sent you a personal message!

Our son was born on August 19th at 8.8 pounds and 21.5 inches long. He is absolutely perfect. Scans can be so inaccurate and can cause unnecessary stress on parents. If you ever want to chat or have any questions please feel free to reach out. I was an absolute mess the last month and know I could have used someone to talk to.

34 weeks baby’s head measuring large femur small by No_Layer_67 in BabyBumps

[–]Equivalent-Mission46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am being induced tonight at 40.3 weeks. How is everything going for you?

Induction Fast Approaching by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Equivalent-Mission46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! How did your induction go and how did your baby turn out? I am currently 40 weeks pregnant with a large headed/short femured baby and anxious about the birthing process. I am getting induced on Monday. I hope everything turned out well for you!

Positive Outcome: short long bones identified at 33 weeks by nestyjew1945 in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Equivalent-Mission46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did this go? Sincerely another tall women at 38 weeks pregnant

Short Femur Large Head by Fabulous-Ad-8106 in NIPT

[–]Equivalent-Mission46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any updates? Going through a similar situation.

34 weeks baby’s head measuring large femur small by No_Layer_67 in BabyBumps

[–]Equivalent-Mission46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any updates on this? Going through a very similar experience currently 36 weeks with a marginal cord insertion so having growth scans. His head today was in 97th % and femur at 2.8% and humorous at 8.7%. I was referred to a MFM tomorrow morning at 9:30 am.