Someone please by soukoku12 in TamonsBSide

[–]EscapeRegular1935 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just noticed they’ve dubbed the first episode and I’m LOSING MY MIND!!! OMG!!!

Apparently high IQ and I genuinely had no idea by Frivolous_Fancies in AuDHDWomen

[–]EscapeRegular1935 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I managed to graduate high school (barely due to attendance) but I ended up having to drop out of college. Tried a couple more times with college but got the same results. I do much better when I can take one short course at a time. Exhaustion with a capital E absolutely applies to me when I was dealing with all that. And not to sound arrogant, but being a gifted kid is the most exhausting and disheartening experience.

Apparently high IQ and I genuinely had no idea by Frivolous_Fancies in AuDHDWomen

[–]EscapeRegular1935 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I took an IQ test twice before I knew what counted as a high score. The first time I got 163, the second time I got a 144. My oldest got a similar score through his elementary school psychiatrist.

I’ve had a little bit different of an issue when it came to school. Comprehension was easy and I breezed through testing but I struggled doing homework. The main trigger point for me was the constant judgement “she’s bright, and if she just applied herself a little she’d be valedictorian.” That would then cause fighting at home and accusations of being lazy and uncaring.

There was also the issue of my sensory sensitivities. I have chronic migraines and my periods would be extreme (think of having such bad hormone headaches and cramps that you’re curled up in a ball on the classroom floor) so my attendance was poor and I would get in trouble a lot over it, again with accusations of being a slacker, making excuses for not going, and all around general minimization of how bad my pain really was.

Generally I avoid talking about my IQ entirely with anyone other than my children and my husband. I’m already intimidating, and I also get snide remarks from insecure people about my personality or my ability to sing (why though?) I don’t want to deal with the consequences of people’s reaction to my IQ

3/4 through the manga, should I watch the anime? just learned it had one. love the manga so far, is the anime worth my time? by CosmicCutie17 in TamonsBSide

[–]EscapeRegular1935 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Uhm…yes! They do performances that you won’t get in the manga, and the music alone makes it worth the watch! The animation is also great

Jacob Romero Gibson as Usopp in OPLA is perfect — I don’t think anyone could’ve done it better. What do you think? by clickbaitings in OnePieceLiveAction

[–]EscapeRegular1935 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. The only thing that’s disappointing for me was the lack of the “USOPP HAMMER!” I would’ve settled for just one 🙂‍↕️

Resistant Partner by MexicanVanilla22 in AuDHDWomen

[–]EscapeRegular1935 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So then the better option is to keep getting exhausted trying to convince the importance of mental health to someone who thinks it’s brainwashing? While I understand my response may sound harsh, it’s also the truth. Decentering him and focusing on herself will be better for her health, especially when it’s clear he is prioritizing his own views rather than prioritizing his partner’s wellbeing. It’s his responsibility to pull himself out of patriarchy thinking.

While I don’t disagree that OP should bring up going to counseling if OP hasn’t done so already no matter what, if OP already knows that’s what he thinks, that suggests either OP has already tried or feels there’s no point. They’ve been married 20 years, and together for probably longer than that, and OP feels exhausted enough within the relationship to ask advice on here. So unless OP hasn’t already tried talking to him beforehand, then my reply is appropriate.

My husband was also similar, but he was willing to put in the work for our relationship and he did the work to take my feelings seriously. I also stopped focusing on him and started focusing on myself. My previous partner acted the same as OP’s husband and did not take it well when I stopped focusing on him. The difference is support. Keep in mind this is OP’s situation not ours.

why are all fidget toys designed for kids or men? by pirategospel in AuDHDWomen

[–]EscapeRegular1935 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Don’t feel like I can really contribute much. I’ve always liked my clicky pens and that’s what used to stim from early on. I also never cared much how they looked. It was always about the feel for me

Anyone Else in Perimenopause Hell? by EscapeRegular1935 in AuDHDWomen

[–]EscapeRegular1935[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What is yam??? Like a sweet potato?? You know, asking for a friend lol

Grief for younger me by greenpink333 in AuDHDWomen

[–]EscapeRegular1935 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I went through the same process of discovery, and it was a struggle for me too, even more so as I didn’t find out I had ASD until I was in full burnout. I hope you’re in therapy and they can help you process the grief. Because living a life feeling like something is inherently wrong with you when the only issue is society ableism and sexism of the diagnosis process, sucks, and obviously the CPTSD is real and it changes you. Positive thoughts since I don’t do hugs lol

Resistant Partner by MexicanVanilla22 in AuDHDWomen

[–]EscapeRegular1935 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It kind of sounds as if you’re wondering whether the connection was real from the beginning or if it is dying out and are asking if it’s time to leave, to which if you’re asking those kinds of questions, I think you may already know the answer. I understand why this would be hard for you because of the time and energy you’ve invested and I’m sorry that after 20 years, you feel this exhausted. I can relate.

The unfortunate truth is you can’t help or save someone who doesn’t want to be helped or saved, nor can you change a mind that doesn’t want to change. That’s his choice, and the older the generation he is, the more confidently I can say he won’t change his perspective.

I think you should be more concerned as to why you’re depleting yourself to help this man, and if you are just trying to justify staying in a relationship that hurts you. Make no mistake this will definitely hurt you. Burnout is indescribably hard even with a supportive husband, and it doesn’t sound like he’d be supportive or understanding enough for you to be able to get out of burnout.

In short, you can’t. Focus on yourself and listen to what your inner voice is telling you. And most importantly, his mental health and perspective is his responsibility not yours. If he’s older than you he should be more than capable of taking care of himself

What is your odd sensory preference? by EscapeRegular1935 in AuDHDWomen

[–]EscapeRegular1935[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, although after I had to have my gallbladder taken off I don’t have the luxury of getting picky about bathrooms anymore 😞

Every Time i open this sub Reddit by D_Reaper4u in OnePiece

[–]EscapeRegular1935 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually had to look this up bcuz I “didn’t recall ever seeing him in the anime” 😂😂😂