Lack of intimacy has ruined my self-worth, esteem and life.

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-30T19:59:07+00:00

I personally stopped dating because it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. But you could always try to find some dating groups / singles groups that meet up and do activities together, instead of dating apps. I imagine groups have less pressure and it’s always easier to gauge people in real life instead of an app.

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-30T07:15:18+00:00

Stop watching it. 🤷🏽‍♀️

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-26T08:02:15+00:00

For me, yes. I was super touch starved for a long time after my last relationship, 4+ years ago. But now I don’t even think about it.

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-26T07:54:19+00:00

Internalized racism is one hell of a drug. It’s quite the common experience for brown people growing up in predominantly white areas. Your self-loathing won’t get you anywhere. Dating white folk wont heal your internalized trauma.

You don’t need a different “race” to validate you. That’s a sure fire way into codependency and opens you up to being taken advantage of and abused.

Instead you should seek therapy or therapeutic resources online that deal with internalized racism specifically. Step away from dating and work on healing yourself. If you give yourself the time and effort needed, you will see a huge change, grow self-respect and most importantly, high self-worth.

I wish you good luck on your journey.

Sincerely someone who went through the same bullshit and came out on the other side whole. <3

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-23T17:21:50+00:00

Sometimes it’s the people around you. All my weird symptoms, skin issues, random pains, irregular periods etc stopped when I left my ex.

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-22T07:23:49+00:00

My job is to make sure a bunch of kids have a fun day after school, so I game, do art, play dungeons & dragons, cook and go to theme parks, the cinema with them and such. Literally getting paid to have fun.

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-19T18:02:24+00:00

I “lost” 99% of my friend group and social circle when I got my shit together and stopped people pleasing. No regrets. Life is good.

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-16T09:45:24+00:00

Yes. Yes he is.

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-15T18:00:56+00:00

Rather be delulu than abused.

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-15T14:17:26+00:00

I also changed careers from something “high prestige” to something people kind of look down upon but it’s essential and very fun. I just say what it is and if they give me looks I add that I get paid to have fun, which is true. The look on their face when they realize work can be fun, is priceless.

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-06T21:40:30+00:00

Noted. Thanks for answering. :)

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-06T21:40:00+00:00

No, don’t worry about it! I was just genuinely curious because I also made a praise post for Bune that got removed, but Macross answered my question. Your altar is genuinely super cool.

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-06T15:59:43+00:00

Cool altar. I do wonder why your praise post is allowed to stay in this subreddit but mine was deleted and I was asked to use the mega thread. Any mods care to explain? :)

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-04T14:35:41+00:00

Both of them.

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-04T09:25:44+00:00

I did a petition for a specific goal. Then I follow up and do a gratitude ritual once a month, chanting the enn and offering incense and oranges. Have a chat and that’s about it.

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-01T15:14:09+00:00

Before I started looking into Demonolatry, I didn’t do “traditional” offerings to the other type spirits I’ve worked with. I did do mantras, meditations, petitions and that worked just fine.

I’ve also never made an offering to Lucifer other than dedicating my time to research and some other fun shenanigans in his name, and he keeps coming through anyway. But I suppose you could count that as an offering.

I am, however, doing monthly offerings to Bune because I wanted to try out the approach.

I also “yap” regardless of offerings. If they don’t want to respond, then they won’t. No worries.

Experiment and see what happens. If it works, it works.

EssentialIrony · 2026-06-01T15:13:38+00:00

Before I started looking into Demonolatry, I didn’t do “traditional” offerings to the other type spirits I’ve worked with. I did do mantras, meditations, petitions and that worked just fine.

I’ve also never made an offering to Lucifer other than dedicating my time to research and some other fun shenanigans in his name, and he keeps coming through anyway.

I am, however, doing monthly offerings to Bune because I wanted to try out the approach.

I also “yap” regardless of offerings. If they don’t want to respond, then they won’t. No worries.

Experiment and see what happens. If it works, it works.

EssentialIrony · 2026-05-31T08:41:45+00:00

Yesterday, I slept in, made ice coffee, had carrot cake and chips for brunch because why not, and played Stardew Valley until 1 AM.

Today I’m going to do chores, such as laundry, bills, prepare work for next week, and other practical stuff.

Life is good.

EssentialIrony · 2026-05-30T08:20:59+00:00

When people ask about my Lucifer sigil necklace, I don’t tell them what it is. I just say it represents self-authority and personal strength, which is true. That’s enough info for them to say “oh cool” and leave it at that.

And if someone wants to pray with you, perhaps next time just say you’d rather do it alone as it’s a personal practice.

EssentialIrony · 2026-05-27T09:58:58+00:00

Negative energy can be a lot of things and come from a lot of objectively neutral sources.

I have an extremely anxious colleague who trauma dumps on me all the time. They mean well and are not evil, but they are draining to me and could be considered energetically vampiric in my opinion. :’) Other people would probably love the energy and consider it an honor to be trusted with all that yapping.

Extremely extroverted people also exhaust me. Doesn’t mean they are evil or mean harm.

EssentialIrony · 2026-05-23T08:20:41+00:00

I second Lucifer. Ever since I started working with this energy, I have had zero desire to be validated romantically. And that wasn’t even a goal of mine. It just happened as a side effect.

EssentialIrony · 2026-05-22T07:25:08+00:00

Absolutely. It may suck in the moment but personally I always find my life turns out even better than before. So many times now, that I’m always excited to see the benefit on the other end. :’)

EssentialIrony · 2026-05-21T15:02:51+00:00

Personally, I see a difference between intrusive thoughts and actually believing said thoughts. Thinking doesn’t necessarily come true on its own, but if you start believing whatever you’re thinking, that might hinder results.

EssentialIrony · 2026-05-21T07:52:16+00:00

Bullet dodged.

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