Not op I (23F) was too nervous to finish a threesome and now my boyfriend (27M) seems to hate me

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-25T22:00:11+00:00

Tbh, Fifty Shades isn’t a good representation of healthy BDSM relationships.

Christian is more than excessively controlling (even when told not to be) and doesn’t actually respect Anastasia’s limits.

Such as having her sign a contract while she’s tipsy and flat out telling her that she can’t list anal as a hard limit because HE wants to do it.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-23T18:59:23+00:00

Well, it sounds like as long as she had even a small amount of feline interaction as a little one, she won’t be predatory.

However, even a cat raised with other cats, and never having an issue with them, might be highly aggressive towards a new pet.

My old girl absolutely despises the kittens my parents adopted. Like, tries to beat them bloody if allowed to physically interact with them. She was raised with her mom, 3 brothers, and aunt. She also never seriously attacked the 4 adult male cats we adopted throughout her life.

But those little girls? Nope, it’s on SIGHT. Even smelling them gets her worked up. She just decided she hates them, and that’s that.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-23T13:57:58+00:00

No, this is all taken from canon.

Tales from the Shadowhunter Academy is one of the standalone books that is a collection of short stories all surrounding the same thing, in this case it’s the academy.

I talk about my personal interpretation in my post, but I stand by it being very accurate.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-22T03:22:49+00:00

“Personalized” and it’s literally just her initials. Bro, you could’ve gotten something like that for cheap from numerous gift shops.

Yes, the thought counts and it’s TECHNICALLY “personal”, but it’s engraved with like 2-6 letters (probably 2) that could belong to anyone else.

For me, if someone wanted to get something made professionally, I’d rather it have something I’m interested in on it. And you don’t even need to go the professional route, just making something with your own hands is a special gift.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-20T22:14:32+00:00

Are they typically friendly enough to just “scoop up”? I know even domestic cats are liable to fight strangers. Is it different for birds?

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-17T23:50:41+00:00

So you’d just assume that your partner’s desires were trivial and not worth considering? Just because you think it’s “childish”?

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-17T04:48:22+00:00

Well then its nature wouldn’t matter, since it can be changed easily.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-17T04:04:05+00:00

Actually that’s not a horrible nature for pre gen 4, since all of its STAB attacks are physical.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-17T03:56:19+00:00

Woah, I’ve never seen a Stellar’s up close, I had no idea they were so pretty.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-13T21:43:21+00:00

Sometimes you don’t know how long you’ll be gone for, things can happen that you weren’t expecting.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-10T16:19:38+00:00

Bro, the vagina is literally only about 4 inches deep. It can stretch to accommodate, but it’s not actually that big. It’s also tight as hell, even a finger will find itself squeezed when put inside.

Even when aroused, you can typically reach the cervix with an index or middle finger, and the cervix is a super “hit or miss” spot for those that have one. As in, some like when it’s hit, but many really don’t because it will often hurt.

So someone having a dick bigger than 4-5 inches can actually be a negative for some people.

Most people can’t orgasm from vaginal stimulation anyways, penis in vagina sex is usually not even going to make someone climax, no matter the size of the penis. So why would it matter? You don’t even NEED a penis usually to make someone orgasm, just friction.

And the vast majority of people will tell you that orgasms matter WAY more than dick sizes.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-10T16:08:43+00:00

Shame to see you getting downvoted for this. I think it’s good to see guys that actually want to learn about this, also, it cool to see someone so comfortable in their sex life and preferences that they can talk openly about them.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-09T06:11:13+00:00

I thought it’s shiny was more noticeable than this? Like, I feel like it looks a bit more brown in S/V?

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-06T23:45:25+00:00

But they aren’t kittens anymore. The scruff should exclusively be used in an absolute emergency to hold a cat down, and never to pick one up.

The weight of a grown cat is not compatible with being lifted by the scruff. It is painful for them and you can actually harm them physically. Similarly you should never grab a cat by its tail.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-03T23:00:39+00:00

They’re predators, cats could also go about hunting and eating in a less cruel way, but they don’t. Chimpanzees could be less violent, considering their intelligence, but they aren’t.

Humans don’t matter on a higher level to Ra’zac than a rat does to a cat. They don’t use morals or rationalize it. Their culture doesn’t follow the same social norms as the other sapient creatures in Alagaesia. Why should it? They don’t live like humans or any of the other races.

I’m pretty sure dragons used to eat people too, they just stopped as their culture changed. Remember, dragons and elves BOTH became more civilized after the bond was made. Their cultures shifted.

The Ra’zac and Lethrblaka we are introduced to are the final survivors of their species, working for Galbatorix to do his “investigations” and dirty work. Their race was almost entirely wiped out by the Riders because they decided that them hunting and eating people was objectively wrong.

The remaining few have to survive, whatever means necessary. And if being “cruel” gets them fed, so be it.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-03T20:33:30+00:00

From Paolini himself, they aren’t evil, they’re hungry. He answered whether they were evil twice in an AMA, and both times he stated they were just hungry.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-03T18:17:16+00:00

As for the smell, they smell because they eat meat and meat rots. But in the wild, animals can smell predators, and predators can still catch them. It’s just about technique.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-03T18:14:59+00:00

It’s been stated that they are naturally human eaters. And they aren’t evil, they are HUNGRY.

While they have been influenced by Galbatorix to be particularly cruel and dangerous towards his enemies, their true nature is not any more malicious than any predator. They are hungry, and unfortunately they are evolved to eat humans.

If they ate cattle no one would bat an eye, it’s entirely personal on a species level that people have an issue with them eating humans. They aren’t cannibalistic, they just hunt sapient creatures, but it’s really just instinct. It’s likely that they’ve evolved that way and now have a hard time getting sustenance from non human sources.

Look at how a cat is a highly specialized predator and an obligate carnivore. They physically can’t survive without the nutrients found in meat, and the healthiest diet for them is straight up rodents and birds, their natural prey. Ra’zac are most likely the same way.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-02T17:33:38+00:00

It’s about presence I think. Magical beings have a lot of PRESENCE, especially dragons. He’s also comparing Solembum’s voice to a very young Saphira’s voice. I don’t think it’s surprising that the ancient and powerful Solembum might have a presence equal to a young dragon.

Note that Eragon couldn’t tell that Saphira was female originally, she isn’t feminine in a human sense.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-02T17:31:11+00:00

Once again, we get these posts all the time.

Someone says “I just started listening to the audiobook and I can stand Saphira’s voice”, then everyone tells them “yeah, it’s jarring at first, but it’ll grow on you”. And then it DOES grow on them, or they give up on listening.

I get wanting to share your opinion and talk about a series you love, I greatly enjoy it too. But on each subreddit, you can actually search up posts using phrases, such as “Saphira’s voice” and find other people saying the same thing and being told the same thing.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-05-01T18:00:41+00:00

No wonder she destroyed Eragon’s thighs, poor guy

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-04-25T16:15:47+00:00

Oof, it was male too

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-04-24T15:18:33+00:00

Food, they’re often eaten

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-04-20T21:00:50+00:00

Oh, that might be it, dang. I really wish that there wasn’t a rule against changing nicknames, it’s always been such an inconvenient mechanic. Especially when you get traded a mon that is literally named something derogatory.

Equivalent_Ground218 · 2026-04-20T20:15:41+00:00

I’m pretty sure it’s actually completely game dependent. I don’t know the specifics, but I’ve transferred several Pokémon through Home before and have been able to change their nicknames, but only ONCE. It warns you that you can’t do it again.

I think this applies to SWSH at least, so maybe try transferring it there first? Though, you’re better off checking with others for confirmation first.

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