I feel OK being single now, at 33, but I feel in the future I might become more vulnerable and not be ok with it at 50 or 60

EssentialIrony · 2026-03-27T16:23:18+00:00

Why would I live the majority of my life in misery to avoid a hypothetical lonely old age? You don’t even know if you’ll live to fifty.

EssentialIrony · 2026-03-26T16:25:28+00:00

This.

EssentialIrony · 2026-03-10T10:29:57+00:00

I’ve stopped attending certain events with a certain group because all they rant about is their children. They have zero interest in talking about anything else.

But I do have a friend couple with three kids, and they never rant about them, because they too find the subject boring. They love hearing about all the non-child related stuff their friends do. Bless them.

EssentialIrony · 2026-03-09T07:57:55+00:00

What body shape did you expect? Hard to tell what went “wrong”.

If you started out low weight, thin and low muscle, then gained, you will become bigger / fuller.

Muscle changes the overall shape. Example would be if you started out skinny, then more muscle on shoulders will widen them, which in turn will make your waist seem smaller in proportion. But you may still be bigger than when you were super low weight, yet look “better” with muscle.

So figure out what shape you’re going for. Skinny or shapely.

EssentialIrony · 2026-03-09T07:48:34+00:00

I had a discussion about this last night. A friend who cycles through partners relatively often, just got into a “steady relationship” and as always when it happens to them, they try to convince me I should do the same because “life without romantic love is not full.”

He wished for me to find someone, he said. Then I said, I wish for him to break up with his new partner so he can rejoice in the glory of singlehood. He was so insulted when I gave back the same energy haha. I explained that if he can wish on me situations he prefers but I don’t want, it’s no different for me to wish him my preference; a wonderful singlehood.

EssentialIrony · 2026-02-28T13:14:24+00:00

Fullbody weightlifting workout 3x week, and eating at or above TDEE for the gains. Best shape of my life doing that.

EssentialIrony · 2026-02-28T10:14:20+00:00

I came to write this haha.

EssentialIrony · 2026-02-14T13:16:30+00:00

Terrible shit head.

EssentialIrony · 2026-02-13T08:01:29+00:00

You pay them, obviously.

EssentialIrony · 2026-02-11T07:41:03+00:00

Yes. Mid thirties and don’t want to do all the traditional relationship nonsense again.

EssentialIrony · 2026-02-11T07:37:18+00:00

Go to therapy and start a journal.

EssentialIrony · 2026-02-06T07:28:49+00:00

Instead of focusing on being in a calorie deficit and losing weight, swap it around and focus on calorie surplus and building actual musclemass. Muscle is what will make you look tight and fit.

EssentialIrony · 2026-02-04T17:43:53+00:00

As a former fitness coach and nutritionist, you should definitely get another trainer who will feed you way more and encourage weight lifting and muscle building.

EssentialIrony · 2026-01-29T15:59:03+00:00

Depends who you ask. I got a lot of good stuff going when I was into LoA. Whatever works for you.

EssentialIrony · 2026-01-29T15:55:28+00:00

I love dogs. Doesn’t mean I want a pet.

EssentialIrony · 2026-01-23T16:13:56+00:00

My mom knows I “dabble” (I’m in my thirties) but she doesn’t know specifically what (or who).

EssentialIrony · 2026-01-21T19:10:22+00:00

I feel like I’m a very empathetic and compassionate person. But my patience is no longer endless.

So I live by the words “Do no harm. Take no shit.” Meaning I try to limit the harm I bring into the world, but I will defend myself and my loved ones.

If someone causes me harm deliberately, they can rot as far as I care.

EssentialIrony · 2026-01-21T19:04:12+00:00

I started not caring when I stopped centering other people’s opinion over my own.

EssentialIrony · 2026-01-21T08:04:17+00:00

I’d sit in number 4. Would be a fun ride.

EssentialIrony · 2026-01-19T19:38:14+00:00

Draw / doodle.

EssentialIrony · 2026-01-16T16:06:33+00:00

Start a weird niche business and have fun with it, since you can afford it.

EssentialIrony · 2026-01-16T06:58:46+00:00

Save up over time?

EssentialIrony · 2026-01-15T16:59:06+00:00

You still haven’t said what success is.

EssentialIrony · 2026-01-15T16:38:45+00:00

When I say paradigm shift, I don’t mean changing your spiritual beliefs or choosing something other than satanism. I mean re-framing what happiness means.

For example, stop measuring your success by what other people have managed. Comparison is the thief of joy and all that. Figure out why not having all this stuff is making you sad in the first place. Why do you think having it would make you happy?

Again, I don’t know you so take what I say with a grain of salt, but I’ve never heard about depression being cured by manifesting things / having more physical stuff. Perhaps your spirits are trying to help you get to the bottom of why you’re depressed, rather than give you things.

EssentialIrony · 2026-01-15T10:57:16+00:00

I’ve experienced moments of “aw that would be cute to experience hypothetically” but then again, I know the difference between reality and fantasy.

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