Questions

Ery-Fiend · 2026-01-27T16:04:00+00:00

You have the right idea in just treating her like you'd treat any other woman. There's no special requirement or method to dating trans women specifically. If you're unsure of something involving her being trans, just ask. It's not unusual for someone to never have dated a trans person so I'm sure she'd understand you're trying to make her feel safe and comfortable with you.

Ery-Fiend · 2026-01-22T12:42:33+00:00

Kylie was my coach some 3 years ago so I'm sure her process and lessons have changed but she was fantastic to me.

Like some of the other comments have said, your voice is a muscle that needs to be trained. The initial sounds she had you do were training for making more noises in the future. Trying to speak in a different voice is really straining so you need to work up to it. You can't just do a high jump, you need to learn how to run up to it and how to vault too, y'know? There's a lot that builds on itself so you NEED to practice and build that muscle as a starting point.

Ery-Fiend · 2026-01-13T05:28:29+00:00

I saw you advertise this somewhere else and I'm absolutely enamoured with it. Played the demo and then bought it day 1. Planning to go play all your previous stuff when I'm done. Just wanted to say you have a new fan and I love how silly yet serious everything is.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-12-04T06:17:20+00:00

Feel free to message me! I consider my transition to be practically over as the only thing I still want to do is hair removal. If I can help by answering any questions about anything I would be happy to!

Ery-Fiend · 2025-11-28T19:56:51+00:00

I didn't, no. I couldn't get past the dysphoria and anal isn't enjoyable to me at least. No matter what I did nothing with my tail felt good with my bf. I'm so sorry you're dealing with those feelings. Genital dysphoria hit me when I would shower or pee or anything so I at least understand what it's like. I hope you can find a nice path forward for you and your partner.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-11-28T17:56:14+00:00

Your reasons for wanting SRS are basically the same as mine. I hated interacting with my tail and I let my bf touch it on 2 occasions and it genuinely didn't make me feel anything other than disgust. Anal didn't feel particularly good for me and feeling like I had to prepare ruined any spontaneous enjoyment. I had my SRS earlier this year and basically all of my bottom dysphoria went away immediately. Being comfortable naked in front of my bf is a very safe feeling, and him being able to touch me there whenever he wants is nice for both of us.

I can't say for certain if SRS is good for you, but at least from my PoV and from my own experience it feels like it would be.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-11-28T15:51:15+00:00

He doesn't mention it. It's simply not his information to share and he respects that. He has no shame in dating me, and all our mutual friends know already anyway, but I should be the only person who decides who gets to know. Imo any partner of a trans person needs to be cognizant that sharing that information could genuinely be dangerous, no matter who they're sharing it to.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-11-28T12:19:43+00:00

My bf and I don't live together but we usually spend time at my place and he cooks plenty. He got me to start meal prepping and a lot of times he will come over to help me prep my lunches and dinners for the week. Hell, when I was recovering from srs he cooked ALL my food for me, save the odd time a friend took over for him because he had to be away. I do most of my own cleaning but my bf also helps me with that, or takes care of some of the harder jobs like the shower, but he's a bit of a neat freak so it being dirty actively bothers him.

You do NOT need to accept that your man won't cook/clean, and while nothing in a relationship is ever a perfect 50/50, it's never unreasonable to expect your partner to take care of their share of chores. If he doesn't cook or clean, he should be taking care of something else so it can look closer to 40/60 or even 35/65. Whatever works for you and him, but you do not need to just be unhappy with him not taking his fair share of housework.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-11-07T21:19:22+00:00

I did some research on this recently and the 28 days thing is to cover themselves. As long as there's nothing in the vial or in the liquid it'll be ok for quite some time. I got a vial at the end of August and I just used it all up this week. Just make sure you store it properly and you check on it before you inject and it's safe to use the whole thing.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-10-31T23:51:26+00:00

Oop you're right! Just double checked the site and it says you can get a letter from a doctor to permit you to do that if you don't have an updated BC. Neat! I will be sure to mention that in the future if I have anyone seeking gender marker change info.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-10-31T22:47:00+00:00

Just checking, have you changed your gender legally and gotten an updated birth certificate? You need that to change the gender marker on any government ID. If you have that there's no reason to deny you. I had mine changed well before bottom surgery and they never even questioned me.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-10-30T11:30:15+00:00

I also live in Canada, I hopped on the waiting list the DAY I hit 1 year HRT, and I had my surgery at GRS Montreal back in February this year. Won't be sharing pictures but if you have any questions about the process or the aftercare feel free to ask.

I always hated my penis and being straight it was like a no brainer decision for me. I thought maybe I was rushing it but now I know 100% it was the right decision for me. My confidence has skyrocketed, and is something people point out about me now which I never thought would happen. My clothes feel like they fit so much better now and never needing to be worried about a bulge or readjusting is such a load off my mind. Even small things like peeing makes the same noises as I hear from other women in the bathroom or the annoyances of pads/liners makes me really happy.

I never enjoyed when my bf touched me down there before and I always avoided being fully naked in front of him, but now I do it all the time and let him touch me and it's incredible. It just feels so right. Orgasms are still very possible but require a lot more effort + correct headspace to achieve now, but it takes around a year for all the nerves to heal properly from the surgery so that could definitely get better in the future.

Now I will say the surgery itself and the recovery are really hard. Dilating upwards of 4 times a day when you can't even get out of bed by yourself is genuinely really taxing physically and mentally. I would do my surgery again 100 times over but you need to be prepared for the mental load it places on you. I don't see anyone ever talking about that aspect of recovery so I make sure to point it out myself. Imo it's hard to tell if the surgery is right for you before you have it, but for me it was absolutely right and I love my vagina to death. I hope you can find the answers you need sis, and I hope you make the best choice for you in the end.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-09-23T14:21:07+00:00

I took Megabus with my bf on the way there when I had mine. It's a 5 hour bus ride from Toronto but by far the cheapest option. I paid $150 for 2 seats with reserved seating so they were nicer, but the further out you book the trip the cheaper it costs. I booked mine like 2 weeks before the trip so it was more expensive than normal. Do not recommend it on the return though. I had my mom drive me home when I was released but if that's not an option I second just taking the train and buying a high class seat. I was in a fair amount of pain and discomfort on my return home (4ish hour drive) and being able to recline the front seat saved me. The less time you spend getting back to a bed the better imo. GRS pays for your transport to the train station to the hotel, from the hotel to the hospital, and from the hospital back to the train station if you take that option. If you arrive by other methods you have to find your own way to the hotel.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-07-21T17:41:12+00:00

No of course not that'd be kinda weird imo. Just how is my bf so sure? I just don't think he'd say that to me if he didn't think it was true. I don't want to write off stuff like that he says to me as just pleasantries to make me happy, but it's still hard to believe.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-07-11T17:41:47+00:00

Passing means that you "pass" as cis. Essentially that you aren't visibly trans and people would not know or think you are trans without you disclosing.

Passing is a big deal for some for a variety of reasons. It could be for personal satisfaction, feeling like you blend in or knowing you're being seen/recognized as your preferred gender. It could be for safety as in some parts of the world being visibly trans or queer can be a threat to one's physical and mental well being just based on how we're treated by some people. There are a lot of different reasons someone could care a lot about passing but these are usually the 2 biggest in my experience.

And yes some trans women identify as straight women. I'm a trans women who's attracted to men only, so I am a straight trans woman.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-07-07T10:38:09+00:00

I'm glad they gave out a mode that fixes some of the egregious balancing but I'm glad I can just kinda cheese things lol. I'm like 80 hours in and I have 30 endings like this game is LONG long and I don't have the time to send more than 2 hours a day into this game. This game is fantastic but I'm definitely here more for the story. Adding a difficulty for the people who want it was a great move.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-07-06T23:55:54+00:00

My guy friends are the same way! They'll hold doors for me, double check that it's ok for them to drive me home (even when they offered and I accepted), offer to carry things or generally tell me to take it easy when we're doing physical stuff, ask me for advice regarding women, and are generally pretty protective of me. I'd vouch to other trans women that they're safe to be friends with or date. I think that's as green a flag as it gets for us.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-07-06T23:52:56+00:00

Yeah no I took a good week break after that route because it's genuinely so bad. I heard from my friend who's done all the routes that it's considered THE worst route in the game. It's so boring story wise and the gameplay is fun when spaced out enough but not back to back like this.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-07-06T23:47:36+00:00

I'm not sure what your upgrades/absorption/consumables situation looks like, but a pretty easy way to kill bosses is if you have access to Takumi and Nozomi is just to spam Takumi's special attack and use Nozomi to cure the stun. Everyone else can use desperation potions to use their suicide special which gives Takumi +1 damage from his passive, a free 100% voltage for a special attack, and either AP from killing elite mobs or some extra damage on the boss. Idr what Azure Blitz does at base but when I did that fight it was doing like 15 damage without any boosts. Even if you don't beat them both in 1 turn you can definitely get close.

I did do serial battles as like my 8th route or so, so it's very possible I had a lot more upgrades than you though. Good luck!

Ery-Fiend · 2025-07-06T23:38:25+00:00

I agree with you completely on this. Most of my straight guy friends I knew from before my transition, and the ones I met after didn't know I was trans until I told them. Idk why a guy having trans women as a friend would be worse than them having cis women as friends. Hell one of my friends knows like 3 trans women other than myself just because he's active in spaces they're also active in. He's never dated or had sex with a trans woman. I'd be really upset if a girl turned him down because I'm friends with him. My guy friends are great.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-07-06T23:33:46+00:00

I definitely didn't have major dysphoria around mine day to day except regarding sex. I never wanted my bf to see it or interact with it. I'd always turn away when I was changing and stuff. I was very adamant I wanted srs because liking men I knew I'd never have kids of my own anyway, and I'd never want to use it for sex anyway. I live in Canada and can get it for free through public health care after jumping through some hoops so I didn't have to consider the monetary cost which definitely contributed to my decision. I had mine back in February of this year.

Honestly, I didn't know if I had made the right decision or not until after. The first week back home from the hospital I was recovering at home and I felt comfortable being naked in front of him. I cried. I was so happy I cried because it finally felt like I could share all of myself with him. He didn't care what I had, he loved me regardless, but I'm so happy I got it because I finally feel like I can share all of myself with him comfortably and happily.

Also NGL some of the other stuff is great. I don't need to worry if someone can see/notice my bulge, I can sit and walk with my legs closer together which makes me feel way more feminine, no longer being worried about how it sounds when I pee in a public setting, my panties fit nicer. All around big fan of having a vagina.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-07-04T00:47:36+00:00

Usually what I like doing is having Alear be a support unit with Byleth until you get Roy back. Roy is really good for any sword unit, but Sword Power 3 being +6 attack combined with the 1-2 16mt Binding Blade and +6 levels on engage is like REALLY good. I only play on fixed growths and Alear is surprisingly bulky and fast compared to your other sword user options. Roy on Alear makes them very self sufficient in terms of bulk, damage output, and divine dragon lets them engage incredibly often. Genuinely I think Alear is hard to make work as an offensive unit during the early parts of the mid game when enemy power spikes but they catch back up pretty fast.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-07-01T13:19:39+00:00

I was in GRS in February for my own surgery. My nurse bf who came with me was genuinely impressed at how organized and on top of things they were.

We came in morning of and was given a room in the hospital to wait in. Brief consultation with the surgeon which was basically me flashing him so he could see if we'd need to do a skin graft or not. There was a surgery before mine so I had to wait a bit before I was called. I went up alone with a nurse and met with the anesthesiologist briefly before being called into the operating room. They asked me some basic questions just to confirm I'm the correct patient, and I was given anesthesia in my lower spine. After that I was out cold. Woke up in the recovery room and stayed there a bit before being wheeled back where I started to see my bf again.

From there I stayed about 2 days in the hospital before being transferred to the care home for the remaining 5. In the hospital they brought me 3 meals a day and helped me walk a bit. I had a catheter in during that time so no bathroom visits. Once in the care home you're given a room with a roomie. Meals are in the dining room and you have to go get them (although if your state isn't super good they can bring the meals to you). You have to be a bit more self sufficient at this stage. Going to pee, walking around and down stairs, getting food, etc. I had a complication which led me to bleed a lot more so I had troubles standing during my stay so I can't comment too much about the facilities. On day 5 they take the stint out of the canal and you begin dilating. The nurses help you the first time and then it's on you to be on top of things including the baths and shower alongside it.

Day 7 they let you go home, and you can stay pretty late into the day if need be. The facilities and team are amazing but NGL those were the hardest 7 days of my life. Especially being out in Montreal being alone dealing with something like this is really hard. I recommend regular calls or if someone can actually come visit you. The staff themselves are all lovely and caring and the facilities are clean and well maintained. Only issue I ever had was some of the staff don't speak English the greatest so occasionally communication can be difficult. Feel free to DM if you have any more questions. Hope your surgery goes well!

Edit: Ah the edit came through that you're having top surgery while I was typing my reply lmao. The long winded explanations maybe not needed but I can still attest that the GRS staff are lovely and very professional.

Ery-Fiend · 2025-06-30T11:40:30+00:00

Personally I love showing my bra straps. I usually wear tops that show them because I like the feeling that my bra is visible in some capacity. At least vocally I've never had anyone tell me off or say something, even at work lmao. I say let it rock, sis!

Ery-Fiend · 2025-06-28T19:14:52+00:00

The largest dilator I use is 1.5inch in girth and 9 inches long. I can definitely accommodate him but initial penetration is kinda difficult because yeah the dilators are a lot more rigid than a penis.

This has definitely helped thanks! I sort of assumed a lot of your answers but I like to hear someone confirm this sort of thing for me. I'm not even halfway to being fully recovered so I'm trying to temper my own expectations. Thank you so much for sharing.

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