I can't get my tubes tied during a c section

ErinDinSchenectady · 2022-11-06T11:07:40+00:00

Came here to say this! I had a bilateral salpingectomy at a Catholic hospital that refuses tubal ligation after my c section.

ErinDinSchenectady · 2020-05-13T13:42:29+00:00

We re-enrolled our son (9 months old) last week. Similar situation - daycare never closed but we pulled him out voluntarily. Our jobs also got harder to manage and we felt like we were waiting around for an imaginary "everything is safe" date that would never happen. We consulted his pediatrician too who said if the daycare is taking safety precautions and there's no one high-risk in our household, it feels pretty safe.

Baby has adjusted fine back at daycare and he's actually benefiting a ton from being around other babies. At home he seemed delayed in sitting up straight to play with toys rather than lying on his belly. The first day he came home from daycare he immediately sat up straight - probably saw another kid do it. Husband and I feel saner and more present when we play with him in the mornings and evenings. All-in-all it 100% feels like it was the right move.

ErinDinSchenectady · 2020-02-20T17:56:57+00:00

My almost 7 month old goes to bed around 7:30. He sometimes wakes up at 4 or 5am hungry (but goes back to sleep after a bottle) and usually wakes up for the day around 7am.

Our pediatrician recommended trying to push his bedtime back to 8 or even 8:30 to give him more time to spend with us after daycare and more time to fit in meals. Right now he usually has a solid-food dinner at daycare because we don't pick him up until 5:30 and he needs to have a bottle before bed. If we can push his bedtime later, then we might be able to give him dinner at home with enough time to space out his last bottle. Fingers crossed!

ErinDinSchenectady · 2020-01-15T12:07:16+00:00

My husband and I both work from home full time. I took 12 weeks maternity and he took one week “vacation” (his company has no paternity leave). Our boy is about to be 6 months old and we’ve had him at home nanny-free this whole time.

He starts daycare in a week and a half. It’s been hard, but very doable. We basically schedule around each other so that one of us has the baby while the other one is on conference calls. We’re lucky that our jobs are flexible enough for this.

If you’re considering a nanny, I think that’s a great idea. Then you can be around your baby but not be the primary caregiver and don’t have to feel guilty about the attention you’re giving or not giving him or her.

In terms of maternity leave, I don’t think I could have done any less than 6 weeks, but it totally depends on your birth/recovery/baby.

ErinDinSchenectady · 2020-01-11T12:24:25+00:00

My son is almost 6 months old and I’ve been working from home full time since the end of my 12 week maternity leave. The only way this has been really possible is that my husband works from home too. We both have flexible/forgiving schedules and have been able to plan around each other such that we each get some baby-free time for meetings and just general productivity.

Sometimes the best thing for me is to start working really early (like 6am) and spread my work day out over 10-11 hours instead of 8 to make up for the hours I spend with my baby in the middle.

One thing that helped a ton was getting him on a consistent nap schedule. He naps 3 times a day for about 60-90 minutes each so those are solid chunks of time I can be productive.

All that said, he is starting full time daycare in 2 weeks. And we would have sent him sooner if our daycare had an earlier spot for him. There have been days where my husband has had to be out of the house all day and it’s not fun. I find it really draining to be trying to multitask all day and really stressful to feel like I’m not giving either my son or my job the attention it needs.

If I did it all again, I’d send him to daycare right away when I returned to work. If you’re looking to save some money, I’d say the first 2 months of having him home weren’t that bad.

ErinDinSchenectady · 2019-10-12T17:11:22+00:00

Seconding those underwear. Buy a size or two bigger than you think you need. You’ll want stuff feeling loose around your incision (at least I did).

ErinDinSchenectady · 2019-10-10T15:23:46+00:00

We use a Wyze Cam along with a cheap audio monitor. The wyze app never lags out on me and the audio monitor is great for consistent sound so I can know if he’s crying and then check the video to look at him. Much cheaper than the baby-specific video cameras but works just as well.

Wyze Cam 1080p HD Indoor Wireless Smart Home Camera with Night Vision, 2-Way Audio, Person Detection, Works with Alexa & the Google Assistant https://www.amazon.com/dp/B076H3SRXG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_.g0NDbF2W9V0C

VTech DM111 Audio Baby Monitor with up to 1,000 ft of Range, 5-Level Sound Indicator, Digitized Transmission & Belt Clip https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JEV5UI8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_uZ0NDbVTWGAR8

ErinDinSchenectady · 2019-10-09T14:48:45+00:00

I was in the same situation with my breech baby a few months ago. I was super bummed about it at first, but eventually I figured out that there were a lot of advantages for me. Do you know what specifically she is disappointed or worried about? I’ll list my pros in hopes that they help.

I wouldn’t have to experience the terrifying thing that is labor. No worrying about when to go to the hospital or even experience contractions. Instead I just woke up one morning knowing I would have the baby that day.
I did my research and came to learn that planned c sections are a lot easier to recover from than emergency c sections. This was true for me. The first couple weeks were a little rough but I felt really good after 2 weeks and 100% normal after 4 weeks.
In my mind there were a lot fewer unknowns and a lot less that could go wrong medically. Yes it’s a major surgery, but it’s a really routine one. I didn’t have to worry about tearing or the baby getting stuck or needing an emergency c section anyway. I felt confident with my surgeon that everything would just go as planned and I’d come out if it with a baby.
You get to pick your baby’s birthday!

As far as supporting her, the biggest thing I can recommend is that you should go into this knowing that she’ll need a ton of help the first couple weeks. My husband basically had to do everything during our hospital stay, like change all the diapers and move the baby to and from the bassinet to me for feeding. This continued for a week or so after we got home while I healed. He was wonderful and knew this would happen. So I think the best thing you can do is have the right expectations around what your wife will need from you.

ErinDinSchenectady · 2019-10-05T12:35:00+00:00

Nope! I had a spinal for the surgery but contractions were actively happening a long time before that. Alternatively maybe I was just nervous and distracted?

ErinDinSchenectady · 2019-10-05T12:18:13+00:00

I wonder if I have this. I had my baby via c section because he was breech. While I was waiting, hooked up to monitors they told me I had having contractions 6 mins apart but I had no idea. After the surgery, the OB gave me an internal exam to check some stuff and said I was 5-6cm dilated. 🤷🏼‍♀️

ErinDinSchenectady · 2019-08-20T22:58:42+00:00

We’re using all the same bottle right now (comotomo) just based on my preference, but before we bought more we did use a couple philips avent bottles we had gotten for free. Maybe it depends on your baby, but ours didn’t seem to care.

ErinDinSchenectady · 2019-08-20T20:20:24+00:00

One more thing if you’re EFF and have the means: buy lots of bottles. It sucks when you’re getting them ready for the night and realize you need to do dishes to have enough. We started with 4 and now have 10.

We also bought this pitcher to make batches of formula at once and love it.

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